Womens interest in male nurses

webrooter · Jan 23, 2008

I am a pure blooded rough edged heterosexual male nurse. I can understand how some male nurses might feel uneasy about how other female nurses and patients might perceive a male nurse's manliness in front of a predominantly female profession. To tell you the truth I've never let this biased issue bother me. History has shown that there will always be prejudiced people around, including those in your own profession. I don't consider myself a chauvinist, nor am I effeminate. As a heterosexual nurse you don't have to flaunt your testosterone mannerisms to prove to other female nursing colleagues that your a heterosexual male. Do you really see female nurses parading their femininity for the whole hospital to see ? I say to all heterosexual male nurses; stand true and be yourself, be loyal and professional in your duties. Most of your female nursing colleagues will respect you for who you are.

pawashrn · Jan 23, 2008

Webrooter, Since you state,"all you heterosexual male nurses be yourself. Then are you implying that all homosexual male nurses be themselves. Or are you saying, being a nurse has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. Your there to do a job, what you do behind closed doors is your business and while you are working is not the place to divulge your sexual orientation. No one really gives a rat's ===. Just take care of your patient.:redpinkhe

nursemike, ASN, RN · Jan 23, 2008

I am hedious and undatable anyway, so all these discussions are just moot. Thank god I never get worked up with any of these stuff.

One of the nice things I've found about women is that they don't seem to be as superficial as we men are.

When I was young and attending college for the first time, a lot of my friends and I noticed how often we saw really beautiful women dating really homely, nerdy guys. Most of my friends saw this as a terrible injustice, but I saw it as an opportunity, since I was just as homely and nerdy as any of them. Of course, I flunked out after three semesters, but I had a lot of fun in the process...

Nowadays, I occassionally lament that women don't seem to find me sexy and dangerous. Actually, I'm told that I do look like a movie star, but I don't hear a lot of women getting real worked up over Wilford Brimley. Still, looking safe and comfortable does work out nicely with a lot of female patients, and while I do understand the OP's dismay, it's far from as hopeless as it may seem. A lot of young women do seem to be attracted to studly, macho, take-charge guys, but over time at least some of them appear to conclude they're better off with someone sensitive and caring who'll treat them as equals.

My advice, then, is to be yourself, because being someone else is a.) too much work and b.) tends to lead you to people who were looking for someone else. Also, be patient. Sometimes finding someone compatible is a process of elimination. And, finally, because we are (or at least I am) somewhat superficial: mean, unattractive women will shoot you down just as quickly as cute, pleasant ones, so you might as well approach women you find attractive. Because, you know, you're just as big a loser as those other guys...

CITCAT · Jan 27, 2008

:up:Well thats a sad state of affairs boy your job dont rock, Try this bring in some cookies or somehing like that to sweeten the young/old biddies up who knows? Im I man or a woman ? does it matter hell as red green saids on his show by the telie BBC Heres the mans prayer "I am a man , and I will try to change if I can " Hey Keep your stick on the ice and remember We be pullin for ya signing off The Cat

sparky28546 · Aug 9, 2008

I am a nursing student, currently studying to be an RN. I am really enjoying the experience, however I have an issue that is concerning me.
When chatting up women and the conversation comes up about what I do, and I reply studying nursing, their eyes widen and the mood seems to change. This is not related to women in the field but those outside. As soon as I utter the word nurse, I seem to go from a confident manly guy to a nice guy to them. I know women want confident manly sort of men, but women also say they like a man to be sensitive and caring. Can't a male nurse be sensitive and manly? Do these women see nurses as somewhat effeminate, at worst gay?
If a woman is able to climb the corporate ladder and make big money in business and still have sex appeal, does a man need to limit himself to traditional masculine roles to prove his maleness and be attractive to women or can he do a traditionally feminine job of helping and caring for people.
I understood that when women refer to equality, it is for both men and women. They it's a great idea for men to be nurses, but individually, their actions seem to speak louder than their words.
I would be very interested in your opinions on this both guys and girls

I would think that this reaction had more to do with saying that you are studying nursing. That's probably the reaction you would get if you told them you were studying oil rig management or something studly like that. In some minds studying=not employed. Good luck on the hunt :wink2:

glenwood · Aug 9, 2008

Why did I become a nurse instead of marrying one? Well no one asked. But if I could have my pick of men I would go for a nurse.

