Rude remarks by doc with his own kids

  1. :uhoh21:last night when i got to work, i was pulled to another floor which did not bother me. as i went walking up the nurse's station, which sits right in front of the elevators, i seen one of our more popular docs finishing rounds with his 2 kids in tow.

    doc ben says" ok kids tell them by, kids say by every one ( 7y boy and 4y girl). doc says push the button, the elevators open and he says very loudly ,ok guys let go see the lady with the biggest butt, what floor should we go to? kids reply, we don't know dad. he laughs and says how about the first floor by the cafeteria , that usually where they hang out!!'

    now this is not the first remark this doc has made, few weeks back, he had same son and son's friend with them, makes the remark, come on boys, let she go show you a big one!

    the nurses on the floor just laughed and said that's doc ben for you.

    now what kind of example is he setting for his kids? not to mention, what if family members or worse yet, one of his pt's heard him.

    i did tell my nurse manager, who replied, well there's really nothing we can do about that.

    i used to have respect for this man, no longer, how very unprofessional, rude and down right mean.

    :angryfire:angryfirestill burns me a good one when writing this!!
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  2. 94 Comments

  3. by   traumaRUs
    I agree - a very poor interaction with his kids. I have to ask - what were his kids in the hospital with him making rounds anyway???
  4. by   Lorie P.
    he does this alot with is kids, no one says anything to him because is on the board of directors and trustees. a very political facility i work at. afraid to make the dear doc pissed off!! need i say any more?
  5. by   rn-jane
    I agree very poor taste and poor example to show to his children. Alot of docs round with their kids where i work, they stay and sit with the nurses while they round on their patients.
  6. by   TiredMD
    Maybe he was talking about his ex-wife . . . just kidding.

    I have known a number of physicians who round with their children in tow, including one who would wear the "baby-backpack" and round with his sleeping infant. I don't think there is anything particularly wrong with this, nor is it prohibited by any law or regulation that I am aware of.
  7. by   traumaRUs
    And this is allowed??? I round too but would never dream of exposing my grandchildren to germs. So...the nursing staff has the time and wants to babysit the docs kids???? Is this a good use of scarce resources???
  8. by   TiredMD
    Quote from traumaRUs
    And this is allowed??? I round too but would never dream of exposing my grandchildren to germs. So...the nursing staff has the time and wants to babysit the docs kids???? Is this a good use of scarce resources???
    Babysitting? None of the ones I have known used nurses to babysit. They just rounded with their kids.
  9. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from tiredmd
    maybe he was talking about his ex-wife . . . just kidding.

    i have known a number of physicians who round with their children in tow, including one who would wear the "baby-backpack" and round with his sleeping infant. i don't think there is anything particularly wrong with this, nor is it prohibited by any law or regulation that i am aware of.
    and wouldn't that be a lovely way to talk about his children's mother to his children!

    i have also known a number of physicians who round with their children in tow. i don't have a problem with it as long as they keep their children in tow. however when they ask me to stop what i'm doing and babysit, i have a big problem.
  10. by   traumaRUs
    Sorry, I got off topic.
  11. by   P_RN
    I have seen docs who just dropped their kids off in the nursing station. Ours was totally enclosed with a divider between the docs' side and the nurses' side. Most, but not all were well behaved, but I did resent the concept. And in all the years I worked my two kids visited maybe 3 times. It's a shame the doc didn't take germs as well as his "mouth" into consideration.
    Last edit by P_RN on Dec 21, '07 : Reason: typo
  12. by   ebear
    I think the bigger question is why is he making these comments about his patients? VERY INAPPROPRIATE. I also think that it is inappropriate to have your children rounding with you as a doc, although not "illegal". As a pt., I would feel that I did not have the doc's attention.
    ebear
  13. by   pirap
    Occasionally we have a few docs that will tell their kids to stay at the nurses station and most are old enough to be quiet and polite but one in particular..basically looks around to find a "babysitter." One female doctor in particular that most of us cannot personally stand does this. When I see her coming with her 3 year old I leave the area PRONTO-even if it means just getting into the nearest bathroom. My whole take on it-if I have to jump through hoops and arrange daycare then she should also. I have told people that I work with that I will NEVER watch a kid at work NEVER. Maybe the only exception would be a CRITICAL situation after hours--not regular rounds.
  14. by   NurseCard
    Amazing, I have only seen this one time. We had a cardiologist who brought his son with him to work one day. The son was dressed in an argyle sweater, a pair of slacks, and was very very well behaved; I think he sat there at the nurse's station and played a Game Boy or something like that. I know we had plenty of other docs with young children but I never saw them at work.

    As far as the "fat lady" remarks... eeesh... not too cool. It may be some kind of thing that the doc has found that his kids find amusing, "people with big ol' butts". He's found that it gets a laugh out of them so he keeps doing it. It's really not much worse than what a lot of kids see on cartoons and TV and all, and I would hope that their mom is countering what dad, and perhaps TV, are teaching them, by teaching them that people "of size" deserve the same respect.

    Not that I'm excusing what he's teaching them, and being a doctor and taking care of people that are sick and are depending on him... his remarks are even more tacky than if he and his kids just happened to be shoppers in a grocery store and he looked at his kids and said "Hey, there's ya a big one, kids!!".

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