disrespect or am I just a whimp?

P_RN, ADN, RN · Mar 24, 2003

You are not a wimp.

You are being bullied by your "boss." All doctors are not this way, but still there are some out there who would take great delight in making nurses feel inferior.

This is abuse!It is also ILLEGAL. Check out this site.

http://www.provcomm.net/pages/joe/adult_bullying.htm

fab4fan · Mar 24, 2003

This is one of the unfortunate aspects of the profession. It takes time to learn how to handle it, and everybody handles it differently, it seems.

There should be a zero-tolerance for this...I believe it violates federal law to have a "hostile workplace." Proving your case can be difficult.

I have written doctors up, but the one thing that really seems to work (for me) is to just stop what I am doing and stare silently at the doc. Pretty soon, he/she looks like an idiot.

Like I said, you'll have to find your own way that works.

SingingNurse2 · Mar 24, 2003

I agree fab4, my evil eye has helped me in many a difficult situation.

Speak softly and carry a BIG stick!

renerian, BSN, RN · Mar 24, 2003

I would pull him to the side tell him how you feel and that you would like to be treated better. I have done that with several docs and got apologies from all of them.

renerian

tammilynn · Mar 25, 2003

Thanks for all the support. I was starting to think that all doctors were like this. I think all anyone in the medical world-nurses, secretaries, LPN-demand respect. After all, without us, who would carry out the orders of the doctor?

Flynurse · Mar 25, 2003

Doctor-Nurse Mutual Respect

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 25, 2003

Quote from a wise one: sjoe say's "We will get exactly as much crap as we will take."

'nuff said.

sjoe · Mar 25, 2003

Or to respond in a somewhat less tactful way:

Your question: "disrespect or am I just a whimp?" can be most directly answered, "Yes, it is disrespect, and yes, you are a wimp--at least so far."

AAHZ · Mar 25, 2003

I KNOW THAT ITS NOT RIGHT, BUT I HAVE OFFERED TO HAVE FOLLOW-UP DISCUSSIONS IN THE PARKING LOT WITH A FEW DOCS THAT I HAVE MET. YOU NEED TO LEARN TO STAND UP, LOOK 'EM IN THE EYE, AND TELL 'EM TO "KNOCK IT THE "F" OFF".

REMINDING THEM THAT ITS ILLEGAL HELPS TOO.

LaVorneRN · Mar 25, 2003

Tamm,

I have to agree with those who say in general, "PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE"!!!!!!!

I am am nurse now but when I was a CNA I didn't take any crap from obnoxious docs. I have given them that puzzled WTF look and asked them "who do you think you're talking to like that?" It only takes one time and you have their respect forever. I have had doctors say "hey you" to be followed by some order. When they realize I haven't turned my head or answered in their direction they repeat it but get in my face. I would not look at them at first then stare at them blankly and say,"my name is LaVorne. Can I help you?" They get it. Immediately. You don't get respect unless you demand respect and it doesn't matter who you are, what color you are, what position you hold, how old you are, etc.

Look em in the eye, as AAHZ says, and let them know you are not tolerating their bullsh*t.

You can do it nice or you can do it nasty. However you do it, don't smile-look as serious as you would if someone slapped yo mama!!!!

ohbet · Mar 30, 2003

What would Jesus do?