Please reflect: the woman who wants a macho pig will not make a good man happy so move on. I have met a lot of retired firemen who became nurses. These guys were better than tough and sweeter than sweet.

More men are going into nursing and there is a real need for them. Many male patients are horrified by undressing in front of a woman. My father was and it made for difficult situations when he was very sick and needed nursing care.

silentRN · Aug 15, 2008

Just tell them you couldn't afford the operation to become a "Female Nurse". :smokin:

williebert · Aug 25, 2008

When I was a nursing student last year I hooked up with one of the staff nurses I met during OB clinical...she didnt mind too much that I was a "male" nurse....However, I always feel kind of weird telling girls I'm a nurse..but..I have found that most girls really don't care if they think you are cute.....other girls think its cool...and then you have the ones that aren't too impressed. Babes in the health care field are probably more understanding than others because male nurses aren't anything out of the oridinary.....

GoDawgs! · Aug 26, 2008

I'm a female lawyer, and I'm absolutely thrilled that my husband is going back to school for nursing. I think he's going to enjoy nursing and will be great at it, but there's also perks for me. I like knowing that he'll always have a job, and if I ever have an amazing job opportunity where we'd need to relocate, I know that we could move and he'd be able to find another job. I also love that he'll have a flexible schedule, which will make life so much easier once we have kids. The fact that he could choose to work part time while our kids are young, and then have no difficulty going back to work full time is awesome. In law, if you take time off or go part time, it can be career suicide.

I'm very proud of my husband for going into nursing. He's very compassionate and caring, but is definitely still manly! Plus, I think that this is a great decision for our future children.

KeithG · Sep 2, 2008

layman people are always stereotyping my ex-gf mother thought i was gay because i was a male nursing student i was at their house because she way going to introduce me to her also my cousins and some of my friends tease me as Gaylord Fokker from ben stiller's meet the parents idk what there problems are but whats wrong with being a male nurse? i am a male nurse and i am proud of it

twistedpupchaser · Sep 4, 2008

A couple of weeks ago I was asked by a female Pt where I had been, after replying that I had been on break she had a funny look on her face, smiled and changed the subject. A few minutes later I had 2 of my workmates ask who had come to visit me, (I had no idea). There was a tall blond wearing a mini skirt looking for me, I had no idea who it was, but it sounded good.

Back to my Pt, there was a parade of women visiting her at her bedside as she recovered, many of whom giggled when I came into the room, the blanks were filled when tyhe Pt, (thinking I couldn't hear her) said to her friends, "This is the hot nurse that ______ got dressed up for and searched all over the ward for". I found out later that she was impressed with her "hot" nurse, (I blame the morphine) and had to tell her friends.

Going by the parade through her room and the comments/compliments I received, I dont think women are concerned by a man who chooses nursing as a profession.

KeithG · Sep 4, 2008

A couple of weeks ago I was asked by a female Pt where I had been, after replying that I had been on break she had a funny look on her face, smiled and changed the subject. A few minutes later I had 2 of my workmates ask who had come to visit me, (I had no idea). There was a tall blond wearing a mini skirt looking for me, I had no idea who it was, but it sounded good.
Back to my Pt, there was a parade of women visiting her at her bedside as she recovered, many of whom giggled when I came into the room, the blanks were filled when tyhe Pt, (thinking I couldn't hear her) said to her friends, "This is the hot nurse that ______ got dressed up for and searched all over the ward for". I found out later that she was impressed with her "hot" nurse, (I blame the morphine) and had to tell her friends.
Going by the parade through her room and the comments/compliments I received, I dont think women are concerned by a man who chooses nursing as a profession.

come to think of it many elderly clients call me "pogi" meaning handsome because i was wearing a mask and i blame that there drugged too