Quote from JSlovex2
it's not really that i "care" but it's a bit different situation than someone who can't sleep because they have kids to care for or a spouse who has an opposite schedule compared to someone who "has the presence of children in the house" and a mother in law nagging them.
Thank you for jumping to conclusions. In fact, you are incorrect. My wife works full-time, though my MIL is retired, from another country and is staying with us now to help take care ofthe kids at times. We actually pay her for this. Her ability to help is limited, and the help comes with a high cost (and I don't mean the money), but it's what we can afford to do at the time.
When we just had the toddler (when she was still an infant), I was home alone with her after working night shifts, which means I slept only if and when she napped. In fact, what we used to do was that I would take the subway to work at night, so my wife would drive our daughter to her job. After my night shift was over, I would take the subway to her job and drive the car home; feed our daughter and entertain her until she had a nap. Now, the toddler is in day care twice a week. The 6 month old is home every day.
From day one I have been an active participant in both daughters' care. When they were newborns, given that my wife was breastfeeding, I would be the one changing the diapers.
I guess you have your stereotype about what men have done with respect to childcare in your life experience, but I do kind of resent your labeling me with your own stereotype.