My husband wants me OUT of nursing

[kids]

He finally came out and said it...

Over the years we have been together he has watched me wreck my body (floor work), work to many hours (salary) and be screwed over & treated like crap (middle management).

I love Pediatric nursing...after several years of bouncing around I finally found my niche. My problem is I have an eye for what needs to be fixed and good ideas (that work) on how to make a situation better and end up in management...unfortunately I am not the image of what Corp wants in a manager, not to mention plain spoken & loyal to "my" staff...politically incorrect of an admin.

He is right. I am burnt and disillusioned.

I emailed my CV to his company today...

I am going to persue a career in IT/Network Admin for a while...is a good entry level position to learn fiber technology and the new routers...the company trains and promotes from within, starting pay is 3/4 what I was making at my last job, the benes are good and I don't have to make decisions that affect peoples lives.

In a few months if I feel up to it I will go apply for a per deim position at a Peds LTC in my area.

I can't decide if this belongs here or in Off Topic...feel free to move it.

[Agnus]

Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes

I have to ask.

What do YOU want? Sounds like he wants you happy. So decide what that would be and go for it.

ABSOLUTELY.

[kids]

I want to get up in the morning, go to work and do my job. I want to go home at the end of my shift and leave the job at work. I want to go on vacation and not be on call from 2000 miles away.

What do I NOT want?

I want to not have to care about people, their families and their lives. I want to not be hit, kicked, spit on and swore at. I want to not care about funding, staffing, recruiting, cutting costs and filling out the correct form in black ink.

God I am so burnt. I am just so tired of caring.

The hardest part of this is giving up the "label"...I have been a nurse for 12+ years...after this long it has become part of my identity.

The sad part is that it was ONE employer over 3 years that pushed me over the edge.

I am still reeling from the hypocricy of a company that provides the family and kid focused services that my former company did would penalize, discipline and fire an employee for using their sick and vacation time to care for their terminally ill Mother and a grandchild born prematurely with a heart defect (the official cause of my termination that was given to unemployment is excessive absenteeism).

[llg, PhD, RN]

Some of you might be interested in a book I've been looking at lately. It's called "Where Do I Go From Here? Exploring YOur Career Alternatives Within and Beyond Clinical Nursing" and it was written by Betty Hafner. It's a 2002 book by Lippincott.

I haven't scrutinized and/or nit-picked it yet, but on first glance, it seems like a pretty good book on looking at career options for nurses -- options that are both inside nursing and outside.

No, I don't know the auther, make any money from the sale of the book, or anything like that. I just happened to find it in the library this morning and decided to check it out.

llg

[Agnus]

kid-r-fun

There is the federal family medical leave act on your side. I think.

[mattsmom81]

Kids r fun, after you are feeling better you may want to consider options as stated above. Find out what you LIKE about nursing, what 'floats your boat' and go from there.

My personal 'boat floater' is agency staffing where I at least have some control. or as others have stated, you may enjoy being self employed. :)

Best wishes always! :)