Sex talk onthe job

BadBird, BSN, RN · May 12, 2003

I think it is unprofessional. There is a time and place for sex and work is neither.

P_RN, ADN, RN · May 12, 2003

Is this guy mentally impaired? If so has someone been putting words in his mouth? That kind of thing needs to be reported. If he is there for rehab and is OK mentally then he needs to be reminded that is an improper line of talk.

SmilingBluEyes · May 12, 2003

Sounds reportable to me.....downright unethical and unprofessional.

GAstudent · May 12, 2003

No, he knows what is going on. He is 35 and knows the day that he was hit by a car and the day that his mom died and that he hates the woman across the hall because her phone rings..LOL..he watches tv..knows what he wants to eat, goes to church and enjoys the daily activities.. He knows the girl that he went with to his high school prom and what he was doing when hit by a car and why he was there at the time...He knows what is going on but it is still wrong.

GAstudent · May 12, 2003

If you decided to report it, then how would you do it? By phone, go and talk to the DON/Administrator, letter to the DON/Administrator, etc

Disablednurse · May 12, 2003

Basically this resident is seeing how far he can go with people. At his age he knows better. I would use the chain of command. Go to your immediate supervisor and let her take care of it. If it continues or gets worse, then go to her supervisor, etc. It could make it hard if you don't follow the chain of command. Also make sure that this resident is not teased or joked with about sex. I have seen some nurses and CNAs that tease younger residents about sex and that just stirs it up. But still I would follow the chain of command.

Dayray, RN · May 12, 2003

I wouldent report it just now. I would let the nurse know you are uncomfortable with that type of talk and not to do it around you. As far as her conduct it is at least in poor taste and unprofessional. However some people like to talk like that and if it doesnet sound like she has offended her patient. She is taking a big risk though I mean she could be sewed if she says the wrong thing to the wrong person. I would definatly report her if she says those type of things to a confused patient or if you notice a patient being made uncomfortable - thats harassment.

This reminds me of somethoing that happened to me like 10 years ago. I was working as a CNA for a home care company. I had an awsome assighnment I took care of a lady from 7 p - 7 a and had a bed outside her room, as long as I could hear her I was allowed to sleep as I was filling in for her live in care provider on the weekends. anyway ..

One day she tells me that another aid has told her that he loves her and she was quite frustraited becuse she was too old for him. I assumed he ment he loved her like I did, as a sweet old lady and as my patient so I tried to reasure her it was ok. Over the next few weeks she mentioned it a few more times and it became obvious that he wasent expressing the plutonic type of love. At first I thought he must be teasing her so I mentioned it to him and he got angry .. so I called my supervisor right away and he was fired. I think he was working on getting her into bed (yuk) and what an abuse of confidence. Anyway just make sure the patients rights arent being violated or they are being harrased

kitty=^..^=cat · May 12, 2003

I haven't had many problems with patients and "sex talk", but I once worked night shift on a unit where it seems all any of my co-workers wanted to discuss was sex. I was uncomfortable with those discussions and was told during my performance evaluations that my co-workers felt that I didn't "fit in". In retrospect, I should have let the manager know what was going on --

I agree with taking the issue up the chain of command.

barefootlady, ADN, RN · May 13, 2003

I work on a unit that has some of this "sex" talk going on among the younger nurses. It is unprofessional and unwelcome to most of the rest of the "older" staff. The HN knows and sometimes joins in, so reporting the issue is a mute point. I have learned to turn a deaf ear to it. It is too bad that these same nurses don't expend the energy doing their jobs. Only 6 months more and I can leave this job. I am counting the days!

GAstudent · May 13, 2003

Barefootlady,

LOL...I love where I am at but I am working there for a little more training that they offer that the other hospitals or nursing homes don't, but will hire someone with the training. As soon as I am finished ...also about six months I think that I am out too...This is not really the younger nurses.

NurseDianne, ADN · May 13, 2003

I work in a hospital, in a very small town, we know everyone, and it seems as if everyone knows our business. We have a patient "regular" that is a double AKA, and he's a super BIG flirt. Some of the nurses go along w/ it.....but when he starts his crappy talk.......I just tell him I don't appreciate it one bit. he knows better. Basically I shame him and he stops. I think it unprofessional for the nurses to tease him and flirt w/ him. Gives us all a bad name.

As far as sex talk on the job..........wish they would do it as much as they talk about it, maybe all the ***ching would stop......more satisfied nurses.

And since my hubby and I work together, if we are EVER late, heaven forbid, they all laugh and job that we much have been "honeymoonin"

UGH.......:imbar