Originally posted by kittyw
Ok Renee .... how can we work to overcome this???
My stepmom would always give me the slient treatment for weeks when I did something "wrong". This might be something as silly as not jumping up from the dinner table & clearing it off as fast as she wanted me to. She also would tell me how bad I looked & she just hated my perfume (Beautiful). One morning on the way to school she told me that I just smelled terrible & she ought to let me walk to school & if I EVER wore it again she would make me walk. She would open my mail before I got it & throw away that which she did not want me to see. I haven't talked to her in 5 years - longest slient treatment yet!!
Now ... I'm trying to get my self-confidence back. When I go to see my attorney I usually end up crying. BUT I went yesterday & stood my ground (I've gone through 3 attorneys in my divorce case.) and did not cry! I'm getting there, slowly but surely.
Keep your chin up, kittyw. I went through three attorneys also when getting divorced from my ex, and if I knew then what I know now.....I wouldn't have paid out one red dime for an attorney because none of the ones I had were out for anything but themselves......$$$$$....that's all they see, unfortunately. I even thought if I got a FEMALE attorney, she would be more honest in handling my case, but she was the worse one of the three.
Save your $$$$ and do your own divorce case. You're only going to get what the law allows anyway, so why pay for what is already "lawfully" yours. Makes perfect sense, huh? :kiss
Many an adult today still carries around that little boy or girl that use to be traumatized by an "authority figure" from their childhood. It's hard to shake those images, those voices...yet it is something we MUST do if we are to reach our FULL maturation process as adults.
I had a psychologists ask me once during treatment "how old was I?" I said...Excuse me? She said, "I know you are 37, but how old are you really..........in emotional years??? I didn't have a clue!
Adults may be one age chronologically speaking, and a total different age "emotionally speaking" simply because of the way we were treated as children. Even if a child had a "happy childhood" and love both of their parents (or the sole parent in the home)...they still can be one age in numbers, and a whole different number emotionally speaking. (i.e. spoiled adults who want what they want when they want it because they always had it that way as children???)
The only thing we can do is be a support group to one another here, and try to help each other overcome some of those issues from our past.......particularly from our childhood. :kiss