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The long term effects of being fired

  1. 3 I have been fired once in my career. And it really hurt me in alot of ways. It has been some months, since the occurence, but I still get sad. Anyone else, with some long term effects of being fired???
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    From 'OHIO'; Joined Nov '06; Posts: 92; Likes: 49.

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  3. Visit  NurseCard profile page
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    I have been fired too, but I try not to let it bother me. I have had SOME small degree of long-term effect; I have applied for jobs at places that didn't look too kindly upon the fact that I have been fired from a job. Most places though, are needing nurses bad enough that they aren't too worried about it.

    What kind of job was it? What were the circumstances behind you getting fired, if you don't mind sharing?
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    I pm'd you.
  5. Visit  towntalker profile page
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    you shuld make applications to other facilities asap when yo stay off you lose confidence..yo have to get out there and prove that you are capable of doing this
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  6. Visit  marina17 profile page
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    Quote from Poochee
    I have been fired once in my career. And it really hurt me in alot of ways. It has been some months, since the occurence, but I still get sad. Anyone else, with some long term effects of being fired???
    YES..I HAD A REALLY BAD EXPERIENCE AND I DID NOT GET FIRED BUT LEFT AND THIS WILL TAKE A WHILE TO GET OVER IT.YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THE PAIN..I THINK IT IS A MATTER OF NOT UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPEN AND WHY..
    FOR ME I WAS ATTEMPTING TO DO THE RIGHT THING..WITH LITTLE SUPPORT..
    AT TIMES IT IS HARD BEING A NURSE..BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT CNA`S ARE THE BACKBONE OF EVERY FACILITY..IT CAN GET DIFFICULT DOING YOUR JOB,AND PLEASE IAM NOT KNOCKING CNA`S..I WAS ONE MYSELF FOR MANY MANY YEARS.
  7. Visit  oramar profile page
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    Years ago getting fired was an unusal experience for a nurse. Lately it seems to happen all the time. To me that does not say that quality of nurses has gone down hill. What I think has happened is that managment has become much more paranoid. You see, they have so much to hide and it is getting so much harder to hide it. I say to them, "go ahead and sacrifice the nurses in attempt to cover up your tricks, the piper will be at your door sooner or later to get paid". I wish I could gloat when I see one of you on the hot seat but I can't because it usually means someone got hurt.
  8. Visit  imagenthings profile page
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    I have been fired twice before and it bothered me so much my hair began to fall out. It made me feel imcompetent even though I knew that it had nothing to do with my abilities. I ran it over and over in my head for months and eventually let it go. The first time I was fired I was working part time waiting for acceptance to a BSc program. When I got the acceptance letter, I was so excited I told my employer who knew that I applied to school, and she fired me the next day saying I did not really want to work, I just wanted to go after books. She paid me $20 short on my paycheck and told me to get out of her place. The way she did it is what really made me take it hard. She kicked out like dirt and she did not have to do it that way.

    The second time I got fired I was working for this religious organization who were trying to press me into an arranged marriage. It got so bad there was an open confrontation. When I left for that day I got a temination message on my voice mail. That hurt because the person I worked for was someone I worked with for several years, you may even have called us friends. That was my major lesson in the difference between working with someone and working for someone. We had a lot of issues too around ethics and labor laws. I moved on.

    You will be fine, getting fired always hurt. It happens sometimes.
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  9. Visit  barefootlady profile page
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    I was fired from a position once because I enforced the rules of the facility. It was a farce from beginning to end. Taught me a lot. I NEVER trust administration now.
  10. Visit  suzi-Q profile page
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    I was "allowed to leave" or have some untrue things put in my file. I left. Not a traditional firing but for what it has done to me it might as well have been. It has taken a long time to get over it.

    I wish you well!

    I have posed this question before so if someone would like to pm me or is bold enough to post here - I am interested, for my own future reference, what kinds of things nurses are getting fired for.? And, yes I am still a little skittish after what I have already been through...
  11. Visit  Djuna profile page
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    I was in a violent relationship and I was fired because my work found out about it.

    I took the company to an Employment Tribunal and won a few thousand dollars for unfair dismissal.

    8 years later I am still traumatised by it, I am always paranoid I am going to lose my job and every now and then I cry over the whole incident and think how much of bad person I was/am.

    I completely understand why you may still be affected by your being fired.
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  12. Visit  YellowFinchFan profile page
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    Quote from Poochee
    I have been fired once in my career. And it really hurt me in alot of ways. It has been some months, since the occurence, but I still get sad. Anyone else, with some long term effects of being fired???
    Ohhhh!......
    It feels horrible and it's often unfair So sorry you are feeling down....
    :icon_hug:

    I was fired when I was 19 yrs old from a receptionist type job (I made the mistake to confide in a coworker that I was going to quit in a few months to go back to school) Well, she told the boss who decided to "let me go" ....business was slow etc...

    I was so naive at the time that I actually begged for my job and said to him "I really need the money" To this day I can still see him shrugging his shoulders like "so what"....I never forgot it and it hurts....

    But I learned alot from that experience ....
    1. never confide EVERYTHING to a coworker- you just never know...
    2. Get an education, get a better job, never let that happen again.

    Good Luck to you....Lots of people know how you feel! :icon_hug:
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  13. Visit  Ms Kylee profile page
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    Quote from Djuna
    I was in a violent relationship and I was fired because my work found out about it.

