Originally posted by cokie
i love the male nurses. the flirting is funny to watch also, but it goes on with any male who happens to walk up to the floor, policemen, firemen, emt's (most are my kids ages), the docs.....anyway, the only thing that bugs me is when the male nurse will say to me "i think she would like you to do the foley". i could see it if the female pt. actually asked for a female, but do males pt. ever get to pick a male to do their foley. oh i forgot, men ask for females also, that leaves females doing pretty much all the foleys. i'm waiting for the day when the male nurses will see themselves as unichs, not as males, but as nurses.....am i dreaming. one male ward clerk/cna pulls the same stuff..."she wants you to help her off the bedside commode"..guess i am rambling now.......and i do tell these men what i think of this when it comes up....of course i respect the pt. wishes, if the wishes are truly the pt. and not the nurses.....
Male patients don't usually get to pick a male to do their foley because there often ISN'T a male nurse on the floor to do it. I've never had a male patient actually ask for a female do their cath, you actually have?
Believe me, while I have no wish to be a eunoch, I would love for the world to see me as just a nurse. I find very little in my job more frustrating than when I have to have one of my co-workers help me with a patient that doesn't want me to do care based solely on my gender. It doesn't happen every day but definately often enough to be a nuisance (I work on an oncology/gmed floor). If I never had to have this conversation again, I'd die a happy man....
Me: "Hi Mrs. so and so, I'm J-P, your nurse for today. What did you need help with."
Pt: "I need a nurse to help me to the bathroom."
Me: "I'm your nurse, so here, let me help you up."
Pt: (looking at me with slightly narrowed eyes) "You're a nurse?"
Me: (quiet internal sigh) "Yes."
Pt: "Really? But you're a man."
Me: "Yes, nurses can be male or female but we all have the same training and do the same job."
Pt: (thinks a minute) "I think I need a lady nurse."
Me: "I'll talk to the charge nurse and see if I can switch with someone. In the meantime I'll ask one of the other nurses to help you."
Doesn't happen every day by any means but often enough to be a bit frustrating. I've also worked with male patients who really weren't comfortable with having female nurses taking care of them but unfortunately they were stuck when I wasn't working (I'm the only guy on my floor).
So anyway, I do take a bit of offense at the implication that male nurses try to use gender problems as a method of sloughing work off to our female co-workers. I never see my gender as an issue or a barrier but in my experience it sometimes is, particularly with middle-eastern cultures. The reverse problem (male pt's not wanting female nurses) is pretty much a moot point since in many areas there won't be a male nurse to do the care if the patient prefers a male.