do nurses eat their young - page 3

I have bben working for this hospital for three months and it seems like every other day I get in trouble for some paper not filled out and half the time it is not my fault, something that should... Read More

  1. by   Epona
    Destiny.. what type of picking on and bullying do they do in school??

    Epona
  2. by   Daytonite
    Quote from realnursewitch
    i've noticed that the nastiest nurses that i've worked with, are the ones that have not even been nurses that long. they are still fairly new and for some strange reason think that they know everything there is to know. then they pick on the even-newer nurses and the perhaps not-so-new nurses that have more difficulty doing their jobs.

    i've never had quite as much trouble with nurses who have been around 15, 20, 30 years. maybe it's because they are just wiser?
    actually, it has to do with game playing and feeding ones own ego. by putting down others, it inflates their own self-importance and self-esteem. sad, isn't it, that they have to resort to destroying someone elses self-esteem to feed their own?
  3. by   Kelly_the_Great
    Quote from RealNurseWitch
    Maybe it's because they are just wiser?
    And more confident? Yeah, I've noticed that phenomena as well, RealNurseWitch. Usually it's the nurses who are insecure in their own knowledge.

    Makes sense to me, most bullying is a result of the bully's own insecurities, ya know?

    We need to be careful with the whole "nurses eat their young," that we're not over-generalizing. I've seen MANY older nurses ran through th' ringer once they've past their prime (back injuries, etc.). We need to be protecting them from abuses as well and utilizing them to their full potential.
  4. by   Mulan
    Quote from RealNurseWitch
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    I've never had quite as much trouble with nurses who have been around 15, 20, 30 years. Maybe it's because they are just wiser?
    some of those can be witches on wheels too
  5. by   tiggertoo
    I think that they are looking at you that way when you ask questions because either they don't know the answer, they just figured it out themselves or they may know the answer but haven't developed the capacity to explain it to any one else. Hospitals definelty need to develop more rules (as I type this I know it will never happen) around becoming a preceptor. I had about 20 different preceptors in 3 months, all of them gave me conflicting answers about how things where to be done, what paper work was to be filled out, policies in place. It was a joke.
  6. by   SOREFEETEMPTYSTOMACH
    Hi There, As A New Nurse Take A Look Around At Co Workers.pick Out Those Who Always Seem To Get It Right,whatever "it" Is.maybe You Can Pick A Few Things You Admire And Emulate Them. I Once Worked With Someone Who Sounds Like The Prototype Nurse For This Negative Behavior. Everyone Learned Her Tricks Eventually And Started Documenting Everything.also, Another Alternative Is To Develop Some Very Inventive And Descriptive Charting Techniques. Learn To Use Synonyms.
    Kathy
  7. by   RNHawaii34
    yup, there are very few "oldtimer" nurses i met were nice..but honestly, some are mean, and they always find little mistakes even if you did well on the job..i guess they are afraid of new blood coming in their little old world. just be nice, and remember, you do not want to be one of them later on.
  8. by   SOREFEETEMPTYSTOMACH
    Hi! I Do Know What You Mean. I Was A Preceptor For Many Years Before I Left The Hospital Setting And Some Of My New Nurses Perceived Hostility From Other Staff Members. Just Remember That Those Nurses Are Just As Worried As You Are About Being Called On The Carpet For Mistakes They Are Afraid You'll Make.
    Kathy
  9. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from rnhawaii34
    yup, there are very few "oldtimer" nurses i met were nice..but honestly, some are mean, and they always find little mistakes even if you did well on the job..i guess they are afraid of new blood coming in their little old world. just be nice, and remember, you do not want to be one of them later on.


    yeah, that must be it. we're all mean, evil, and sooooooo threatened by new nurses with no experience.

    get real. there are mean people of all ages in nursing. this means young nurses too.
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from daytonite


    as to "nurses eating their young", i so dislike this phrase. it is merely a cute, playful, idiomatic way of saying someone is being nasty. it plays down the seriousness of the bullying and psychological game playing that is really going on. ill-tempered behavior directed toward anyone is just unacceptable and it happens in all walks of life, in all professions, not just nursing. to combat it you need to learn assertiveness and therapeutic communication techniques. these are interpersonal communication skills that you may or may not have been introduced to in nursing school. you can also learn them by studying on your own.
    i really liked your entire post but especially this last part.

    my point is i also dislike this stereotype for all the reasons you state. it has always bugged me.

    "nurses" don't "eat their young". some nurses are bullies. that doesn't mean "nurses" are bullies.

    i run into a few rude truck drivers but for the most part the truck drivers i know and live with (my dh) are awesome people, caring, compassionate and always pull over when they can to let you pass. just because i've been treated rudely by a few truck drivers doesn't mean truck drivers hate nurses driving white pickups . . . .

    i really hate stereotypes, in case that didn't come across.

    steph
  11. by   jade-athyst
    "Do nurses eat their young"
    Yep, and it's called lateral violence.
  12. by   angelcharm
    not at all times... it depends on their mood
  13. by   emmycRN
    I am a relatively new RN and yes, I have worked with nurses who are very hard to please and get along with. It seems these people are mostly on day shift. Once on nights I found everyone to be very friendly and helpful. I have a theory that a lot of the "young eating" perception has to do with the stress and hectic work enviroment on dayshift. I think sometimes we have to go into survival mode at work and being nice to new people gets put lower on the priority list. I'm not excusing abusive behaviour, I'm just thinking that nothing happens in a vacuum, there is a reason for everything. Nurses are typically very generous people who want to share their knowledge and wisdom, so for a problem like this to be so widespread, there must be some outside factors influencing these basically good and kind individuals.

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