I have been reading these boards on and off for a few years but have recently joined. Most of the time, I enjoy the posts but some posters have become so ill tempered. They act as if they are superior and downright rude. What is the point? Why attack a nursing student who is posting in the correct area? Why talk down to them, as if they are small children? Or that their concerns are less important because they are new to all of this, and not experienced?
I've been reading posts about "experienced" nurses being attack by the new graduate, or the young nurses questioning people. While, these are all valid points and should be addressed, it is not only happening "out in the real world", it is alive and kicking on this board.
What happened to compassion? Aren't we as nurses and future nurses supposed to display care, compassion and understanding to people? Or have I completely missed the mark on what type of person a nurse should/could be?
If someone is having a horrible day and they are venting, why is it not OK for them to vent here, with people who understand????? I simply do not understand this. I also have no idea how anyone else feels, but I avoid posting most of the time because I do not need to deal with the people who live on their pedestals and look down at everyone else. (I am sure by me posting this I am opening a can of worms)
That there aren't many rude comments posted on this site compared to other forums.
I guess what I interpret as rude differs from your interpretation.
I'm a registered member on numerous forums. From personal experience, this site is their polar opposite, which is to compliment allnurses. You could say this is subjective, but there is a general consensus on ad hominems and the like. There's a higher standard to be held here and petty flame wars are frowned upon. I could get more in-depth, but I'm sure you get the gist of it.
I wasn't really talking about this thread. I got indirectly chastised a little bit for telling someone to learn English before trying to learn A&P.
Well that's sound advice I often tell people directly when they ask why they aren't successful in their studies that it's because they can't read and I mean it literally. I encourage them to do more than read their textbook but to read everything they can get their hands on. If you can barely read the material or it takes forever or you don't skim and pick out the important parts your going to struggle.
There is a consequence though and it's the perpetuation of these kinds of ****** behaviors ON and OFFLINE.
I'm not a nurse yet but I still like to come here and share my experiences with people who aren't as far along in the process, anything to help. We reap what we sow.
If we expect to change our experiences on the floor, why not try to help and nurture our "young" before they get there instead of bludgeoning them with indifference and matter-of-factness?
I guess my philosophy is different then other older nurses. I welcome Students. Just as you can learn for old nurses, you can learn a lot for students. Most of the time they are up on the newest proceedures and they want to learn. I feel privilage to be able to share what I have learn in the 40 centuries that I have been in nursing. What's more they call me 'Sir'. to an old guy having a bright young female calling me Sir is good for my ego. If you are a student you are going to love this true story. In Feburary of this year I had a triple by pass no big thing I went to sleep when I woke up I had some new meds and a cool scar in the middle of my chest. One Saturday, I had Students taken care of me. It was time for the dressings to be changed. The Student was changing them when the instructor came in hit the student's hand away and said, "I WILL CHANGE HIS DRESSING"
The rest of the students gathered around my bed to observe Miss Flat Head RN do a dressing change. Then she said "Watch this.' and with smile, she torn my dressing off. I sat right up in bed and yelled at her in Arabic the worst phase I know (It has something to do with returning to her mother's womb) I told her if she ever touch me again I would knock her into next week. She ran out of the Room and I showed the student how to replace the dressing. As the students were leaving, the lone male student stopped in the door way and turned and said "I am from Damascus. Never have I hear Arabic spoken so well to a person so poor in intellectual capacity. Good Day, Sir." Never saw the Instructor again but the other students showed up now and again. The male student came in that evening . We played chess together. He beat me of course. But you can't imagine what that game meant. I was 70 miles away from home and lonely. That night was one of the very few that I slept without pain medication. Sorry for waxing but I'm getting old.
I have been reading these boards on and off for a few years but have recently joined. Most of the time, I enjoy the posts but some posters have become so ill tempered. They act as if they are superior and downright rude. What is the point? Why attack a nursing student who is posting in the correct area? Why talk down to them, as if they are small children? Or that their concerns are less important because they are new to all of this, and not experienced?
I've been reading posts about "experienced" nurses being attack by the new graduate, or the young nurses questioning people. While, these are all valid points and should be addressed, it is not only happening "out in the real world", it is alive and kicking on this board.
What happened to compassion? Aren't we as nurses and future nurses supposed to display care, compassion and understanding to people? Or have I completely missed the mark on what type of person a nurse should/could be?
If someone is having a horrible day and they are venting, why is it not OK for them to vent here, with people who understand????? I simply do not understand this. I also have no idea how anyone else feels, but I avoid posting most of the time because I do not need to deal with the people who live on their pedestals and look down at everyone else. (I am sure by me posting this I am opening a can of worms)
Because we are human, and we aren't perfect. We are entitled to our opinions and have the right to voice them. Some of us come here to vent out what is troubling us, and others come here for support and information, or a combination of everything. Whatever reason it may be, the forum serves as outlet.
I don't agree with everything said on AN, and I don't expect others to agree with me either. Lord, knows I've had my fair share of AN "flaming". Good lord knows, I have taken some heat on AN. You just brush it off and move on. Its the internet and a forum. There are alot of personalities, lots of attitudes, and lots of gossip. It comes with the territory. You can't please everyone and not everyone is going to like you. It is that way online, and it is that way in real life. Once one come to terms with that, it allows one to internally "grow" inside as a person. If you read this, I hope it helps. :)
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Good lord knows, I have taken some heat on AN. You just brush it off and move on. Its the internet and a forum. There are alot of personalities, lots of attitudes, and lots of gossip. It comes with the territory. You can't please everyone and not everyone is going to like you. It is that way online, and it is that way in real life. Once one come to terms with that, it allows one to internally "grow" inside as a person. If you read this, I hope it helps. :)
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OHHHH lolol I just assumed it was directed at me