Thank-you Son - page 4
Son, We made it! I know that there are going to be people that try to correct me on that statement, "We" didn't do it..., "I" did it. They are wrong. I'm just talking to you right now little... Read More
Sep 20, '09It is hard to type through tears. My little guy is seven and I am going through school now, too. I hope it is ok that I share this with my class tomorrow. It is mostly older mothers with 1-4 children. We all need a smile right now. Thank you...
Sep 21, '09Quote from LaughingStudentWow, that actually caused me to tear up but I can't let anybody see because I'm a man. Sniff, sniff. Girl, I'm going to let my kids know, too, that "just you and I" did it. That would not be true, though, as I had the help of my wife, both sets of parents, and a very good babysitter just 2 doors down. The wife and kids were my motivation and the favor I seemed to have with instructors, clinical nurses, loan officers, and peers made it possible to reach my goal. I"m so glad you reached yours. Best of wishes to you in all your exciting new endeavors. I pray for job success, marital/family success, protection for your loved ones, and happiness everywhere.So I have finally come to the end of a grueling 4 year BSN program, and likely won't be valedictorian, nor will have an opportunity to stand up and make a toast, so I figure that this a place where I can take the podium and speak.
We made it!
I know that there are going to be people that try to correct me on that statement, "We" didn't do it..., "I" did it.
They are wrong.
I'm just talking to you right now little guy. Don't pay attention to the other people here. I know that you have spent around 75% of your life mixed up into my mission. I want to start with some apologies first, because they are due.
I am sorry that the beginning of your life was rough. I didn't realize that when I gave birth at the age of 18, that I was merely a child myself.
I am sorry that you had to travel with me on my path to success, I would have given anything for you to have taken a taxi cab ahead to this future point in our lives. Unfortunately, life dictates that you walk by my side the entire way.
Now my little guy, I would much rather thank you....
Thank you for you kisses each and every night that you have given me, even when I was short tempered because I had to study, write two papers, and do an online group project.
Thank you for accepting my less than perfect parenting, when I took you once again to rent a blockbuster movie that you would watch 5 times in a row so I could study, write two papers and do an online project.
Thank you for eating canned meals on the go at an hour way past "dinner time", because I had to take an evening class.
Thank you for living in 6 different homes over the course of me pursuing post secondary education. I didn't do it intentionally, but I admired your strength in switching schools, and you always did it with a smile. I know how hard that is, and I know that you dealt with it better than I would have any day, all day long.
Thank you for trying, in the best way that you knew, to protect me. I remember, little guy, the last place we lived in. The one that was infested with bedbugs. You called to me from your loft bed..."they can't get you up here mum". I crawled into bed with my text book, and you snuggled in, and fell asleep with your hand curled under my chin. I cried myself to sleep, with visions of congenital heart defects, and hopelessness for what our lives had become. I don't believe that we got bit that night. Thank you for protecting us.
Thank you for Going on mum's "adventures". I know that driving to the car shop, going to the university registrars office, driving to pick up police checks, were not in anyway fun and adventurous. I kinda thought it was boring too. Thank you for being enthusiastic about all our adventures. They will only get better. Trust me.
Thank you for standing in line with me at the food bank. I thought those people were scary looking too.
Thank you for waking up at 4:30 am on my clinical days, as I carried you to the car in your PJ's, snow blowing every which way, so I could drop you off at a babysitters and make it on time to hear shift report. I am not a morning person either (and I hate snow).
On the topic of clinical days, thank you for switching your schedule to accommodate mine. I know that my internship was hard for both of us. I didn't know that I would be on straight 12 hour nights. Thank you for eating breakfast and lunch in bed next to me while I slept. I would never have had it that way, but paying for a babysitter around the clock was out of our grasp.
Thank you for bragging about your mom, during your grade two class "Family Sharing Day". Although you had the facts a bit mixed up, to this day still, the rumor persists around the school staff that I am doctor, I thank you for being proud of me
Thank you for helping me celebrate being on Dean's List, I absolutely enjoyed the popcorn and movie. I want you to know I was celebrating for you as well.
Thank you little guy (and I know that you hate it when I call you that, I realize, with no sarcasm, that you are a very big boy at 8) for holding my hand in a symbolic way during our entire adventure.
I could thank you until the day I died, for all your sacrifices, your optimism in life and your unknown (to you) support that you gave. There isn't enough space for me to type everything that we have been through. In the coming year, our lives are going to change. Mum is getting married, we have started looking at homes, I will be employed....
But, just me and you know what the journey was like.
We have finally made it.
Thank you Son.
Sep 21, '09That was amazing. Really and truly amazing. Thank you for sharing that. Sometimes I think we get so caught up in pursuing our own goals that we forget the sacrifices our children are making for us. Those little people have a way like no other of getting us through the toughest of times.
Thank you again. That article really touched my heart in ways I cannot even begin to describe.
Sep 21, '09Reading this brought back so many memories of my childhood, I can't help but cry right now. Sometimes while we are trying to make sense and conquer the stresses of nursing school, we forget that our family, especially our children are affected just as much as we are.
Great piece indeed!!!!
Sep 21, '09Really moved me to tears. As I read your story, I reflected on my own and remembered the priceless look of pride on my own 8 year old daughter's face on my graduation day. Every tear and grueling night and day was worth seeing that look on her face! I loved your "speech"!
Sep 22, '09Wow, you make me think of my own mother who went through a very similar path on her way to get her RN when I was only a small child myself.
She raised the three of us single handedly while completing nursing school. We too ate via food stamps - I can vividly remember some days where we only had dough to eat (She only had flour and water to feed us with). She always would do without to give us the best. I even remember going to a few of her college classes with her when I was in kindergarten. (I was very impressed!) It turns out I took the same path in life but had my boys a bit later (my firstborn arrived 3 weeks before graduation).
Thank you for sharing your story and bringing back memories of my mother and all the sacrifices she made too.
Sep 22, '09Absolutely beautiful! Congratulations on finishing nursing and your upcoming wedding! I truly admire everyone who puts themselves through nursing school....especially while raising a family! Save this for him for the future...he will definitely love it even more as he gets older =)
Sep 22, '09I am moved to tears by the sacrifices that you two made! Give the little guy a high 5 for me and I wish you both the best of luck!! congratualtions
Sep 23, '09I to am sitting here w/ tears in my eyes. I too, was a single parent going through nursing school. Your essay echoed some of the things I told my 3 kids over our "champagne" One thing that you may not realize yet is that you have taught you son the value of an education. All 3 of my children saw first hand how life can change for the better when you have an education. They have all gone on to college. Best of luck to you in your nursing career.
Sep 23, '09wow very touching to all of us who have lived this experience...I was a single mom much of my nursing school days and can remember the same stuff so I had to laugh about the whole watching the movie 5 times in a row (always was elmo for my daughter) and the quick dinners long after supper time (usually chef boyardee) and I live in northern MN so I remember well the mornings my daughter was a trooper and woke up at 5...6 am to walk out into a blizzard so i could bring her to daycare as i either went to work as a nursing assistant or did my clinicals...this article goes to show that our families especially our children deserve an award as well for dealing with us through school
Sep 23, '09This was so warming I posted a link to our nursing student's so they can share your story. Many face the challenges you have and they may draw strength from your story. Thanks for sharing. . .