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Has your sex life dwindled since beginning Nursing School. My husband says he is stressed out with work. We have a great relationship, rarely argue, hold hands plenty but no sex. I really think that me studying all the time is the problem, like the lack of time we used to have. Once I am done studying I am totally ready to go but he just wants to go to bed (to sleep). Anytbody else have a similar problem?

Specializes in Psychiatry.
Men are not biologically made to be with one person...we are meant to spread our seed freely:

Your mother must be very proud of you. Seriously. Why post something so offensive and ludicrous? Come on, this is an adult forum. I'll bet most of us aren't in high school anymore.

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Specializes in ER/OR.
Your mother must be very proud of you. Seriously. Why post something so offensive and ludicrous? Come on, this is an adult forum. I'll bet most of us aren't in high school anymore.

I apologize. It was said off the cuff in a joking manner, but really is not how I feel at all. Sorry for any offended. :saint:

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Specializes in Psychiatry.
I apologize. It was said off the cuff in a joking manner, but really is not how I feel at all. Sorry for any offended. :saint:

No biggie.

Rock on,

Diane

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Cardiac, ICU.
That's ridiculous! He should have been more understanding esp. given the circumstances and at least he was getting it once a week! I think men can be very selfish regarding sex and how much they want it without regard to their partner's feelings. They want what they want but do they stop to think about what their partner wants...no so much! Sorry but this is a sensitive subject that easily irritates me! :lol2:

Well, some of the poster's seem to think two hours is too long, so is it really too much to ask for 10, 15, 20 ,30 minutes to spend some time with your partner?

I mean, does it really last all that long anyway, lol?

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Your mother must be very proud of you. Seriously. Why post something so offensive and ludicrous? Come on, this is an adult forum. I'll bet most of us aren't in high school anymore.

Well as a nursing student maybe you should take an advanced biology class. It is indeed wired in us to try to impregnate as many women as possible. Biology is biology. The thing about being human is that we form societies and rule and codes of conduct and try to overcome our base instincts. There is a reason that basic behavior in animals and humans are pretty much the same. What do you think lust and jealousy are? A sin? No, it's a biological response. Unlike our animal friends, we have developed the capacity to overcome it.

It's not offensive or ludicrous. :)

If the world devolved right now for whatever reason, Armageddon or nuclear war and society was gone, what you believe to be ludicrous WOULD become common place.

Please don't judge people or apply standards of thinking on people that are incorrect. As you said, 'We are not in high school anymore.'

:)

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It is indeed wired in us to try to impregnate as many women as possible. Biology is biology. What do you think lust and jealousy are? A sin? No, it's a biological response.

If the world devolved right now for whatever reason, Armageddon or nuclear war and society was gone, what you believe to be ludicrous WOULD become common place

Not every man sets out to impregnate the masses, that may be your belief but that's far from scientific fact.

Lust and jealousy, in my beliefs, are 2 of the 7 deadly sins; I do not believe they have any correlation to biology. I believe they are a result of greed, greed for someone or something they should not be with or have.

I also believe this world has evolved, that many have lost (or never had from the start) their morals and that is why society is where we find ourselves today.

These are my beliefs, I cannot prove any of them nor can you prove your aforementioned statements. :wink2:

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Specializes in Med/Surg, L&D.

It is absolutely, absolutely important to make time for your relationship and sex no matter what is going on in your life.

First of all, when I don't take time for me and for my relationship I end up more stressed out.

I would like to believe that people can just deal with being cut off from sex and other intimacy out of their love and devotion for their significant other, but I really don't think that is so. I don't think everyone will cheat, but ignoring your partner completely is likely to lead to at least some strain on a relationship and some negative feelings

Sacrifices do need to be made for nursing school, but I don't think I would ever personally choose to sacrifice the quality of my marriage for school.

I may not have room to talk though, we have been having a lot more sex since I started nursing school. I think it is because it is a great stress reliever.

One last thought, which isn't intended to offend anyone or cause the controversy it probably will: if I felt I needed to cut something out of my life because I am too busy, I would absolutely cut out time posting in nursing forums online before I would cut out time with my husband.

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Specializes in Staff nurse.
Has your sex life dwindled since beginning Nursing School. My husband says he is stressed out with work. We have a great relationship, rarely argue, hold hands plenty but no sex. I really think that me studying all the time is the problem, like the lack of time we used to have. Once I am done studying I am totally ready to go but he just wants to go to bed (to sleep). Anytbody else have a similar problem?

No one has mentioned the possibility of the "problem" being physical for your dh. Is he diabetic or maybe another health problem he isn't sharing with you? Depression? HTN? Some conditions can cause ED...I'm not saying he has ED, but perhaps he is not sharing with you.

Just a thought.

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Not every man sets out to impregnate the masses, that may be your belief but that's far from scientific fact.

Lust and jealousy, in my beliefs, are 2 of the 7 deadly sins; I do not believe they have any correlation to biology. I believe they are a result of greed, greed for someone or something they should not be with or have.

I also believe this world has evolved, that many have lost (or never had from the start) their morals and that is why society is where we find ourselves today.

These are my beliefs, I cannot prove any of them nor can you prove your aforementioned statements. :wink2:

Tall order. Lust, Jealousy, Murder and Rage have been exhibited by chimpanzees in Africa. Hmmmmm.

Territorialism and jealousy have been exhibited among monkeys and other animals.

That's the problem with applying religious thought to scientific thought. It does not fit.

I didn't say every man sets out to impregnate everyone. I said it is hard wired and most people overcome their base instincts. You can argue religion all you want but a fact is a fact. Don't deny the very biology you use to practice in nursing. It would be hypocritical. It's the same as when a mother kills to protect a child. You think that is love? Nope. Every creature does it. :) Biology is a wonderful thing.

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Specializes in Psychiatry.
Well as a nursing student maybe you should take an advanced biology class. It is indeed wired in us to try to impregnate as many women as possible. Biology is biology. The thing about being human is that we form societies and rule and codes of conduct and try to overcome our base instincts. There is a reason that basic behavior in animals and humans are pretty much the same. What do you think lust and jealousy are? A sin? No, it's a biological response. Unlike our animal friends, we have developed the capacity to overcome it.

It's not offensive or ludicrous. :)

If the world devolved right now for whatever reason, Armageddon or nuclear war and society was gone, what you believe to be ludicrous WOULD become common place.

Please don't judge people or apply standards of thinking on people that are incorrect. As you said, 'We are not in high school anymore.'

:)

Whatever. We are each entitled to our own opinions. I respect yours so please respect mine.

Best,

Diane

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Your mother must be very proud of you. Seriously. Why post something so offensive and ludicrous? Come on, this is an adult forum. I'll bet most of us aren't in high school anymore.

Respect goes both ways :)

Respect - It must be commanded, not demanded.

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Specializes in Psychiatry.
Respect goes both ways :)

Respect - It must be commanded, not demanded.

StanleyRN2B-

You are correct it does. But you don't know me (thankfully) or have enough information to even make this assumption. And your comment about the Advanced Biology class was not appreciated. Why even make such a statement?

But remember, my first post was NOT directed at you so I have no clue why I may have ruffled your feathers. Don't really care either.

I won't be back to this forum.

Best of luck with your studies,

Diane

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