Dating Your Doctor - page 2

Is there anything ethically wrong with dating your doctor? He has been my doctor for 7 years. We have a professioal relationship as well, being that I am an RN. He was my doctor prior to me becoming... Read More

  1. by   lmonet82
    I am divorced mother of 1. He is single and never married, he has no children. I think he has a very clear reputation as being professional, and not the type to flirt with nurses. I am not suggesting I am trying to start a relationship, just curious about the ethics of it.
  2. by   TazziRN
    Quote from lmonet82
    I am not suggesting I am trying to start a relationship, just curious about the ethics of it.
    That wasn't what came across in your first post, so that's why you got the responses you did. Ethics do say you should not allow it to happen. If you want to pursue a relationship, find anothe PCP first.
  3. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from lmonet82
    Of course if I were to engage in a relationship with this man, I would get a new doctor. The reason I said I am pretty sure he i attracted to me , is because of his behavior. My co-workers, and even the nurse supervisor seem to think he has an interest in me, without me ever insinuating anything at all about him. He is about 44; so there is about 20 yrs between us.
    He's behaving as if he has and interest in you? And he's your doctor? Uhm...red flags, red flags, red flags!
  4. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from lmonet82
    I am divorced mother of 1. He is single and never married, he has no children. I think he has a very clear reputation as being professional, and not the type to flirt with nurses. I am not suggesting I am trying to start a relationship, just curious about the ethics of it.
    Huh? That's not the impression many of us got from your OP.
  5. by   elizabeth321
    ..........and just to add to what the others were saying.......if you were "of course going to get another doctor"..........then I guess it isn't an issue is it.

    Liz
  6. by   zuzi
    Honey, here you have two aspects of problem:

    • professional one, and
    • personal one
    My opinion: in the professional case is not OK for you to have a relation with you dr., for many reason, it's possible that your relation involvement change from both of you the fairness of medical and decision judgment. Examples: He - will be hesitant to told you with all his heart and mind logical - "Dear RN now, do that or do that!", You - will heisted to tell him - "Dear dr. please let me know again if the dose of medication is that?". And all will be happen because LOVE let both of you to make assumption that what the lover told you is PERFECT. Be very carefully with your profession. You work a lot to become RN, and from this point of view the patient was to suffer and well being of patient is the goal of both of you. Don't involve your private life there...will be a big mess.
    In the personal aspect, only my opinion, 20 years is a big life-experience difference, you are young not to much life experience, you don't know to much about how the people are, you built for your dr. a statue, he is not! He is like you, me, like all others don't let you catch in mirage of "who is him!". Is very hard to explain you and may be useless (you will do what you want) but try to look around and give you some space and time to clarify your mind.

    All in all advice:
    - A good friend is much more than an romance (stay friends)
    - Make and others new friends
    - Change your dr.
    - If you fell that earth run from your legs and love give you wings and fly around him in place work...is time to change your job

    I hope that everything will go ok for you!
  7. by   Lorelai22RN
    Quote from lmonet82
    I am divorced mother of 1. He is single and never married, he has no children. I think he has a very clear reputation as being professional, and not the type to flirt with nurses. I am not suggesting I am trying to start a relationship, just curious about the ethics of it.
    I dont know a doctor who doesnt flirt with nurses or any staff for the matter.........it makes the job more fun and passes the time!
  8. by   reesern63
    Quote from Lorelai22RN
    I dont know a doctor who doesnt flirt with nurses or any staff for the matter.........it makes the job more fun and passes the time!
    I don't think flirting on the job is a professional way to behave. I have too much to do to ever worry about finding things to do to "pass the time."

    Maybe you were just joking, though. It's hard to tell what people really mean sometimes when the reply is written.
  9. by   TazziRN
    Quote from Lorelai22RN
    I dont know a doctor who doesnt flirt with nurses or any staff for the matter.........it makes the job more fun and passes the time!

    I guess California nurses aren't worth flirting with, then, because I know several.
  10. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Find a new doc first. Common and good advice here.

    But also: it's none of your co-workers business, and shouldn't be. THAT would just add to the problems if any crop up, later.

    IF you are interested in pursuing things, STOP talking to your co-workers about it, immediately.

    It's perfectly fine to talk about relationships with people your co-workers do not know. It's just water-cooler gossip to discuss it in terms of a fellow peer.

    Water-cooler gossip has a way of turning vicious. Bear that in mind.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  11. by   mercyteapot
    I'm all confused.

    When you say your doctor, you are talking about your relationship to him as a healthcare provider, yes? He is not also your employer? I'm just confused, because I don't understand how the co-workers enter the picture, unless he also practices at your hospital. Is that the case?

    Frankly, if this guy is your healthcare provider and is sending you signals, I personally find that unethical.
  12. by   fun4me2
    You go girl, and best of luck to you? But I have a question or a problem,I guess you would say.(since we are on the subject) I have been meeting a lot of girls starting nursing school that are only in it to find a rich doc. And it really bothers me. What happened to the good old days when people just wanted to help people and be a nurse because it's the right thing to do? I don't even know how to respond to them?(it takes everything I have to hold back my words and tell them what i really think) It makes me so mad that they are using out government's money to fund there schooling JUST TO FIND A HUSBAND!!! Grrrr.... How would y'all respond to these money hungry gold diggers? Please give me some insight.
  13. by   uscstu4lfe
    go for it! realy retirement for you! you stay at home and make the babies while he goes out and earns the money to support then

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