Anyone else the QUIET nurse? - page 2

by Newgrad_STAT

New nurse here... started my orientation on a medical floor. (I'm part of a float team so I will be floating to all different floors areas). The first day went alright- my preceptor wasn't bad... I thought she would have shown... Read More


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    I am the 'quiet' nurse. I always have been shy and quiet and I was that way through nursing school and at my current job. I have always found it to be a plus with the patients (especially in school on the floors) I don't have much time to connect with people now that I work in an office where we see 8 pt's an hour, but I am still quiet and polite.

    I did, however, have one instructor in my last semester of nursing school who basically told me I would never make it as a nurse if I did not change. I was SO hurt by that because I had nothing but positive comments or at least positive criticism. I ended up having an instructor for LTC, my very last rotation, who told me she wasn't sure about me when we first met. She said as she was around me more often that just because you don't see the fire, doesn't mean you can't still smell the smoke. I told her what had been previously said about my personality and she urged me to never change. She said that patients and families would appreciate me for who I am. I believe that people did then and still do.

    Be you.
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    I'm loud, I speak up. I like to think that it's not to the point of being obnoxious. I also float. The other day, another loud(er) charge RN said to me, "I'm glad you're here today. You're a much stronger RN than _______ (the float RN who was working yesterday)." She meant it as a compliment to me but instead I was offended for that RN to whom she was referring. I know that other RN and although she is quiet, she is clinically strong and there is no reason to confuse our skills based on how much or how loud we talk. Granted, I am assuming that's how the charge arrived at her conclusion.

    I like befriending quiet people. I've found many of my closest/most interesting friends this way.
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    Trust me....being quiet is the best thing you can do. Number one - it keeps you out of trouble. Politics can kill your career. Share what you want with whom you want. Others may be wonder if you are so quiet because you don't like them. Maybe so, maybe not, that is your business.
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    I'm quiet around crowds and people I don't know. I've had trouble with some jobs, because my fellow nurses felt my silence was a sign of snobbery. My silence was a sign I felt superior.
    Nothing could be farther from the truth, but that's the conclusion some loud people come to when working around us quiet ones.
    Either that or we're weak. I'm not sure which assumption I prefer.

    I'm comfortable in my own skin. That's what matters most.
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    I can be quite at times depends on how comfortable I am with the other persons. I think the misconception people have on quite nurse vs loud nurse is the assertiveness portray in loud nurses. Pts tend to listen and become more passive toward nurses who direct and straight to the point or and know how to manipulate the situation. I am actually learning to be more assertive, talk less about my personal life and think before I speak. I tend to let people know who I am as a person which most would have care less. From what I have learned regarding talk less and think more is that you never know what you say might come back to haunt you.
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    im this way also, i am very quiet at work and shy. Its hard to talk when you know half the nurses around you are gossping about other nurses.
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    You've just started on the floor, so naturally, it will take time for you to feel comfortable. There's nothing wrong with being quiet. You actually observe more, and learn about the politics this way. Give it time, and avoid the gossip.
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    Im quiet when I first start until I know who to trust, ect. I don't generally gossip though. But I hated where I worked for a while, but eventually I started to like it and open up. Well one day this nurse is like, you know I kinda thought you were a bi#@% when you first started here, but your all right! Hahahaha. Doesn't surprise me he thought that, now they all know I hardly have a serious bone in my body, but at first I'm quiet and play it cool.
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    unquestionably, i'm in total silence when i'm in a new crowd. however, once i get to know the people around me i loosen up, and the more out going personality sneaks out of me... as a matter of fact i strongly believe there are listeners and those that are considered the life of the party, but in my book is good to have both for balance
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    Quote from littlekaneRN

    I did, however, have one instructor in my last semester of nursing school who basically told me I would never make it as a nurse if I did not change. I was SO hurt by that because I had nothing but positive comments or at least positive criticism. I ended up having an instructor for LTC, my very last rotation, who told me she wasn't sure about me when we first met. She said as she was around me more often that just because you don't see the fire, doesn't mean you can't still smell the smoke. I told her what had been previously said about my personality and she urged me to never change. She said that patients and families would appreciate me for who I am. I believe that people did then and still do.

    Be you.
    I also had an instructor tell me that he thought I wouldn't be a good nurse because I was too quiet. He said something like " I just don't know about you, there something off .... you need to be more talkative to be a good nurse "... this crushed my confidence at the time... Now im happy about the way I am. I feel like I am able to do my job more effectively by being good listener and being able to quickly pick up on subtle signs. i spend my time thinking instead gossiping or talking nonsense. I see nurses miss things all the time because they are too busy mingling around the floor.
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