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Some of us are in the position of making the only income in the household. Some of us are single without dependents. Some of us are divorced, separated, or widowed with one or more dependents to... Read More

  1. by   aimeee
    Gee Wild, you need one more choice--My husband is the primary and my working part-time does provide extras but I wouldn't call them "little". Nor would I say that we couldn't survive without my income. We did it for years while the kids were little and I was FT mom. My working PT makes the difference between pinching every penny and praying nothing major breaks down before payday and living a moderately comfortable lifestyle with a tiny cushion in the bank.
  2. by   RNinMay
    My hubby is a FF/EMT, and I am now six months into my career as an RN, and I make about $5000 a year more than he does. I just started the night shift, so I will be making even more than that. My goal is to work full-time for a year, then go agency or PRN so I can work less and be with my family. Right now I work the days my hubby is home. Great for kids, bad for marriage. I just keep telling myself to hold on for a year so I can cut back on my hours. But hey, I'm no dummy. I know we are going to depend on my full-time salary. I will probably never get to go pool! But at least I can dream.........
  3. by   RNKitty
    Sounds like quite a few nurses work because they have to, but have a goal to be at home more with the family. It's no wonder nurses don't organize! For many it is a job, but our soul is elsewhere. Is it that nursing is more of a career for men? What do you think ladies? (I do know there are many of you for whom it is really a rewarding career, so please do not take offense. I'm just speculating on why we, as a whole, do not proactively rise up to improve the working situation.)
  4. by   P_RN
    0 None of the above.

    Until September of this year, I had NO income since Nov. of 1999.

    I went from 50k realm to Zero.

    Now I get Social security.....not much security there.
  5. by   RNinMay
    I DO love being a nurse! But I have two children aged 5 and 3, and I want more of a balance between work and home. When my kids are older and more independent, I have every intention of throwing myself wholeheartedly into my career. I love the flexibility of nursing, as long as you are in the position financially to dictate the hours you work.
  6. by   kaycee
    My husband is a police officer and I make more hourly then he does but he generally makes more with overtime, court time, and double time for holidays. He has much better benefits and a good pension plan. We would struggle on just his income though and he's been a cop for over 26yrs.
    Combined we do ok.
  7. by   misti_z
    My income and my husband's income are within $50 of each other, but it has taken my husband 15 years to get to what he makes now--restaurant manager--and me 8 months to get to my salary. We 'made it' just fine while I was in school and a part time waitress, but with our combined salaries it is easier to get the little extras.

    Hate my husband's job, he works his a$$ off. Tuesday may be their last day in business.....which means a lump sum of $700 x # yrs worked for company, plus 1 year of unemployment. Damn good excuse to get out of that type of work, huh?!.....sorry totally different subject
  8. by   Nursz-R-Awsm
    We accumulated debt while I was in school, but we made it on my husband's salary...and could probably do it again if we had to and hoping no medical emergencies or vehicle breakdowns occurred. We are doing our best to continue to live on his and use mine to get out of the hole.

    I do not feel I am the norm however... I work and went to school with single moms...single dads raising kids on their own and couples with children who very much depend on both incomes. I believe this is the majority of the nurses I have known.
    Lisa
  9. by   Jenny P
    My husband and I are equal bread winners in our family at this time, but for the first 5 years of our marriage I was the primary breadwinner. With his MS, we can't count on him being the main income earner in the future. I get so tired of people who think that we (females) earn secondary incomes or don't need decent incomes because we have husbands who are the ones who support us.
  10. by   wildtime88
    From the response here, even though this is a small sample, we have proved the old myth is false. Yet the reality is much different when you compare wages to other male dominated, sorry guys, professions to ours. A lot of these profession/trades with less responsibilities and knowledge base do as well or better.
  11. by   RNforLongTime
    My husband and I have been married over 2 years now. I had accumulated a lot of debt prior to our marriage--you know the usual stuff--school loans, car payments, car insurance--credit card debt aquired from 5 years at college.

    I work to pay my bills and have plenty of money left over each two weeks when I get paid. We split the utilities 50/50. There is no mortgage payment as we live with his mother and this house that we live in will eventually be ours. I buy stuff like Clinique cosmetics, a lot of magazines, books, etc. I feel no need to justify my purchases to my spouse as I pay for them all myself. I do not rely on his income whatsoever. Sure, we could have a mortgage payment but don't and even if we did, I'd be able to afford it.
  12. by   fergus51
    I can't believe how little your cops get paid! My dad was a cop and his pension is more than my full time salary! That's after a 7 year wage freeze.
  13. by   crystalhawk
    RNinMay... when you have a years experience under your belt, start looking for a position that better suits your needs to be with your family..... what you said about "bad for marriage" is something to think about. I worked nites for most of the last 10 years, in hospital and as a traveler.... maybe if I'd been home more I would have seen the trouble coming.... or at least stood a chance to head some of it off.... what started out as good for the kids became bad for all. I've been the sole support for my family ever since I graduated and started working as a nurse. I did what I needed to in order to make ends meet. He had a serious injury and was unable to work. Over time he developed a serious addiction, I wasn't home and didn't see it coming. Now, I work days (ha, I started to say better hours), and I just support myself and the kiddos..... sometimes the sacrifices are not worth the extra money...... I have made more, but now I have more

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