NurseUnforgetable

Hold on. You have 35 years experience as a nurse. You stated you've seen this non-sense involving every specter. How many of those years did you run into nurses doing and saying incorrect things that could implicate they practice racism....on the job with their patients, but you yet you say absolutely nothing to correct them to let them know that culture is not accepted at the hospital, not on your watch???? Do people who are racist don't say, "I'm racist at home, just not at work? I'm racist in my toes but not my fingers??" I'm a nurse, but yet I'd have to be on my deathbed before I go to a hospital. Get me to the community kitchen doctor. How you view the public you care for directly correlates to the care you give them and their outcomes.

Hmmm. Interesting. Are you saying the OP is not telling the truth of what she witnessed and heard? Given that the OP correctly stated what she witnessed, what information could possibly be missing that would change the context of what was said by the manager? Are you saying that it is not offensive for the manager to say, "You're not a Juanita Lopez" instead of, "you are not a housekeeper"? Hmmmmm.

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Why do others suggest you need to say you feel uncomfortable because you have a Hispanic friend???? How about you're a decent person and you don't find her "off color" jerkface comments amusing? Now, I wouldn't tell her that, but I would nip it in the bud as soon as comments are made. Stay in the question lane. "Who is Juanita Lopez? Do we know her? What did you mean when you said Juanita Lopez? Did you mean that sweet young woman ,***Becky Anderson***? OHhhhhhh! you were attempting a joke." If she retaliates, everyone is going to know why. I would also write up the incident, date, time, location, people involved and the things that were said and the responses to the words said. Email it to yourself. Stay where you are. Psychopaths who are dedicated to practicing racism are everywhere. I pray to black Jesus every day because they are everywhere and 10x worst than germs. Some ppl just want to get on with their day without these psychopaths ruining it, but we are glad when it's not so bad as losing work or having to move or some other catastrophic event they cause, that is whey your Hispanic firend didn't want to fool with it.

(Ugh! How dare anyone analyze any sort of behavior in anyone's culture?) I'm not saying my analysis was true for everyone, but I do think it rings true for most. If the latex gloves fit wear them. You seem to know a lot about what's rude and what isn't rude and apparently you're exempt from all that is rude. People demanding other people not to have conversations out in public, in school or on the job in front of them unless they've Rosetta Stoned their language is extremely rude and egotistical. Eavesdropping is not only rude within itself, it's also not the smartest thing for anyone to do, especially when they probably have more important things to do, like taking care of their patients. Oops, was that rude of me to say? Rude this, rude that. My policy is honesty and humility. Sometimes you have to be down to earth enough to just to be honest and tell it straight. Did those latex gloves fit you just right? I don't think enough of us are honest with ourselves or with others.

(Googling to see where can I buy that shirt). I like the shirt. I think it raises some serious discussions. It's kinda pointed and I can see how it could touch a little too close to home for some ppl.

Your video was awesome. They do depict traveling nursing as just one big sexy dream. I definitely don't want to get catfished by a possible future assignment if I should decide to be a TN. I really would like the tea on how different it is for Black nurses and what their experiences are.

I'm speaking the entire shift. All the nurses had to take a turn being a CNA for a full shift. I really needed a witness for insulin. She was sitting at the nurses station talking to the other CNAs chit chatting when I asked her for help and she said no, I'm a CNA today. She never got up to help me look for someone who was a nurse. She was very snooty about it as if she was resenting being a CNA that shift. All the nurses were super busy and the house supervisor was on another floor. When it was my turn to be a CNA I helped witnessed narcs and insulin.

I have a co-worker who struggles with little aches and pains and she's always asking me to work for her every week. It's always something new as for the reason she wants someone coming in for her. I don't want to ruin a good relationship with her. I do remember one time I needed help from her but she was extremely rude about it and I had to wait and wait AND WAIT for another nurse to help me. I remember telling myself I will never help her outside of work ever again. How do politely send the message when she texts me asking if I can work for her? This is a weekly occurrence and I'm tired of it! But what if I need her to work for me? How to play this smart?

