My husband wants me OUT of nursing

  1. He finally came out and said it...

    Over the years we have been together he has watched me wreck my body (floor work), work to many hours (salary) and be screwed over & treated like crap (middle management).

    I love Pediatric nursing...after several years of bouncing around I finally found my niche. My problem is I have an eye for what needs to be fixed and good ideas (that work) on how to make a situation better and end up in management...unfortunately I am not the image of what Corp wants in a manager, not to mention plain spoken & loyal to "my" staff...politically incorrect of an admin.

    He is right. I am burnt and disillusioned.

    I emailed my CV to his company today...

    I am going to persue a career in IT/Network Admin for a while...is a good entry level position to learn fiber technology and the new routers...the company trains and promotes from within, starting pay is 3/4 what I was making at my last job, the benes are good and I don't have to make decisions that affect peoples lives.

    In a few months if I feel up to it I will go apply for a per deim position at a Peds LTC in my area.

    I can't decide if this belongs here or in Off Topic...feel free to move it.
    Last edit by kids on Jan 29, '03
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  2. 28 Comments

  3. by   LoriAnnRN
    You sound like someone who goes off and makes their own company. You sound like someone with excellent ideas who is not willing or able to conform to the everyday, ordinary nursing administration-scene. Why don't you look for some nursing entrepeneur seminars or alternative careers for nurses seminars in your area and just go for it?
  4. by   adrienurse
    Good luck! You probably can benefit from the change. It doesn't hurt to branch one's self out and your body might even enjoy not being abused . Nursing will always be there if you want to go back to it.
  5. by   TX Guy
    Ditto what adrein said.

    Good luck Kidsrfun
  6. by   kids
    Originally posted by LoriAnnRN
    You sound like someone who goes off and makes their own company. You sound like someone with excellent ideas who is not willing or able to conform to the everyday, ordinary nursing administration-scene. Why don't you look for some nursing entrepeneur seminars or alternative careers for nurses seminars in your area and just go for it?
    I've thought about it...I was making around $800 a week for the company I just left (I got paid <$22/hr) doing LTC and HH assessments of need for insurance companies...I would enjoy doing that.

    Unfortunately the non-solicitation agreement I signed with them clearly specifies that I can't go into compitition with them for 12 months...and this would be direct compitition (not to mention I would be need to use the contacts I made while working for them to get started).
  7. by   TNcanNURSE
    Go for it! Nursing is not the only career in the world.
  8. by   spineCNOR
    Ditto!! I must agree with your husband--why not do something for a while where you will subject to less physical, mental and emotional abuse? Nursing will always be there if you decide to go back. If you take a sabbatical in another area, who knows- you might feel better about nursing (or not!).

    Best of luck to you, whatever your decision. And please keep us posted on how you are doing!
  9. by   P_RN
    Doing what is right is often a hard decision to make. Good for you looking out for your family and your sanity. Good luck.
  10. by   catrn10
    My huband, too wants me out of Nursing. He has seen me beaten up by a patient and cared for me afterwards with my permanently injured back, took care of me after an AIDS patient went balistic and the lab stabbed me with the bloody needle( I didn't get HIV,yet, and it's been 4 years), etc. He watches a woman who used to walk straight and tall, now walk with a permenant limp, held me while I cry at night from the constant pain. He has watched me get used and abused by one hospital or agency after another. And it kills him because he knows he can't help me. I am the only income we have. He is disabled. I don't fit into management, I'm too employee oriented, I stuck up for the people I worked with. I'm not good at cutting back expense if it compromises patient care and staff safety. I am tired and burnt to a crisp. When I come back, I may just do reviews for an insurance company and go back to school. Maybe some computer company might have a position for a nurse with the ability to write computer programs.
  11. by   hoolahan
    I wish my husband would say that to me!!! I'm kinda in the same boat Nancy. I also signed a no compete clause, so I am hard-pressed to find contracts w someone my other company hasn't used!!

    Good luck whatever you do.
  12. by   researchrabbit
    And now for something completely different!

    I think it's a good thing -- keeps those brain cells active! (you'll still come play with us, won't you?!)
  13. by   mattsmom81
    Best wishes to those of us who do 'change ups'...it's all good. Even if we get into something we don't like, we are still learning something valuable about ourselves and the experience is never a total loss.

    I can totally relate to being in mid level management. if we stick up for the staff we are punished by upper level management.

    Kids r fun, enjoy your new venture! And Cat, information systems management may be an option for you to consider...good luck to you both!!
  14. by   Nurse Ratched
    My husband was completely supportive of my getting out of the hospital environment (working PRN there versus fulltime - now working FT as a clinic nurse.) He says I am a much more energetic person, and less irritable. His job situation is not as stable as it might be, but we're going to stay where we are because we know the job I have now isn't one that could easily be replaced.

    Good luck in your new venture - we all need a break sometimes - nursing will always be there.

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