I agree with the above poster. You are doing your son a disservice if you do not plan to allow him to work at all because he will not take on any responsibility regarding his college education.
I too paid for my entire education. I performed well in school because I knew how much everything costs down to the penny. I even sold items I owned to pay for textbooks and supplies at times.
On the other hand, students like your son are not able to understand what it takes to get through school and to get supplies because they have them handed to them. It will not matter how miserable you are because your son will not experience your misery or have to make any sacrifices. Many whose parents pay every cent for his/her education do not take school as serious even though they too have high career aspirations. Basically, he will live his life in college oblivious to the enormity of what he is receiving in education because you are paying.
In fact, I know of two nurses whose kids flunked out of college while they (the nurses) worked two jobs to put them through name-schools
. Both nurses cut their sons off after they flunked out.
One now has a graduate degree. After that one returned home, he was made to get a full-time job (his very first one in his entire life) and paid cash for his own education. He started at the community college then transferred to a four-year University.
The other one got a job and attended a technical college in health care. Afterwards, he obtained a better paying job then returned to the University setting to complete his BS degree. He is now looking at Med School because his grades his second time around are stellar!
Therefore, it is not a bad thing (or a punishment) to have your son pay some or all of his education and living expenses while in school. If you are concerned that work will interfere with school (it won’t…work interferes with partying), then have him get a student-job on campus so he can pay for his text-books and food. Watch how innovative he becomes because he will be on a tight budget! If you are paying his way, he will not take the time to find the best deals on anything. In fact, you will be working to cover his wasteful spending habits (developed from not having to pay his way) too. Good luck.