Wishing experienced nurses would have mercy on me!!

[new_oldRN]

I work the 7p to 7a shift in an IMCU. Everything seems to go well during my shift, but when the day shift arrives, it all falls apart! The day shift is all experienced nurses while my shift consists of one or two experienced nurses and several newbies. When report starts, the experienced nurses chew us up; in their eyes we have done nothing right. If any IVs are left to be started (even if I've just received the order from the doctor), or if a question they ask is not immediately answered to their satisfaction, I am made to feel totally incompetent by their disapproval. :argue:

I would appreciate some input about surviving daily report and also how much needs to be done by the end of shift so that all involved are happy.

[highlandlass1592, BSN, RN]

Yes I did. This ONE (mind you, read that is says ONE) bully nurse was so disrespectul and on several occasions before our particular incident....she was warned by other's senior nurses to lay off me, but she didn't. I finally just blew up at her and told her to stop the disrespectfulness......she has done so because I stood up to myself.

And you know.....I don't need your approval or snod comments about what you think. You personally don't know what happened that day and how I was treated by this "ONE" bully nurse. She was the one acting unprofessional, Not me. I appreciate my senior nurses much more than you know, please don't put words in my mouth. I have learned many things from the majority of them that I fully respect them. But there still remain a couple of nurses on the floor that are known for there poor attitude and unprofessionalism, well, they won't be messing with me anymore, that is for sure.

I also know nursing is much more than task. One must have people skills and it's very obvious to me the one's that are lacking. It's a matter of showing respect to our fellow peers and nurses, as I feel you are not doing yourself. I have the same degree you do and I have every right in this world to defend myself however need be when someone is outright disrespecting me.....I had seasoned nurses on my floor applaud me for standing up for myself and they tell me they have done the same thing and had to stand up for themselves against this one nurse. You don't really know the situation, so I appreciate it if you'd mind you own business!!

I've been commended by my manager for standing up for myself, and I've also recievied numerous hand written compliments by my pts. So take that and find something even more negative to say, if you will. However, I will not be reading you response, because I don't put myself among NEGATIVE people.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

You put the situation out there on a public forum, I have every right to coment upon it. Your hostility and lack of professionalism shows in your response a lack of maturity, which can be exhibited by any age. I actually gave you much more respect than you do me in your reply.

Hmmm...looking for validation maybe? You keep bringing up the multiple patient compliments you've received. Methinks you have a problem with self-esteem which is why you keep spouting off the way you do.

Bit of advice: you stated you have "every right to defend myself however need be when someone is disrespecting me". Got news for you, YOU are participating in lateral violence. And JCAHO is taking a hard look at such actions. If you can't figure out how to handle disagreements and personality conflicts in a more professional manner, you may find yourself off to anger management classes. And you could ultimately find yourself without a job, no matter how many alleged patient compliments you have.

I will agree no one has a right to disrespect you. But YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO CREATE A HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT EITHER. Your "rights" as you see them, end at the tip of your nose. I would be very interested to see how you attempted to handle a physician who spoke in a manner you didn't approve of. You definitely have a problem in interpersonal communications. Hopefully, at some point you can grow up and work on your skills.

No matter how hard you try, you can't justify to me your inappropriate actions. And more importantly, you can't justify them to yourself. If you were really fine with what you did, you wouldn't keep bringing it up to attempt to justify it. The negativity you've spoken of comes from yourself.

[Jules A, MSN]

Wow, got in someone's face, stuck your finger in her face and then you have the audacity to comment upon her disrespectfullness to you? There are good ways and bad ways to handle lateral violence in the work place. Unfortunately, based upon what you've shared here you've demonstrated the same unprofessional behavior you state your colleagues displayed. You have no right to "lay into" someone. You are creating a hostile work environment and that is just not right.

You speak disparingly of senior nurses, I believe you called them "bully" nurses. Hmmmm....maybe you are receiving the behavior from other staff nurses because of the way you are acting towards them. You can deal with negative people in a positive and professional way without threatening or demeaning them. Doesn't mean you give them the authority or the power to drag your emotional self-esteem down, just that you can act like the professional and handle situations appropriately.

Oh by the way...no matter what your age is, you are a "young" nurse. Your own profile states you have less than one year's experience. And your way of focusing on tasks is an indicator of that. That is typically a young nurse behavior and hopefully one you'll outgrow. Nursing is so much more than tasks.

