"Doing too much" - page 3

Hey y'all...(in my southern voice). I'll get right to it. I don't really know where I'm going or asking from this but I'll put it out there. Ok...I am 23. Recently finished LPN school and now enrolled in prereqs at my college to... Read More

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    All I have to say is that misery loves company, when people are miserable, they want others to be miserable with them! I am going to keep this short and simple, you will know when you are doing too much, your body and mind will tell you. Until then, keep moving forward and take rest when you need to!
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    You are an outstanding Young Lady with a lot of responsibility. You work hard to achieve. Never compromise ur own standards because of what someone else says. Stay on your path and you will also achieve "Freedom" through education. These people that are suggesting to you to not work so hard will never be "FREE". They will depend on someone else to take care of them and provide for them. As long as they do that, they will be in servitude to the government or someone else. Your education will give you the FREEDOM to live where you want and send ur children to any school that u choose. Never compromise!
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    First off, I am not a parent, but a large number of students in my RN program were, most of them had really young kids. They struggled, time was missed with their families. I spent many a night with some people listening to them cry, say they can't do it, felt like they were deliberately hurting their children by studying for finals or doing homework.

    What you are doing is quite possibly THE BEST THING you could ever do for your family in the long run. What anyone else says (especially your neighbor mattress-potato) has nothing to do with anything. They are wrong!

    You becoming in an RN will help you so much more financially, mentally and physically. You will be able to make more $ to save more for college for your kids, cars, whatever. You will have more opportunities for jobs and better chance for advancement.

    I applaud anyone with kids that goes back to school, especially nursing school. Don't let anyone get you down, you are doing this for your family and for yourself! YOU GOT THIS!!

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    Hey y'all...(in my southern voice). I'll get right to it. I don't really know where I'm going or asking from this but I'll put it out there. Ok...I am 23. Recently finished LPN school and now enrolled in prereqs at my college to do the LPN-RN bridge program.
    I graduated high school 2008
    Graduated (valedictorian) CNA program in 2010
    Graduated LPN program 2012

    And now I'm back in school. I feel like I've been in school so much I don't feel right without being in a classroom lol. I don't even know where I fit the time in to have three children....another post for another time.

    Anyway. My neighbor 43, who does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING with her life but drink beer and beg for cigarettes all say, told me I was "doing too much". Initially, it struck a nerve with me, like why would I listen to you of all people. However to respect my elders I listened to her. She made a few valid points but still, I'm doing too much and she does nothing, two extremes if you ask me.

    Although I'm a student I make plenty of time for my children (I don't work). They are 7, 4, and 1. I guess I'm trying to beat the stigma that if you were a teenage parent you're doomed for life.

    My biggest fear is to be like my neighbor. She's 43, sleeps on a mattress on her sister's living room floor, smokes cigarettes, drinks beer, COPD, seizure prone, CHF. and has nothing to show for her age, nothing. And would rant about her medical history as if it's something to be proud of.

    Sorry for the long post. Also I live in the "projects" if that helps.


    Finally a nurse...All for my three♡♡♡
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    You are already know you're not like your neighbor I think somewhere deep down inside. Just like you, I got pregnant at as a teen 18 (but still a teen) I've been working and going to school off and on ever since. I lived with my parents while I got my LVN and moved out soon after. I then stopped going to school to help take care of my dying mother, now I am back in school finishing my pre-reqs to apply to the RN program next month all while working full time to support my family and my husband who is also in school. Keep your pace, you already know where you are going and your path is nothing like hers.
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    .... Unfortunately, the woman you just described is my mother.

    Sometimes, I cant believe we have the same DNA. Worlds apart. But then again, I left home when I was 14 and never looked back. She barely had anything to do with my upbringing. That probably has something to do with it...

    My advice to you is: smile, nod and keep on climbing toward your goals. Without divine help, people like that never change; she'll just keep throwing daggers. Maybe one day she'll be your patient and she'll be glad you "did too much."
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    Thank you all for the responses. I know we're different. Heck I'm different from most of the whole neighborhood by just having goals.

    I'll keep you all updated, it's a long road ahead. My pre reqs start Wednesday

    Finally a nurse...All for my three♡♡♡
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    .... Maybe one day she'll be your patient and she'll be glad you "did too much."

    Don't count on that. Sure didn't work out for me. Live your life-- everyone else's is taken.
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    I guess I would say, try not to compare yourself with people who have clearly destroyed their lives, and compare yourself with someone who is successful. We can all point to someone who has it worse than us, and to someone who has it better.
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    Who cares what your neighbor says....like you said she has nothing to show for herself. I am also 23 recently earned my LPN license and now work as a peds nurse. Planning to go on to the RN bridge program once I get those pesky pre-req's out of the way. Keep up the good work! Best of luck to you in your studies!
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    I was a teenage mom too. There are still those that are jealous I succeeded and they didn't... It's never too much be proud of yourself for being one of us who rebelled against the stigma of the teenage mom
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