Take this job and shove it, I ain't working here no more! - page 4

by Blue Roses 15,482 Views | 63 Comments

That was me three weeks ago. Since then, I have sought help in counseling, have started medication through my doctor, applied for several jobs, and have gotten a few job offers. TODAY, I accepted a job offer at an inpatient... Read More


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    I think not giving notice was warranted in this case. Omg, if she had stayed that two weeks, they would have caused her more h*ll than before. Op might not have even made it that two weeks. It was worth the risk..
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    In general, it's not good to quit without notice. BUT --sometimes it may be the right thing to do. And--nursing may be a small community, but often some will recognize a facility's bad reputation and understand why someone would quit without notice. OP -it sounds like you did the right thing to me. I think your old facility needs to shape up and stop abusing nurses --and patients.
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    NO JOB is worth you mental stability and physical health!!!! Get another job while you can....dont let the system kill you yet...you are still young. I worked in a hospital and found it so inhumane at times...so cold, so unfullfilling as a nurse to be there. but there are different types of people in this world.....the ones who just do the work, without a shrug or a tear, get the patients in and out and stabilized and the ones who take over after that work is done, The nurturers, like nursing homes and rehab centers which would be a good step down for you now until you can get another breath in your lungs from all this. Keep in mind that Nursing homes are not the way they used to be and you get alot of patients too, dont stay in bed fall alot get violent, upset, dont take meds. like a hospital patient would, 2 totally different worlds so be ready and dont lose it yet....there is still hope for you. Dont be like me, I injured myself over and over again at my job to the point of not being able to walk anymore....No one wants to hear you complain in the healthcare field, because thats all there is in the healthcare field...COMPLAINTS!!! ok, maybe there is a good day in there once in a while but you know what i mean.
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    i most likey i wouldnt write a letter to anyone or say anything. just suck it up and stay or go somewhere else while smiling! but i enjoy it very much when others quit without much notice and do tell these places off. if they are brave enough good for them. things are gotten away with because most people are cowards
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    Good for you Blue Roses! I applaud you for recognizing that you needed to make some changes. (I can absolutely relate). So many times as nurses we give our all in taking care of others, but neglect to do the same for ourselves. This July will be my 17th year anniversary as a nurse and I can't tell you how many times I've seen this happen, and it's a darn shame. Unfortunately, nurses are sometimes expected to be super human... Why can't we be in every patient's room at the same time or run up and down the hall for 12 hours straight without a lunch or bathroom break? Or handle every situation with a smile and pleasant disposition? We're expected to leave our personal lives at the door, or never get sick or appear anxious and frustrated... and on and on. (but I digress). The great thing about nursing is that there are a hundred different things we can do with our degrees. Keep it moving until you find the right fit, but try not to burn your bridges. You never know when you'll have to cross back over. We are not any good to anyone if we're all sick and broke down and burnt out.
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    I agree with the poster who said OP did the right thing in that she was in no frame of mind to care safely for patients. I've been there. One day I did make it in to work. My husband helped me through a panic attack only to the point where I made it to work. I was in such a frame of mind all shift that I could not hold it together enough for everyone to not know something was wrong. I even broke down and cried in front of a resident. Well.... I went home fully intending to go back the next day. All night in bed, my anxiety over the next day grew worse and worse. I still intended to go in to work. I had my scrubs on when the panic hit with a fierce. My husband was not there to be able to comfort me that day. I quit right then and there, just before my shift. I've said it time and time again. If you've never experienced a panic attack, you can't fully understand. I don't WANT to be this person. I don't WANT to be unreliable. I also don't want to be a pushover. OP stated she sought help. As am I. I'm trying to learn how to stand up for myself in a professional manner. Its very difficult to do so, however, when there are so many immature people who cannot handle an adult conversation with differing beliefs in the workplace. I expressed my concerns with my managers before I quit, but I did not give it enough time for them to address the issue. I highly suspect nothing would have come of my expressed concerns, yet I did not give them the chance. Now, I've put myself in a position where I cannot put this workplace on my resume. I'm living and learning


    I apologize for my post being written poorly. I wrote it in pieces over the span of almost 2 hours while trying to care for and play with my nieces.
    Last edit by SleeepyRN on Jan 26, '13 : Reason: addition
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    Congrats on finding a new job that will hopefully be less stressful! Watch your back because acute rehab is still physically demanding and we have to protect our backs over a lifetime! I hope you have adequate staff and lift equipment at your new place.

    I don't recommend nursing if you have a tendency to depression and anxiety because the job can really drain and overwhelm a person, the struggle between juggling multiple patients, high acuity and not enough time and staff to get the job done! There are other jobs out there that pay well and are less stressfull such as ultrasound tech or nuclear med tech where you are only dealing with one patient at a time. Granted you can transfer to ICU but are then dealing with very high acuity and sometimes even three patients at a time and usually without a nursing assistant so once again the back is at risk! I've even heard of nurses retraining into resp therapy since your only responsible for one aspect of patient care although still juggling countless patients at a time.

    Just my opinion, but over the course of the many jobs I've had, I find male managers are usually better to work for than women, although in healthcare I think there are more female managers.
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    Quote from brandy1017
    Congrats on finding a new job that will hopefully be less stressful! Watch your back because acute rehab is still physically demanding and we have to protect our backs over a lifetime! I hope you have adequate staff and lift equipment at your new place.I don't recommend nursing if you have a tendency to depression and anxiety because the job can really drain and overwhelm a person, the struggle between juggling multiple patients, high acuity and not enough time and staff to get the job done! There are other jobs out there that pay well and are less stressfull such as ultrasound tech or nuclear med tech where you are only dealing with one patient at a time. Granted you can transfer to ICU but are then dealing with very high acuity and sometimes even three patients at a time and usually without a nursing assistant so once again the back is at risk! I've even heard of nurses retraining into resp therapy since your only responsible for one aspect of patient care although still juggling countless patients at a time.Just my opinion, but over the course of the many jobs I've had, I find male managers are usually better to work for than women, although in healthcare I think there are more female managers.
    I would never tell a nurse that nursing isn't for them if they have a tendency towards depression and anxiety. My depression and anxiety is well controlled with citalopram. I had not taken my medication for almost 2 months when I had my nervous breakdown. I've learned to never be inconsistent with my meds again. No one but yourself can tell you what you are and are not capable of. I had a friend tell me that I was not going to make it through nursing school and work (as a patient care tech in a Hospital) at the same time. I not only made it, but at the top of my class at that. I don't believe the capability to handle stress is something you either have or don't have. Its a continual learning process that you only get better and better at over time. Also, one doesn't have to have a history of depression to have a nervous breakdown. Under the right circumstances, it can happen to anybody. I may have my opinions, but I would never presume to know enough about somebody based off a post to tell a person that nursing is not for them.
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    I agree with you imintrouble! OP when you have nurse for a long time you will understand this. I feel for you in this situation but you do not blow up bridges. You give your notice and move on. You sure don't wright complaint letters. Those managers there today may be your managers tomorrow! I guarantee that going to be a hard row to hoe.
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    Isnt it funny that sometimes those who provide nursing care of a certain standard to patients, don't apply the same standards to their own colleagues?
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