I was pretty taken aback over that post and showed it to my NM to see what she thought. She said you can bet there was documentation filed and yes in our work place screaming, crying and posturing would most definitely be considered creating a hostile environment. We all live and learn from our mistakes so I would consider doing some self reflection.

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

well you know, i don't really care what any of you think. i know the kind of nurse i am, and i know the kinds of nurses that exist there.....hint hint.

btw, jules, it's my manager that counts, not yours.

and it was my manager that commended me for defending myself in the way i told her it all went down.

she also told me i'd start to develop thicker skin in this business

and to not feel bad about being overly sensitive and upset at this nurse.

i just think you'll blowing it way out of proportion jules, i don't recall stating that i was screaming. if i stated that, it was a mistake. i had a closed door meeting with this nurse during this difficult situation of having to defend myself. needless to say, i've earned the respect of several nurses on my floor.

i've received several hand written compliments from my pts and verbal comments from the staff/mgr i work with. have you?

so just go on with your words of negatism or whatever.......karma baby.

sticks & stones!!!

happy holidays!!!! hope santa's good to ya !!!! i know he'll be good to me. i'm out to go shopping. have a good one lovely people !!

ps. oh, speaking of karma......i heard that this particular nurse was crying herself 3 days after our incident.....something really serious happened to her on the job. this is the kind of nurse that thinks she's tough....she doesn't cry. people were very surprised. so what goes around does come back around. i actually felt compassion for her even though she did me wrong.

[tencat]

Wow. I was ready to give you the benefit of the doubt, britney, but wow.........standing up for yourself needs to be done at times. I've done it myself. But the professional and mature thing to do is to take it behind closed doors with the person who has disrespected you. This isn't the school yard here, dear.

[NotReady4PrimeTime, RN]

I think it's about time for a little reminder that we're all adults here, we're all held to the same terms of service on this site and we're all expected to treat each other with respect and courtesy. If the posts on this thread continue in the direction they've been heading for the last few days, it will be closed for a cooling off period.

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

wow. i was ready to give you the benefit of the doubt, britney, but wow.........standing up for yourself needs to be done at times. i've done it myself. but the professional and mature thing to do is to take it behind closed doors with the person who has disrespected you. this isn't the school yard here, dear.

dearest tencat:

it was taken behind closed doors. please read previous post.

have a happy holiday. i love the holidays......i'm so excited, i love my life and i love my job and most of all.....i'm so very grateful for happiness, family and good health !!

i pray for you dear people that feel like your mine enemies. god bless you. i hope you all have a good experience with christmas shopping and that all remain safe and most of all happy!

ps. i like your screen name.....now what's the history behind that? do you have 10 cats? just kidding and lol!! i have lots of sweet animals, but all dogs. wish i had a cat.

[lpnflorida, LPN]

I vote for close this thread. It has gone beyond what the original poster was talking about.

[lpnflorida, LPN]

I vote for close this thread. It has gone beyond what the original poster was talking about.

I never enjoyed cat fights when younger. I don't enjoy watching this board evolve into one.

All of us need to be respectful of one another. Being snide, throwing digs, outright hosility should never be witnessed, especially on a board where it is preserved for ever.

As a nurse I find it embarassing. We should be role models. Not just a segment ready for the Jerry Springer show.

[new_oldRN]

Thank you janfrn. I am the one who originally started this thread with the idea of getting feedback about report and job performance since I am a new RN. I really didn't think it would turn ugly! I have gotten a lot of good suggestions from EVERY respondent and do appreciate it.

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

thank you jan.

i was starting to feel a little ganged up on here!

i have learned a great deal about learning how to respond to experienced nurses, and to the op, so will you. i just hope you're not as sensitive as me.....don't let it get to ya. i am developing thicker skin though. that is for sure!

i love the lord, i thank him that he walks with me!

ps....go dallas cowboys!!!! yoohoo!!!

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

thank you janfrn. i am the one who originally started this thread with the idea of getting feedback about report and job performance since i am a new rn. i really didn't think it would turn ugly! i have gotten a lot of good suggestions from every respondent and do appreciate it.

to the op...........

i have a feeling that you'll do great in your new role as a nurse.

god bless you sweetie. i'm so sorry i hijacked your thread. wasn't really meaning on it getting so ugly.

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

jules and highlandlass......

god bless you both!!! esp during these wonderful holidays. hope you both have a wonderful and happy holiday season!!!!!!!