What does it take to earn respect?

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    I have been a nurse for 30 years and have done anything and everything to advocate for my patients.

    Why can a doctor.. scream at me ...when I ask for their guidance in a patient care issue?
    Joe V, Merlyn, BostonTerrierLoverRN, and 1 other like this.
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    Because they're a doctor. Duh.

    :P
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    Being 6' or taller and looking like you can lay down a whooping PRN.
    Epic_RN, CGB1, MJB2010, and 4 others like this.
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    I have been a nurse for 30 years and have done anything and everything to advocate for my patients.

    Why can a doctor.. scream at me ...when I ask for their guidance in a patient care issue?
    That is not even a matter of respect, in my opinion. It is a matter of basic courtesy. You do not yell at people you work with.... even if you do not respect them.

    I grapple with the acceptance of the rude behavior of some people I have crossed paths with. Coworkers shrug their shoulders and say, "That's just how they are" or "Don't call during the night, don't bother so-and-so, don't even try to..." I understand that my more experienced coworkers mean well but I do not understand why I have to tip toe around crabby people just because they will get crabbier. I believe people teach others how they want to be treated and, unfortunately, some have used loudness and brashness to teach people to compromise their own care and patient advocacy so that they will not be bothered. And, also unfortunately, people learn that lesson. I myself struggle with it.
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    I don't think you can ever earn the respect of a jerk. The best you can do is do your job well and let their inadequacies (b/c that's what it boils down to--nasty people are afraid of something) roll off your back. I don't believe in tiptoeing around those sorts of people.
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    Sounds like you won, I hope you know that. I wrote and deleted everything 3 or 4 times trying to say what I mean. Doctors are considered "Customers" of these facilities that tolerate their abusive personalities and God complexes. I don't think there is really anything we can do to appeal to the physician to change their behavior.

    I have however disagreed to work with a certain reckless, unsafe, and verbally abusive MD in the ER Dept. at my own risk of being terminated from an assignment, but after 3 more "Staff" RNs followed my lead, something drastically changed in his personality towards nurses. (no that didn't change his incompetence, but I'm addressing the topic).

    It has to be Administration that deals with these physicians that are Verbally Abusive. You also know docs that are so vital to the facility, they will never suffer a slap to the wrist.

    If I ever see a nurse act 1/3 as crazy as I have seen MDs act on the floor, they would have been Drug Tested, Written Up, and suspended/terminated on the spot. The Physician however is back in a Hospital Office the next AM waiting to cut on a patient, with Administration worshipping at his/her feet.

    There is no other "Profession" where in 2012, it is "culturally acceptable" to degrade, violate, and bully a fellow colleague, and upon reciept of complaint - address the victim as to what they can do to avoid this from happening again.

    It is complete atrocity that goes unpunished in Nursing everyday. Abusive Physicians should be considered in violation of workplace violence in my opinion.
    zofran, Epic_RN, Not_A_Hat_Person, and 22 others like this.
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    sincerely i am sorry that a season nurse like yourself has to be treated in this manner. therefore, for more the reason for us nurses to stand together and backup our colleagues when they are in the right. as i stated on previous post we need to stop the "lateral violence" in the workforce period.
    Epic_RN, CGB1, Over-the-hill-Nurse, and 12 others like this.
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    I was raised to be polite, and my behavior and attitudes carried over into my work. People usually treated me the way that I treated them, but not always.
    I did work with many doctors who had a "God complex". I remember one year when I was the evening shift coordinator in our NICU. We had a horrific, God-awful surgeon who would yell at everyone, and curse at his residents. It got to the point that when making out patient assignments, I couldn't get nurses to take care of surgery babies. The nurses that DID have these babies would scurry out of the room if they saw Dr. G coming in on rounds. If they stayed with the baby, they invariably ended up in tears by the time he left. So I'd meet him @ the front of our NICU, and follow him from bed to bed, answering questions.
    I explained the situation to my Nurse Manager, and she spoke with Dr. G. He came out with the "who, me?" attitude. Denied everything. Said he NEVER raised his voice or cursed. Then when he came in on rounds, he asked me if nurses were really afraid of him...I just stared him down, and he grinned. He knew that I wasn't afraid of him. And as much as he hated to admit it, he respected me for that.
    CountyRat, FranEMTnurse, VykingRN, and 1 other like this.
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    All due respect, we shouldn't have to win anyone's respect to be treated with dignity. Title or no title. Period.
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    This is still going on??? If someone starts screaming, walk away, call your supervisor, call administration, even call security.

    This behaviour is totally unacceptable.


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