Where would you go for two family suicide attempts?

gitterbug · Dec 24, 2006

Don't understand the question.

TazziRN, RN · Dec 24, 2006

Me neither. Are you asking where to go for help? Or where to send them? If you're looking for help for them, call the suicide hotline in there areas if you have addresses for the relatives. They will call the cops to do welfare checks and possibly commitals.

Home Health Columnist / Guide · Dec 24, 2006

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redwinggirlie · Dec 24, 2006

Sorry, it's been a long week. My question deals with the fact that two members of my family have attempted suicide. I don't live near either of them. My son is fine, but is being distant. My brother is still in ICU and is lucky to be alive.

So, where should I be? I'm near my brother now and he is alone. My son has his dad where he lives and is staying with a friend.

Me? I just can't be everywhere....

GardenDove · Dec 24, 2006

You don't give many details, such as how old is your son? I wouldn't consider your son 'fine' if he attempted his own life. I think your first priority should be to go to your son and let other family members be by your brothers bedside, if that is your question.

redwinggirlie · Dec 24, 2006

My son is 26. I learned about his attempt moments before boarding the plane to come to support my brother. I didn't mean fine like woo hoo! I meant he is alive and not in the hospital. Both need support. I'm just feeling crappy that I'm not near my son, instead.

Right now, I'm with my brother, 34. My son's father lives near him. I'm trying to contact him, but haven't been successful yet. My son is staying with his boss. One of my other brothers was here and left when I arrived, our other brother is coming later this week. My son's ordeal came in the middle of this and I'm just plain torn.

I thank you all for reading and responding. Again, it's been a long week.

Editorial Team / Admin · Dec 24, 2006

Hello, redwinggirl. I am so very sorry this is happening to your son and your brother. And, I totally understand how your feel........when you talk about your brother. I, too, have experienced this with my own brother.

But, since you've asked for opinions on where we (I) would be, hands down, I'd be with my child. I cannot imagine how that would feel to be far away from my child at a time like this.

Bless you and may this ordeal be resolved and they both be well. Major ((((HUGS)))) to you. I shall keep you, your son, and your brother in my prayers.

leslie :-D · Dec 24, 2006

redwinggirlie, i'm sorry you're dealing with such traumatic issues.

without a doubt, i'd be with my child and try and get him the help he needs.

you can always write your brother a love letter, so to speak.

i wish you all strength, peace and faith.

leslie

Katnip, RN · Dec 24, 2006

I suggest going to be with your son, hands down.

He's staying with his boss, and you said you haven't gotten in touch with his father yet.

You're in a difficult situation right now, but I'd still follow up with your son. Your brother is in the hospital with 24/7 staff watching him. Your son is out on his own.

Just don't forget to look after yourself too.

redwinggirlie · Dec 24, 2006

My family thinks otherwise. They say I should stay put. I wish I'd not posted this question as I knew I would receive these answers and all would say to be with my son. There's no easy answer. No easy solution. I know where I should be.... I'm just not there.

GardenDove · Dec 24, 2006

You are correct, the internet is a poor place to get advise on complex family situations. There's no way that we can get enough info on everything here to give you good counsel. Good luck, I have 4 sons myself who are all in their 20's. God Bless.