29 year old husband has brain tumor

semstr · Mar 10, 2003

No words of wisdom here, just feel awfully sorry for your husband, you and your kids.

Hope everything is going to turn out for the best, sending good thoughts and vibes across the ocean!

whipping girl in 07, RN · Mar 10, 2003

My brother-in-law was diagnosed with a brain tumor (ependymoma sp?) three years ago and had a crani and was sick for quite a while. He is doing much better now, although the neurosurgeon was not able to remove the entire tumor. He had radiation for several months to shrink what was left and he's now in remission.

They have three kids, and it was difficult for them to see what their daddy was going through. Sometimes it would really get us down because it was so unfair that someone so young should have cancer. We prayed every day for his recovery and are thankful that he's in remission and his life is almost back to normal.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

nursedawn67, LPN · Mar 10, 2003

Of course you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers..take care.

jaystrupp · Mar 10, 2003

I want to thank you all for all of the caring. I know that us nurses do stick together..I feel how our priorities are changing everyday and we are seeing how important our children and our marriage are. We are no so worried if we are drivin the right car, or have the bigger house, or that our children are in name brand clothing because thoes things really don't matter.. What matters is the people and I am sorry that it takes such a hard diagnosis to make one feel that, but I do understand how this is going to make us stronger.. My husband and I are high school sweethearts.. we met when I was 15 and he was 16.. He went to the army when I went to college and no one thought that we would make it, but we knew that we were meant to be married.. We have been married 5 years now and our kids are wonderful.. Hunter and Hailey.. I have so much to be thankful for and I took it all for granted, until now.. My priorities are now to take care of my husband and my children the best that I can. Thank you all for reading my post and if you have been caught up with keeping up with the Jones, please listen to me--- it does not matter.. Give your spouse an extra kiss, hug or just rub his or her feet because every minute, every day should be charished...

silvermoon · Mar 10, 2003

Well put Jaystrupp.

It will be tough but keep rubbing his feet and get loads of hugs with your kids and try not to do the nurse thing of the worst case scenario. Enjoy every moment with them. Cry when you have to but leave time for laughter.

It's so hard not to let the illness become your focus. Don't give the tumour any more time than you have to.

You know where we are if you need us. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Furball · Mar 10, 2003

An acqaintance (sic?) was diagnosed with a brain tumor about 10 years ago. Prognosis was poor. He's been cancer free for 8 years. Don't give up, be strong and that INCLUDES crying when you need to. It's a very tough road. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You will find that most folks will stumble over themselves to rush and help out when asked.

Take care

love Furby

Hardknox · Mar 10, 2003

You sound like you are wise beyond your years. We will all be pulling for you. Come here often when you need support or just to vent and cry. We care.

renerian, BSN, RN · Mar 10, 2003

I cannot say I know how you feel. I can only say when two of my family members were diagnosed with cancer, father and grandmother, we all pitched in and helped support each other. Do you have family close by whom can help you by listening to you or spending extra time caring for your children? I know they are scared too after seeing their dad having a seizure. Drawing from those who love you can help and bring some sense of normalcy to them. I also am one to recommend learning as much as you can about his care and treatment to help alleviate some of the fears of the unknown. Ask at the hospital about their I Can Cope Support group which hopefully, they know about in your area. If you derive much comfort from the church reach out to them so they can help you find your way. From my experience I had to do significant budget cuts to afford health care for my father whom alot of his medical expenses were not covered such as medications. Try to look ahead and see if you have any such places in your budget you can cut so in the future maybe money issues will not be as prominent a problem. I know that is so hard because I used all my savings caring for my dad and to live on for over six months. Can you cut back some of your work schedule to help support your hubby? ?Sometimes you can change shifts or something and get your family to help you take care of him when he needs it. I am not trying to tell you what to do, I am only trying to let you know the things I had experienced as barriers or big issues I and my siblings and mother needed to face. I hope some of this helps you.

Hugs and concern,

renerian/susan

Furball · Mar 10, 2003

I second "I can cope". My mom and dad loved it during their illness.

emily_mom · Mar 10, 2003

I just want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I see you're from WI too. PM me. Maybe if we're close we can chat. We're all here for you!!!

Kristy

jemb · Mar 10, 2003

So sorry for this terrible development in your life. My thoughts are with you.

Someone may already have given you this resource, but if not, check out www.braintumor.org for lots of useful and encouraging info.

:kiss

JedsMom, ASN, RN · Mar 10, 2003

Warm thought and prayers coming your way. So sorry your family has to go through this time.