How do you handle rude comments? - page 7

Long story short, my sister and my mom both have cancer right now. My mom had breast cancer, which is now in her stomach. My sister has breast cancer and she just had a double mastectomy. I have been... Read More

  1. by   calliope26
    I'm sorry that you've been subjected to such insensitive comments, though I've learned from a close friend who had breast cancer that comments like that are not unusual. Many people "blame the victim" with a cancer diagnosis--it HAS to be from too much sugar, or skipping a mammogram. That is baloney, and unfortunate. Even if it were true, it's not very compassionate. My friend was subjected to many of the same comments and even had people request to feel her implants at work after she had reconstructive surgery! (She's in a medical field, but works for a pharmaceutical firm). She was trying to be open about her experience to take some of the mystery and shame away from a breast cancer diagnosis. My conclusion is that confiding information is something you should only do with great caution. Surround yourself with people who prove themselves worthy of your friendship, and best wishes to you and your family.
  2. by   SobreRN
    Most of the rude comments I have had patients say involve race and I've had patients say outrageous things. As a new grad I had the patient tell me how glad she was to get a white nurse, I asked her what, if anything, was wrong with noc nurse, all she could come up with was that noc nurse was Asian.
    I told her noc nurse quite experienced and I had very little making noc nurse the better nurse.
    I have heard of manner of it from white patients not wanting black nurses, black patients not wanting Asian nurses, Asian patients not wanting white nurses, straight patients not wanting gay nurses etc...we staff by acuities, not race.
    If the use racial slurs I cut conversation of quickly and tell them it they can speak any way they want outside my presence but I do not want them using racial epithets in my presence as I have a right not to hear it.
  3. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from SobreRN
    Most of the rude comments I have had patients say involve race and I've had patients say outrageous things. As a new grad I had the patient tell me how glad she was to get a white nurse, I asked her what, if anything, was wrong with noc nurse, all she could come up with was that noc nurse was Asian.
    I told her noc nurse quite experienced and I had very little making noc nurse the better nurse.
    I have heard of manner of it from white patients not wanting black nurses, black patients not wanting Asian nurses, Asian patients not wanting white nurses, straight patients not wanting gay nurses etc...we staff by acuities, not race.
    If the use racial slurs I cut conversation of quickly and tell them it they can speak any way they want outside my presence but I do not want them using racial epithets in my presence as I have a right not to hear it.
    You haven't read the thread, have you?

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