Let me put it this way: I love music and I love to sing, and indeed I'd do it for a living if I could. There's only one small problem with that: I'm not very good at it. In fact, I have a terrible
singing voice, and the only place I dare sing out loud is in the car with all the windows rolled up, as my cat howls when I sing in the shower at home.
Soooo...do I keep taking voice lessons, hoping to become good enough someday to go on American Idol and win a recording contract? After all, it's my dreeeeeeeeam and I want it so bad I can taste it, so why not go for the gusto?
`ding` Reality check time: Because I'm NOT good enough. In fact, I can't carry a tune in a 55-gallon drum and never will, simply because I lack the talent for it. So the smart money says it's best to find a different passion and do something else. (Which is why I'm a nurse and a writer.
That's how I view repeated attempts to pass the NCLEX. If one can't pass the first time, I think it ought to be a three-and-out proposition. Plus I think that all three attempt(s) need to be made within a year of graduation, because the candidate WILL forget much of what s/he has learned in the interim.
I'm sorry, but too many people of my generation did a terrible disservice to their offspring by coddling them and making sure they never had to deal with life's unpleasantries. Unfortunately, at some point (stuff) gets real and they are shocked---shocked!
---to learn that not everyone finds them as special as they've been led to believe, and thus we have graduate nurses who fail the NCLEX a couple-three times and are genuinely befuddled when someone tries to tell them that it's time to give it up. Just because something is your dreeeeeeam doesn't mean it's within your reach. Says the nurse who can't hold a note to save her life.