Big problem in my class. I've heard it was common in nursing school: Nursing students hating their classmates. Why? I don't get it. We just started 6 weeks ago and already there are cliques, name calling, and downright childish behavior. In my school, all of the classrooms are divided into 2 sections (desks on each side of the room with a row in the middle you walk down). It's not meant to mean anything, just how the rooms are. Well, it seems each "side" is against eachother! It's so annoying. It's gotten so bad the dean is involved now. People are making fun of others' HAIR at this point on a daily basis for God's sake!!! I have 2 students constantly competing with me (like I care, I am there to learn! I am not throwing $23K out the window!) It is so aggravating, I am needing to move my seat soon because 2 of the most distracting students sit behind me. One other student moved away from them, and now they throw paper balls at him all the time for moving and mock him for "hating them". We are all adults! We are all there to learn, we want this (or, most of us do!) I am sick of the complaining of how it is "so hard" (yes, it can be, but that's the beast nursing school is so suck it up already!) One student is always talking down to everyone/everything (F this, F that, I am not F'ing doing this/that, etc.) I can't wait until next semester when most of them are gone. They are failing anyway so I don't think they'll be around. I cant wait for the net 6 weeks to be over! :angryfire
Most of my former classmates are on my facebook and I've stayed in contact a lot of the others. We were respectful of each other in school and had each other's back in clinical. Sure there were the occasional personality conflicts, but we were adults and acted as such. Unless I totally missed a LOT by sitting at the front of the class
I don't get that vibe from my class at all. We are all trying to work together to get through as much as possible since there is so much that needs to be accomplished!!
Some of the behavior in the OP is just astonishing coming from adult students. There are kids in middle school that act that way, but they are 12 and 13 years old!! I think that there tends to be competition between nursing students and I'm not really sure why. It doesn't make any sense to me why we would "fight" amongst ourselves.
Yep, u sound like ur in my class.Our class is sooo clinque and they act like school kids even the OLDER crowd, which is a shame..Its constant gossip about ppl in my class as well. People always need to comment about other clothes, hair, or something that they should not be concerned about. People also always need to gossip about who's failing what, who sucks the most at clinical, etc...I cant wait to get out of here, too many girls in one room for me...
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one other student moved away from them, and now they throw paper balls at him all the time for moving and mock him for "hating them".
if it makes you feel better, just know that when it is all over... people tend to stop caring about the petty stuff that went on in nursing school. at least from my perspective students that were competitive and hateful now like the people they used to hate because they are no longer threatened (passing the nclex has nothing to do with how well others performed on an exam or an instructor's impression of another student in clinical). on the other hand, the real hateful people never change and the positive in that is the fact that you will rarely see him/her again unless you are working on the same floor. i'm lucky that i am not!
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Hey you're not alone.......I did an accelerated program, and for all 3 semesters it as the same 24 of us. Several cliques, some not very friendly.....I really just kept to myself. Then for graduation I didn't go....just had them mail my diploma. Celebrated at home with family--my kids--and a few friends....... the worst part is I have found some of the units I have worked on to be cliquey and gossipy! Feels like that will never end! Guess its just human nature.
I know EXACTLY how u feel! I went to nursing school with a small group of friends and now they are all against eachother! ive known them for years and as soon as nursing school came, its like we were back in high school...competing over grades, talking about eachother behind their backs and other immature stuff.. Our class as a whole hasn't grown together yet...I have learned to just ignore it. When they are engaging in childish behavior I just ignore them. I have also made friends with some other people so I like to hang out with them because they are much less catty...
Every school has the people who aren't there for the right reasons, these are the people who are doing the stupid acts.
Yikes. This is what scares me to death about going back to school at 35 years old! I'm afraid I would have to put on my "mommy Pants" with those fools. Sheesh. Then I would have paper balls thrown at me.
Bless you for your patience. Just try to be above all of that and keep your mind in the game. At the end, you will be a nurse and those jerks will be flipping burgers because they aren't mature enough to do anything else.
Well, students nurse at times tend to hate because they feel there is much stuff involved in the profession or the school, and when its like that, some are always able to gather stamina to face any challenge that goes on, but others who are not able tend to conjure all sort of ill comments about other and this goes ahead to bring bitterness among them.
We've had some issues and we are set up the same way, the split in the room, but by NO MEANS are there any such activities going on like that. We switch theory rooms sometimes and people switch sides dependsing on the room, but overall there is a lot of mixing. WOW I'm sorry you have to go through such childish drama.
In LPN school, we had different goups, but there were not hostile towards anyone. In RN school, our clinical group get changed each semester. I have yet to met anyone mean. In fact, I found everyone to be helpful.
I don't know why certain people act the way they do. I am currently in my last semester, and I asked a "friend" the other day if she wanted to get together and study. She replied, "I am really busy this weekend, I have drill." So i studied with another friend.
Come to find out she got together with 2 other girls and studied. It kind of hurt my feelings. I mean if she did not want to study with me she did not have to. People who say one thing and do another cannot be trusted.
There are people in my class that hate on each other and I wish they wouldn't I mean their only hurting themselves.
Be strong through this and study hard. You will do good!!
Just guessing, but is your class made up of mostly women?
I've never liked working with women for just such behavior. If men don't like each other, they just slug it out & get over it. They usually aren't sneaky & manipulative - except for my ex-husband!
As worried as I was about this type of thing, though, my class has turned out to get along just fine. We started out with 10 RN's, lost 1, & gained 2. We are all friendly with each other, although none of us are buddies outside school. After all, we all had lives before school, so no real need to form a tight bond with anyone. When 30 LPN's joined us after Summer semester, it was tense at first, like everyone had a chip on their shoulder, but after a week or 2 that smoothed right out.
All in all, it's not been the horror-movie scenario that I'd been warned about.
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Thankfully your experience is not the norm.
Most of my former classmates are on my facebook and I've stayed in contact a lot of the others. We were respectful of each other in school and had each other's back in clinical. Sure there were the occasional personality conflicts, but we were adults and acted as such. Unless I totally missed a LOT by sitting at the front of the class