Hello. I have a question about my cousin, whose a CNA using me as a job reference. It seems like every month I'm getting a call from a potential employer. The bad thing is, its been YEARS (since 2000) since Ive worked with her and she was a horrible nurse aid (we both were CNAs at the time) the only 2 jobs Ive worked with her, she'd been fired from. When they call me, I feel like I have to lie to answer questions. Most of the time Im stuttering and I do not know what to say. Maybe, she has changed since weve worked together, it has been a long time - BUT I have no idea what her work ethic is like now (I did visit her on her job about a year ago,[on my way to visit my parents from a 4hr drive] and well.... her professionalism didnt seem to improve, she was on lunch break and we were still on the premises and she was talking loud and complaining, I had to tell her "lets go to my car and talk.")We are family, but I dont really associate with her anymore because our personalities are VERY different, but I feel obligated to help her because we're related. I just wonder how she is putting me down? Because they always ask me, "Are you a RN?" not "What was your job position?" so could it be she is putting me down as her supervisor (which I never was because I was a CNA then)? She hasnt returned my call since I completed the referral interview (in which I lied to make her look good). I wish she would at least ask me first, or forewarn me that I will be receiving a call. I dont know, I guess Im just venting because Im starting to get annoyed. How often can a person jump from job to job? Thanks for listening
Apr 20, '11
First of all, I would say that "taking advatage" of your RN license versus putting your license in "jeopardy" are two different things. I do agree with a previous post that you need to tell her that you haven't worked with her in a long time, and that you cannot provide a good reference. Also say that RN's she has worked with recently should be able to provide a better reference for her anyway...if you tell them that you have not worked with her since 2000 I would think they will wonder why she hasn't provided a more recent reference. Finally: you should never have to lie for her...period.
Last edit by psu_213 on Apr 20, '11
: Reason: correct typo