My husband won't let me do bed baths

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I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He looked at me weird and I told him we would be in shorts and a tank top. He said "Your not letting some guy practice on you!" I told him that it was a medical professional think and that it was not like the male student would be turned on or something. He said that the guy could and that no guy was giving me a sponge bath. I asked, "what if I was in an accident and in the hospital and they had to give me a bath?" and he said "I would give you a bath":madface: Has any one hand any problems with this? I better not tell him that eventually we will be learning to do cathaters...on males...

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I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He looked at me weird and I told him we would be in shorts and a tank top. He said "Your not letting some guy practice on you!" I told him that it was a medical professional think and that it was not like the male student would be turned on or something. He said that the guy could and that no guy was giving me a sponge bath. I asked, "what if I was in an accident and in the hospital and they had to give me a bath?" and he said "I would give you a bath":madface: Has any one hand any problems with this? I better not tell him that eventually we will be learning to do cathaters...on males...

I would have died if we had to do this in nursing school!!! i don't blame your husband at all for not wanting this. You can learn bedbaths by practicing on a petient, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to learn this! Practicing on each other sounds so weird. Sorry to be so harsh, but can't they just show a video and then let you practice on an actual patient???:uhoh3:

Specializes in Telemetry/Med Surg.
Do you work with any type of medical knowlege, work in the field?

Didn't think so, Nurses say far more graphgic and vulger things than this.

I bet your'e husband leaves you after 2 months home due to your'e offense to tit and butt.

Get off the couch, hell my mother only 4 days ago Died in my arms, I performed everything I ever learned.

Ok spouse, tell me what it's like when a persons bowels reverves on them and tell me what it's called. because sweet heart that along with 4 th stage cancer killed her.

Have a good day love.

FLYNN CMDV-1 H.B.O. DEMT.

Charming. :uhoh3:

Do you work with any type of medical knowlege, work in the field?

Didn't think so, Nurses say far more graphgic and vulger things than this.

I bet your'e husband leaves you after 2 months home due to your'e offense to tit and butt.

Get off the couch, hell my mother only 4 days ago Died in my arms, I performed everything I ever learned.

Ok spouse, tell me what it's like when a persons bowels reverves on them and tell me what it's called. because sweet heart that along with 4 th stage cancer killed her.

Have a good day love.

FLYNN CMDV-1 H.B.O. DEMT.

Theres no excuse for this behavior, you may not come to allnurses and act out this way. You will be banned, just an FYI!

Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.

I think he is a troll....do not address him. I reported the comment already.

I'm sure your right, and I also reported the posts.

Specializes in Oncology/Haemetology/HIV.

Hope this one is deleted or edited as well

The post is not the only thing that needs deleting.

(Not only that - Naples FL and Panama City are only several hundred miles apart - that is one BIG neighborhood to live in)

I'm still wondering... has anyone heard from the OP, I haven't seen her post in awhile, usually she post pretty regular. I hope there's not a problem!

NEVER MIND, I see that she has been here posting on some others threads. Glad shes okay.

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Surprised this is still going since the OP isn't participating in it anymore.

Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.
Surprised this is still going since the OP isn't participating in it anymore.

I think this is going on because it is unbelievable...the practices that some nurses do. The OP probably had it with us...between some people thinking that she should leave her husband, to some judging the whole relationship on one comment (it may be that the husband may not be so bad) and all, she probably moved on and let us pick the spoils, LOL:lol2: :lol2:

I certainly wish her the best of luck with whatever she decides. One of the things that we forget is that the whole family experiences nursing school right along with us.

I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He looked at me weird and I told him we would be in shorts and a tank top. He said "Your not letting some guy practice on you!" I told him that it was a medical professional think and that it was not like the male student would be turned on or something. He said that the guy could and that no guy was giving me a sponge bath. I asked, "what if I was in an accident and in the hospital and they had to give me a bath?" and he said "I would give you a bath":madface: Has any one hand any problems with this? I better not tell him that eventually we will be learning to do cathaters...on males...

nope - my hubby cuold care less but i envy you ythat your hubby would help yo if you were sick. pat him on the back and respect his feelings - your in clinicals - ask instructor to have females only - you will get enough male acton in the field and its not much different...... oncce you are a nurse and if you acknowledge his concerne once your a nurse maybe he will mellow out and relaize a male patient will be totally NOT into you cause they are ill. as for caths that wont come ( at least when we were in school ) till clinicals and it will likely be on a very sick elderly person you need to make a 25 page careplan to address every thing wrong lool. lucky you - i really am envious......

LET you?:uhoh3:

Might want to work on settling this now, though, or it'll just keep going on and get worse. He needs to get over the fact (and his insecurities with himself) that there's nothing sexual about any of the procedures.

(I wouldn't have problems with this, mainly because i wouldn't tolerate my huband acting like they're my father telling me what i can and cannot do, especially when it pertains to unavoidable aspects of my career, but that's just me.)

when one has insecurities - which he seems to have - he isnt just going to get over it - there arew ways to compromise - i am thinking by his statement the OP posted he is concerned abouther learning these skills on her fellow students who may be male- easy fixx - learn em on the women youll get enough in clinicals of men. as one poster posted never used to be women an men worked on each other anyhow - no reason it HAS to be - i would suggest she talk to her hubby - let him know her job is gonna enatil these things but she is willing to compromise and understands his fears - she can acknowledege that an she can ease his worries letting him know she will not just do it on anyone but when it comes to her job and having sick people she will HAVE to do these things and let him know how much she loves hm for being concerned. just my opinion.

I'm just not seeing why it is a vital part of nursing education to practice bed baths on classmates. Does anyone else see this as weird? Bed baths are not difficult - definitely a skill that could be taught on mannequins, or even during clinicals. When I was in school, my lab partner was a boy (one of 5 in our class) and my instructor wanted everyone to disrobe down to a sports bra to do breath/heart sounds. I guess she wanted to be damn sure we were putting the steth where it was supposed to be. Anyway, I refused - I felt (as did my fiance) that is was inappropriate to get half naked with a boy I barely knew. The only other skills we did with each other were making an occupied bed, transfers (bed to chair, etc), and blood pressures.

thhink i would have told the instructor she could disrobe and teach us from her chair casue no way in he triple toothpicks id have sat around in my bra - sport one or not lol. there is no clinical experience done in the classroom that you cant do on the same sex person that you need to learn in the classroom - anything else ie - foleys etc- now who in the honest to god truth would even agree to have someone practice that on them in the classroom - first off - its not a procedure that is practical to do in class - it can enter bactria into the urinary tract etc - we did do injections after working on oranges on each other but that was the only procedure that ws in any way invasive we did and we never did anything that needed disrobing - or even wearing shorts - things sure have changed if they do things such as half naked bedbaths on the opposite sex and foleys.

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