Had to take a mental health day today.

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    Seriously. Haven't done that in 14 years of health care, but today I did. Had one of those weeks where yesterday I just got home and cried. Felt better but just emotionally drained. Worried that if I went in something bad would happen in my inability to perform at peak (there's that old gut talking again.) And feeling bad about leaving the staffing messed up, but feeling better for not going in.
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    Nurse Ratched you don't need to feel guilty for preventing burnout. I think healthcare organizations should adopt a policy allowing 3 paid rest and relaxation days per year. Many businesses outside of healthcare have this policy. Employees return to work rejuvinated, without worrying about colleagues being overburdened in their absence. And the result is happier, healthier staff. In my 15 years of nursing I have never seen as many digruntled nurse as there are now. The working environment has to be improved and if it means closing beds or using more agency staf to cover r & r days, then that is what hospitals will have to do.
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    The shortage of the late 80s produced a novel idea. I heard about one hospital that worked people 3months on 1 month off. Just think how that would prevent burn out. Of course when the glut of the early 90s came that was all dropped.
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    You shouldn't feel guilty Nurse Ratched. Period.

    Get some rest and do something fun for yourself, and feel good about it knowing that you'll have a better outlook at work when you return.

    Have a great day!

    Heather
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    Nurses need "NO GUILT" bumper stickers....you know..like the ''no fear''.......hope you feel better....LR
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    Nurse Ratched,
    I do believe we are all in agreement that you should not feel guilty...I knew I had to start taking mental health days years ago when I cried more than I laughed... and it hit me...if I were to die,right now,my position would be covered...no guilt here...and when I say I am sick,I am sick...either physically or I am sick of the crap where I work...I am not obligated to give anyone details of my illness...heh heh heh...be GOOD TO YOURSELF!!!
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    Mental health days are a necessity of life. At one time I used to feel so obligated to my job, that I never wanted to miss work. Then I realized mgt. didn't appreciate my loyalty, and darn it I deserved one. Take them occ. usually after a horendous day. your body and your mind talk to you ...so listen and don't feel guilty...just enjoy!
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    I took a "mental health" day Friday (well, actually just phoned in and booked off ill).

    My daughter was (note the operative word) engaged to someone that she'd known since grade 3 (she's 32) and was expecting to move to NYC in September. They went to school together until high school, then he moved and they lost track. He married in his early 20s but had no kids and was now divorced.

    Since March, "Rob" has been in London, Ontario, "cleaning up" his company's office there (he is the manager for the Vancouver office). He's emailed her every other day, yakking about the weather, etc, how much he's missed her, etc.

    "Rob" told her that he'd been headhunted by a NYC company, had been hired and had negotiated the company moving her belongings, flying her there and putting her on his medical. He started work on July 1st in NYC, emailed her and told her that he had to be in SE Asia on company business, was leaving on 5th, probably gone 6 weeks. Then he'd be back in Vancouver, they could ship their belongings and move. "Rob" sent her an email on the 4th, yakking about how hot it was in NYC and that he was going to do some touristy things and watch the fireworks.

    My daughter gave notice at work and has been systematically selling off some of her furniture in prep for this move.

    Wednesday afternoon, my daughter gets an email from his girlfriend, informing her that "Rob" never left town, has been sleeping with this girl, moved from his apartment in Surrey to one in Vancouver itself and that he is STILL married (his second) and has children. His wife and son live in the Interior, he isn't divorced yet. My daughter phoned the NYC information operator and found that his "company" doesn't exist. She phoned the office back east (haven't seen him since last year) and out here ("why do you think that he's been away?")

    Eventually, she tracked him down via his email, and he replied back "yup, it's all true". No remorse, no sorry. Just that he'd cared about her when they'd been together, but then he "found" a new girlfriend, his heart "belongs to her now, and I have to follow my heart". When my daughter asked just when he was planning on telling her, he wrote "I don't know, sometime I guess".

    This is what I came home to Wednesday night. Thursday was my day off and I "bagged it in" on Friday. His girlfriend has continued to email perfectly filthy painful messages. When my daughter phoned "Rob", asking Angela to lay-off, he told her that "whatever Angie does is okay".

    Fortunately, through all of her pain and tears, my daughter announced Friday night that she "deserved better, to be loved, to be honored and to be respected", not to be dissed. She has added their email addresses to her filter list.

    Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. Anyone know anyone who wants to buy a size 8 wedding dress?
    Last edit by jurbyjunk on Jul 14, '02
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    Oh, that is just horrible !!! Poor thing...I'm glad she was able to admit that she definitely deserves better..Oh my goodness, my heart is breaking for her..and you....My daughters are only 7 and 3, but to imagine that someday I may face this is just plain scary..Thank goodness she has you to help her through....My mom has helped me through a broken heart or two(or three) and I know how much I appreciated it......You sound like a wonderful woman !

    Tricia
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    (((((((jurby and daughter)))))))) she is soooooo right, she DOES deserve so much better. What a scum he is!!!

    How sad for you both. I hope your dtr can secind her resignation?!


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