The Type of Nurse I Don't Want to Become

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After completing numerous clinicals and working as an EKG tech, I have observed and often dealt with nurses that are a prime example of what I don't want to be when I graduate. I also concede that I am a mere senior nursing student with no real-world experience.

1.) Night shift nurse who sits on facebook: Since when did it become acceptable to go on a computer and use social networking sites whenever you don't have work to do. In the time that you have sat on facebook you could have filled charts, done further research on your patients' needs, read nursing journals, assisted another nurse or CNA, or just do something that might help the morning shift. Instead, you sit on facebook trying to see if anyone you haven't seen in a few years got fat.

2.) The "thats not my job nurse": This kills me because as a tech I constantly hear this. "Mrs. Smith needs to go to the bathroom can you help her so I can do the EKG?" The reply from the nurse, "Ask the CNA...thats not my job." The nurse should really take a step back and re-evaluate your career choice because by not helping me you are not helping the patient.

3.) The nurse who openly criticizes patients or gossips with other nurses at the station: Guess what, people hear what your saying. You are making a fool of yourself and instead of complaining how so and so didn't bathe this patient during their shift, why don't you do it yourself? Be a professional, do your job to the best of your ability.

4.) The nurse who uses personal problems as an excuse to not care: I'm partial to this because I'm young but I don't care that you have kids, I don't care that your child has the snuffles and you were up all night. If you are unable to successfully complete the tasks of your job DO NOT COME INTO WORK. I have no sympathy for you. If I was out late partying and had a hangover and used it as an excuse would you care? An excuse is an excuse, either do your job right or call out, you are only hurting the patient.

5.) The nurse wearing winnie the pooh scrubs in an adult acute care setting: Your an adult. Dress like a professional, talk like a professional, and people will treat you like one.

6.) Nurses who always apologize to doctors when they call them: It is a doctor's job to take your call, listen to what you say, make decions based on the information you give them. Get some backbone, speak intelligently, and stick to the facts. If you show them you are serious, they will take you seriously and not blow you off as some stupid nurse who bothers them at home.

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.
As someone who has both worked nights and has been on call being awakened at night it is basic courtesy to acknowledge that you interrupted that persons sleep or off work time.

I'm disappointed at how many folks are defending the doctor apology bit (but not surprised). This is one of the negative behaviors nurses are socialized into: apologizing to the doctor for "bothering" them. But don't worry, in a year the experienced nurses will have the newbie apologizing to the docs and offering to get them coffee. They'll work on her until she breaks.

An apology is offered if you have done something wrong; providing patient care is part of your job and if you are doing it right, you better call the doc when it is needed. That's not wrong people.

By apologizing, you automatically subordinate yourself. They then have the right to refuse or accept your apology and some of them do not. I've known nurses who were screamed at, cussed at and hanged up on, all the while apologizing and apologizing. And we're surprised when they are otherwise abusive. But that's the very work culture we have constructed and adhere to. Doc=deity who should only be bothered if absolutely necessary. Nurse=submissive and apologetic.

You don't have to be rude. You should only call them in the middle of the night if absolutely needed, that is common courtesy. I know the humiliation of calling a doc at 4 AM for something that should have been handled on days or in the evening and for that I have apologized when I called and was screamed at, etc(and maybe rightfully so). But if my patient has an urgent need and it happens to occur at 3AM? For that I don't apologize.

Specializes in School Nursing.

Maybe you should ask yourself what kind of person you want to be.

You come across as judgmental and superior. You seem to have no empathy for things you have no experience with like calling doctors, being a parent, etc.

Empathy goes a long way and hopefully you will learn as you grow in this world that one should never say NEVER because you will find yourself in these same shoes one day. It's always different when you look in from the outside.

Good luck to you.

I thought a baby was a he or she, not an it. Just sayin';)

HAHA, I was in a hurry and couldn't think of a better example. Okay, "my cat eats its food too fast and throws up" :p

Specializes in LTC, Acute Care.
If I was out late partying and had a hangover and used it as an excuse would you care? An excuse is an excuse, either do your job right or call out, you are only hurting the patient.

I would care! There is a certain level of amusement to be had by your coworkers watching you trudge through your day, trying not to hurl while smelling the cafeteria food or holding your head in pain with all the beeps and howls and other musical notes of illness emanating from your assigned patients. If you call off when you are hung over, you will deny your coworkers this, and I do care about that.

Specializes in ICU / PCU / Telemetry / Oncology.
Okay, "my cat eats its food too fast and throws up" :p

I thought a cat was a he or she, not an it. Just sayin' ;)

I'm disappointed at how many folks are defending the doctor apology bit (but not surprised). This is one of the negative behaviors nurses are socialized into: apologizing to the doctor for "bothering" them. But don't worry, in a year the experienced nurses will have the newbie apologizing to the docs and offering to get them coffee. They'll work on her until she breaks.