Order food where she wants to eat for the both of you and and down and have a come to Jesus moment with her. Tactfully, lay out your expectations of her that coincide with her job duties. Sometimes, ppl have expectations that others justify not having of themselves. They fall in to habits that sometimes they inherited from the poorly performing preceptors they had. I can't remember if you said you did or not, but if you do not say anything....if you are not direct in what you like and don't like (even though they should know better!) you can hold them accountable until you hold yourself accountable first. Do not go off assumptions that you're on the same pg but she she simply just wants to write her on page in a book that's not hers. Tell her, the little old ppl she cares for DID NOTHING WRONG, BUT GET SICK. They saved up 50,000 to but because low end LTC is at least 5,000, that money is gone in 10 months. If I'm paying 5,000 a month I WANT QUALITY SERVICE, don't you?? Somebody tells them when to eat and go to bed and they wait on others to help them if they mess their pants. We shower when we want. It's Thursday. They may be told they have to wait to shower till Friday. They have cared for others all their lives and they are at our mercy most of the time to help them. One day she just might be in their position. Let her know she is not in this alone...she is their to aid you in caring for them and you appreciate her...you couldn't run the unit without her. (By the way, the best ran units are the ones that have CNAs/Techs who think they are running the show. Give her that if you haven't already.) Do you two talk about your personal lives at all? What I'm getting at is maybe if you work to build more commeraderrie with her and other CNAs in the future it will also build in them that drive to at least want to help you and be around even if that drive isn't their bc of motivation to simply help pts/residents the best way they know how. Sorry for the poor analogy but it's almost like a mommy daddy relationship were the closeness of you two dictates how well you take care of the helpless ones under your care. You're a not a team but that doesn't mean you can't be tonight...or the next time you work. Encourage her by letting her know that a job well done may make her feel good even better herself....it will give her a sense of pride and dignity in a job well done. Be willing to compromise. Let her sleep on her freaking BREAK. It's her time off the clock and she is of no service to the job, awake or asleep. Maybe you already do, but I remeber when I was a CNA, when a nurse jumped right on in and offered to help with a few pts during a round (under the guise or sincere intention of just wanting to see how the pts/resident's backside was looking ) my respect for them sky rocketed. At the same time, I genuinely cared about the residents/pts I took care of. I'm sorry you're in this situation but it will not last for ever and you will get through this. I'm just throwing out ideas....you can throw them back.

OP, I think you will make it very far if you learn to think ahead of the irritant your nursing instructor has become to you. You're an adult, and while I understand in certain circumstances in nursing school you will be babied until you can be weaned, I DO NOT think its ok to tie the tie the leash that short. Students have their groove and the reasons stated on here as to why she is justified to disrupt your groove other than "it's her classroom" doesn't make sense to me being that her students are ADULTS. Listen to me when I tell you it WOULD NOT BE WISE to make a splash about this. Don't do it! Here is your chance to develope some critical thinking skills. Why can't you read ahead and then photo copy only parts of the textbook that make the least sense or is the most perplexing and then follow along with that in class while doing to to the photo copy what you would do in your textbook?

I'm a new nurse and I never was too bad with giving report (I've gotten better) but my pet peeve is when the next shift has to make report a pain to give. If you're asking pertinent questions...kudos to you; you are on top of your game and I love it because it's also helping me. When the question is in no way at all pertinent to a pt's care and then when you ask and I offer to look it up the information on the computer right then in there and you say...."I'll... I'll look it up." it's not necessarily rude it's just annoying. I always try to be ready with the best report I can give. In a way, maybe I should thank those ppl for being annoying:unsure: (thank you)

'Relax, Take it Easy' by Mika and I know this is awful but that new song by Ariana Grande, 'I'm So Into You' No, it has nothing to do with a pt. I have a deep burning limerence for a co-worker that I need to resolve with myself. Rico Suave is 18 yrs my senior and 18x hotter than any man I've ever met, hands down. I dread when he chooses me to do count or if he's the nearest one around for a witness because the fantasy of attacking him in the med room with all sorts of Just will not leave me alone! I try to stay in my little corner so I can focus and he thinks I'm being standoffish BUT THIS IS WORK. I don't mean to sound immature. These thoughts and feelings are so so so inappropriate and incredibly naughty! Maybe if I just try to imagine him having a nasty foot fungus it will help. Now I just need to find a song to help out with that one.

I only speak English but I can relate to you enough to understand that what you're likely doing is respecting others that share your culture by engaging them in the language you share with them. There is nothing wrong with that. That's a beautiful thing. You shouldn't have to translate a personal private conversation. Obviously your conversation is PRIVATE or else you would have spoken in English so they could understand. Love, do what makes you happy, but I wish you didn't feel obligated to translate your conversations to people. The people who "get it" don't need or want you to and the people who "don't get it" don't deserve it and the second you do you are playing into the entitlement they've acquired as Americans to always pry into the business of those who are different and speak a different language and keep tabs on everything they do.

I only speak English but I can relate to you enough to understand that what you're likely doing is respecting others that share your culture by engaging them in the language you share with them. There is nothing wrong with that. That's a beautiful thing. You shouldn't have to translate a personal private conversation. Obviously your conversation is PRIVATE or else you would have spoken in English so they could understand. Love, do what makes you happy, but I wish you didn't feel obligated to translate your conversations to people. The people who "get it" don't need or want you to and the people who "don't get it" don't deserve it and the second you do you are playing into the entitlement they've acquired as Americans to always pry into the business of those who are different and speak a different language and keep tabs on everything they do.