My Aunt died of mysterious causes last Tuesday, she turned 59 on the day she died. My family is distraut and we're pretty sure her husband killed her......he tried to do it 11 years ago using prescription pills (he's a pharmacist). My mom had turned him into the FBI when my Aunt almost died 11 years ago, but they just gave him a slap on the wrist and he lost his job.....he went on to open his own store.
My Aunt had been through rehab recently and was doing fantastic. We could actually have a conversation with her and she wasn't slurring her speech, she made sense, and she said she was feeling fantastic. She said she had turned over a new leaf and was starting to live life to the fullest.
The details of her death are a mystery......he keeps changing his story. The first story was that she was having an anxiety attack, so he gave her "some pills". When questioned what the pills were he said "Two Atarax." My mom asked if her sister had a prescription for the pills and he said no, he just happened to have some and gave them to her. He woke up later and she was having a hard time breathing, woke up an hour later and she was not breathing, so he did CPR, called the ambulance, ect.
The next story he told was that he had just woke up and she was not breathing, he called the ambulance and they had said she had a pulse, took her to one hospital, then they shipped her to another hospital and they couldn't revive her.
Another story was similar, but she was DOA and they shipped her to a second hospital anyway (why they would ship a dead body to another hospital is beyond me).
There is a few more stories he's telling that are similar, but don't match up.
Anyway, after many calls, we finally get ahold of him to find out where the funeral is and if there's going to be an autopsy (we live 3 hours away). He said yes, there will be an autopsy and told us where the funeral was.
One hour before the funeral starts he tells us that there was only a chemical autopsy done. Well, that won't tell us if he put a pillow over her face while she was struggling to breath, or any other horrific things he may have done to her........
He certainly didn't act like the grieving husband of 40 years at the funeral. He was laughing and joking around. At the after funeral dinner he laughed and told people to go up and get more food because he had my Aunt's checkbook and she had lots of money in it......she was "buying". SICKO!!!!! Then when we were leaving he gave my mom a hug and said "I can do this alot now that I'm single". My mom gave him a shove, called him a few nasty names and walked out.
My point here is.........Why wasn't there a FULL autopsy done???? How can they get away with a chemical autopsy under such mysterious circumstances??? I'm afraid we'll never know the cause of her death and that he may be getting away with murder. This will eat away at my mom and my poor grandma for the rest of their lives if we don't get an answer. He said there won't be any results for 2 weeks.......we're trying to get enough evidence together to get her exhumed and have a full autopsy done, but aren't sure how to go about it. It's sad to think my Aunt may have to be exhumed, but how can she rest in peace if he killed her and got away with it. It's a sad and sick situation all the way around.........HELP!!!!!!!!
<I don't know at what point we should go to the police.>
Thats the first place to go with these suspicions. If you are afraid to talk to them, just print out your posts here & show them your story. If they dont do anything, talk to the District Attorney. You can call the police dept homicide division in her community or go to your own police & they will help you with that.
What are the funeral director, the hospital, & the coroner going to do if the police arent involved first? They probably wont even talk to you because the husband is the legal next of kin. You certainly wont be given any copies of her medical records and maybe not even the autopsy report. All you may get about the autopsy is what her husband tells you it was.
The police can get the coroner to do more extensive testing and can get information from the hospital hubby said he took her to. And if she turns up to have had drugs in her that he gave her without an MD prescription, Id report his butt to his licensing board for practicing as a physician and causing someones death.
But first things first - the police station to speak with a homicide detective.
I expected to see that after the chemical autopsy was done, the husband had her cremated.
Condolences to your family and I hope you get answers soon.
Last edit by -jt on Mar 20, '02