An apology is offered if you have done something wrong; providing patient care is part of your job and if you are doing it right, you better call the doc when it is needed. That's not wrong people.

By apologizing, you automatically subordinate yourself....

Yeah, and what's wrong with that? When we're asleep, we're not doctors or nurses or patients or anything, we're primal beasts satisfying important physiological needs. And when I interrupt that in a doctor or patient, possibly wrecking their chances for sleep for the rest of the night, I APOLOGIZE!

1.) Night shift nurse who sits on facebook: I'm thinking you spend - what 10 min getting an EKG and you know these people are sitting on facebook? I work nights and take my breaks in pieces and stay at the nurses station in case I'm needed. I can't get on facebook at work - nor would I, but I do get on this site and check out the news.

2.) The "thats not my job nurse": You will find that a nurse seems to be the catch all for everything. Heck one night I was the elevator operator since the visitor elevators were down. Here I am trying to pass meds and get a new admit settled and people need me to walk down to the elevator and swiped them out. Yes I could help you and everyone else with tasks that should be delegated, but then I need to explain why I still haven't hung that unit of blood or even said hi to the new admit that came up during report. Let's not even talk about the meds, vs and BGs I still need to do.

I could go on. But my point is that the few minutes you spend on a floor getting an EKG is not usually a good judge of the other 11+ hours. I think you have good intentions and I wish you the best. But I think you will have some better understanding when you do become a nurse. And yes there are lazy, rude and gossiping nurses. But they are the exception rather than the rule - at least at my job.

Good luck in school! :)

Specializes in Med/Surg, Geriatrics.
Yeah, and what's wrong with that?

I just told you what was wrong with it!! :D

I thought teaching was a part of being a nurse; if so, what do many of the nurses responding here think they are teaching the OP? I happen to agree with a few of the things the OP said and disagree with other things, but that's not what I want to discuss now.

It looks like there are a lot of responses that really come down pretty hard on the OP for specualting about aspects of nursing that she hasn't experienced yet as a working nurse. I agree that (depending on the topic) the perspective of a working professional can be more valid in certain ways than that of a student.

However, it looks like many of the responses have just ripped the OP to shreds - what is that going to teach her about your perspectives? Maybe that "nurses really do eat their young"? To those nurses who've slammed the OP, is this the way you deal with other "young" in your lives, like your teenager, or other people young in either their lives or in whatever path they are on at the time?

Specializes in Utilization Management.

"However, it looks like many of the responses have just ripped the OP to shreds - what is that going to teach her about your perspectives? Maybe that "nurses really do eat their young"? To those nurses who've slammed the OP, is this the way you deal with other "young" in your lives, like your teenager, or other people young in either their lives or in whatever path they are on at the time?"

I think the responses should teach the OP to be aware that things aren't always what they seem and to not make judgments based on one side, or one view, of things. Passing through a unit on the way to get an EKG is not really the best way to form opinions of what nurses do, or don't do, during a shift.

For one thing, I apologize, it wasn't really the OP that many of the posts were directed at that gave me an uncomfortable feeling; there were a handful of somewhat nasty posts directed at the OP, but more directed at each other.

What I'm trying to say is, the way something is said is very important, not only what is being said. It just looks like a lot of people here are kinda nasty to each other, some to the OP, and by "here", I mean not just this thread, but on lots of threads in this forum. Just to be clear, there are plenty of threads in this forum that are not filled with mean and nasty back and forth stuff, but it seems so strange to come across this kind of behavior in this forum in general. And yes, I know, a lot of venting goes on here, but really folks, lot of people have tought, stressful lives, and it is amazing to see the amount of rude behavior that pops up here!

Other professionals I know are not as a group so petty and nasty. OK, I don't mean all nurses, but a there are a lot of postings here that are petty and nasty.

Specializes in Nursing Education, CVICU, Float Pool.

I think the responses should teach the OP to be aware that things aren't always what they seem and to not make judgments based on one side, or one view, of things. Passing through a unit on the way to get an EKG is not really the best way to form opinions of what nurses do, or don't do, during a shift.

I agree that passing through a unit doesn't give you an Idea of what nurses do.

I never got the feeling that he really meant to be judgemental, now he got a little harsh when it came to the whole children and excuses things, but he seemed to just be pointing out things that he sees that he doesn,t want to do when he becomes a nurse. I can see where if you read it, the post could be offensive and seem judgemental, but I really don't think those were his inentions (after reading his later posts), but I dont know what point he was planning making so I can't say for sure. That's just what it seemed like to me.

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