Quote from Sarah, RNBScN
2 coworkers married each with 2 kids. Male coworker spouse also works in ER but usually opposite for childcare issues. We (staff) suspect that she has no clue of what is going on and has been for 5 months.
We (staff) feel uncomfortable working with them due to blatant affection, playing footsie at the desk in plain view, just to name a few. We (staff) already have morale problems in our department due to increase work load, short staffed, etc...This is an unsightly situation. What do we do? We are a close unit in a small hospital. We (staff) feel it is a problem because they are not showing professionalism while behaving like that at work. The wife who we think has no clue is the nicest, most giving person. She is a coworker that you would want 10 of.
Any thoughts or has anyone ever had this in there ER?
We currently have this in our OR. Seeing those two made me want to puke. You kn now, a few people would say "it's none of your business", but footsie, rubbing arms, was unprofessional and done in front of people so it wound up being our business whether we wanted it or not.
And, strange as it may sound, i don't trust either one of these people. They are lying to their spouses, they haven't been that secretive about it, but, i don't feel i can trust either one to tell the truth, if they can't even tell their own spouses the truth, know what i mean?
I would have went to the supervisor, but right when i was ready to:
One of the participants got busted by his wife about 2 weeks ago (GOOD!!
). And now he's acting sooo devastated that his marriage is broken, yet, um, it's not like he was doing something to AVOID that!
Anyway, if it weren't so obvious, i wouldn't say anything. But, it is, and it's not a matter of being nosey or such, it's a matter of professionalism. Even if they were husband and wife, the blatant affection would still be considered unprofessional. I'd go to the supervisor, and express concerns about how unprofessional this looks, avoiding any mention of personal morals.