Quote from NurseUnforgetable
How do politely send the message when she texts me asking if I can work for her? This is a weekly occurrence and I'm tired of it!
But what if I need her to work for me?
How often do you need her to cover a shift for you compared to how often (every week) she asks you to cover one of hers? When you do need to swap shifts, is she the only available option or do you have other co-workers you could ask? Actually, I'm curious to know if she even does help you out and cover your shifts to any significant degree or if your arrangement today is a one-way street where you help her out, but she doesn't reciprocate?
Sometimes you can't both have your cake and eat it too, I suspect this might be one of those situations. If you are tired of her constantly texting you (and I certainly would be in your situation), you need to tell her this. There's a real chance that she'll be offended but I think you need to make a choice
. Which alternative are you less willing to accept? The status quo or the risk of "ruining" the relationship the two of you have?
I don't want to ruin a good relationship with her. I do remember one time I needed help from her but she was extremely rude about it and I had to wait and wait AND WAIT for another nurse to help me. I remember telling myself I will never help her outside of work ever again.
This part of your post makes me wonder if the relationship you have is all that great. Reading it is what made me think of the relationship as perhaps being one-way.
We should always be polite, professional and show our co-workers respect, but being popular and liked
by everyone isn't required in my opinion. If her texting bothers you and you want her behavior to change, you simply need to tell her.