    I took the company to an Employment Tribunal and won a few thousand dollars for unfair dismissal.

    8 years later I am still traumatised by it, I am always paranoid I am going to lose my job and every now and then I cry over the whole incident and think how much of bad person I was/am.

    I completely understand why you may still be affected by your being fired.

    That's me... except for the relationship and going to the Tribunal. It stinks getting fired, but after the last one, it was a blessing in disguise. Had I not gotten fired, I wouldn't have my current job.
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  14. Visit  RedZeppelinRN profile page
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    Quote from Poochee
    I have been fired once in my career. And it really hurt me in alot of ways. It has been some months, since the occurence, but I still get sad. Anyone else, with some long term effects of being fired???
    Poochee: and every other nurse on this thread. Do I ever feel for you.
    Oracle said it so succinctly. A lot of nurses are getting fired. The corporations don't want to be found out.

    I have been fired from 2 different facilities because I reported dangerous and abusive care, not to mention the first one I worked at for a year. A "psych warehouse." The administrator would not take seriously what I was telling him, even kept copies of the things I had written to him. So he didn't correct the problem, and as State law mandates, if they don't, you are mandated to report abuses to the State. I did this when he did not take care of the problems. I was fired. Labor board said it was not retaliatory, even though he was placed on the "National Watch List" for actual harm to patients.

    I filed a lawsuit, the employment lawyer said he would take it as a contingency, that I was credible, that it would settle and wouldn't have to go to trial. When I went to see him, he said he was too busy and asked another inexperienced lawyer that needed clients to do it for him.
    I have a history of depression which was controlled on Prozac. When I was fired, I went into a deep depression for about a year. Then I went to another facility as a nursing supervisor. I found that a patient who had COPD and was in respiratory failure, had not been checked on on that shift or even her vitals were not taken. I had to call 911 because her vitals were off the chart. The DON refused to answer my phone calls about what was going on with my unit. I called as mandated by the State if the facility did not correct the problem, to call the State. I was again fired. I called my lawyer and he screamed at me to "keep out of trouble." Catch 22? Several months later he called for my permission to dismiss him from the case because he wasn't making any money. Then told the court he wanted the case dismissed because I was a problem client.

    He got himself released from the case, but I was served on 4 different court dates, I guess pertaining to the case and representing myself because the defendant demanded the interrogatories and discoveries I had given the lawyer that apparently he said he was getting permission for an extension for me to get a lawyer. Then the court ordered a sanction against me for $1220, and then said $1700 now, to be paid to the defendant in 15 days? For what? I can't get an answer from anyone. I am going to have to contact a public defender, but I understand they only take criminal cases.

    I have pretty much recovered from the disability and wanted to get on with my life and not get another lawyer. I don't even know what was going on, the lawyers would tell me nothing except just to wait. Then all this happens. I have a letter from State that all the things I reported were validated and the facilities were fined. I said, "where is the retaliation law?" Again no answers.

    So I thought, well, that tells patients in LTC that it's alright for corporations to abuse patients, not care for them and die, and then take all the Medicare/Medical for huge profits.

    I couldn't believe it. I knew the Corporations were ripping off these patients and making money at it, but it is just like saying this is okay to take money from sick and defenseless people.

    Then I was threatened by the lawyer that if I didn't do all these things and get a lawyer, if I lost the case, I would end up being fined thousands of dollars! What?

    This has really done somethng to me. I am trying not to sink into that horrible depression. The first time I was fired it was so humiliating, all the staff showed up right before change of shift and proceeded to laugh and hug each other, play their IPODS. I was on disability for depression for a year after that. Then when I feel pretty well recovered, I was hired at another rehab and had to send the patient 911. No one would talk to me about what was happening so as mandated, I had to call the State and they sent me a letter validating the wrong doing and lack of care of the patients, but I was fired for doing my job as a nurse. As nursing supervisor, who probably saved the woman's life, I was fired and the facility was cited. But I am the criminal. Her nurse or the cna who did not take the vitals as part of her routine were not disciplined. They are still working there. So if the woman died, who was going to take the fall?
    Me!

    This has really done something to me. I feel horribly about all mankind, but I do know that I have good friends and good people around me. I don't like this feeling of knowing how the lust for money turns them into monsters.

    Now ex-lawyers are portraying me as a nut, uncredible, because of my depression and firings. There is still that unchangeable, unmovable, unenlighted stigma against mental illness. I tried to tell them I was depressed, but not deranged or uncredible. I documented each time something happened. I followed the letter of the law, when the administration wouldn't listen to me, I called the State as I was required.

    My reward for possibly saving a patient's life and trying to take care of my patients was now I am a criminal.

    No one takes me serious. I have a history of depression, I am not psychotic, and or was stable until now, but I am treated like a leper. They automatically assign "crazy" to you if you have any mental conditions, or are depressed, and as I said, I was depressed, not psychotic. They just cavalierly throw around that you are crazy.

    This is the thanks for trying to help heal the ill?

    So, believe me, I know what each and every one of you is feeling.

    But as poochy said in so many words, you are fired because they are hiding things. I developed a low esteem, then realized, They were the crazy ones. I was trying to take care of the sick.

    I know this has been long and hope you eyes haven't glazed over, but just couldn't help myself. My therapist told me "it is traumatic getting fired," so God bless all of you.

    Red
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