1. Dumb Residents. Yes... they do exist with their idiotic order sets.
2. Management saying " Staffing will get better- we are working on it"
3.The PCNA who charts nurse notified re: crazy vitals and they never said a word, so when you check vitals half an hour later, you see a BP of 190/110.
- same PCNA who wont do a manual check.
- same who tells the POD #1 pt " 99.1 temp? oh you have an infection.we have to tell the DR"
4. Family members who come running to the front desk screaming "i need my moms nurse...she was supposed to have gingerale. its been 10 minutes. this is unacceptable"
5. HCAPS!
6.Other departments that won't lift a finger, and spend 5 minutes hunting down the nurse for something idiotic like a blanket...
5 months, 5 years, 25 years....my 13 month old daughter cries because my 3 year old son won't play nice with her. My point is that we are all born to vent about everything and anything. We are all supposed to be nurses or nurses in training. Doesn't say much about our nursing ability if we can't find the effort to express A LITTLE kindness on here for someone who needs affirmation. No big deal, no skin of my back...I would hope.
In my humble opinion, telling someone they shouldn't complain about their job and that they should be happy to have one because you don't is emotional blackmail. Let's see...I was having a bad day at work, needed to share and oh yeah, right on time you jump in to make me feel like an A**. Why thank you, very much, I feel great now...NOT! and now to boot I have someone new to avoid like the plague. Less then nothing accomplished.
If you need affirmation because you can not find employment, start your own thread. We will be happy to hold your electronic hand and pat you on the preverbial back. Perhaps attacking people from left field might be slowing down your job searching or keeping ability?
Not trying to sound salty but I don't get what these "vents" that include patients are about,, smart dumb or plain ******** we are being paid to handle it,,so do it with a smile, glad you weren't cancelled due to a low census and cash your check,, or..don't do it. This is the USA,, you are free to choose your job,,there is no one holding a gun to any of our heads forcing us to be nurses,,, go do something that doesn't involve the public if you don't like dealing with people.. let alone the sick poor and stupid people..
I used to have your mindset, until I realized it is easier said than done. If most nurses did not have to work, most wouldn't!
Feed my family or make a decent income as a nurse? See now ?
I have been reading your posts on AN for a while, and generally I just ignore your overly nasty and rude comments. But I must say that EVERY comment I have encountered about nurses being cruel and insensitive and basically just mean for the hell of it seems to apply to you. Everyone uses this forum as a much needed place to relieve some stress, for you to judge and sit on your high horse because your time in the profession is substantially longer is inappropriate. Ever heard the saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?" try living by it once in a while. Also if you're using this site to unload your rage on people because your job also requires you to at least pretend to be a decent human being, therapy would probably be more conducive. All in all, you should def SHUT UP.
I wish I could give you a one million kudos! My thoughts exactly. I can appreciate any member of the C.O.B. society, but this member is constantly rude. I often post threads where people disagree with me or may be very brash, that is fine... but just to be flat out nasty? I don't get it at all. I think he/she may not be happy with their life so come on here to pick on others. Maybe they have nothing better to do?
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I wish I could give you a one million kudos! My thoughts exactly. I can appreciate any member of the C.O.B. society, but this member is constantly rude. I often post threads where people disagree with me or may be very brash, that is fine... but just to be flat out nasty? I don't get it at all. I think he/she may not be happy with their life so come on here to pick on others. Maybe they have nothing better to do?
It would appear that you, too, are making judgements about other posters. If this person is so disagreeable to you, perhaps it is time to add them to your ignore list? And now, could we return to the OP's topic?
OP, your complaints are quite valid; however, I believe that "hate" can be too strong of a word. Unfortunately, you will continue to come across disagreeable patients and other situations throughout your career as a nurse. I hope that in addition to coming here to vent, you are also getting involved in ways to improve things where you work, whether it's becoming an active member of your union if you have one, joining committees, etc.
Ever heard the saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?" try living by it once in a while. Also if you're using this site to unload your rage on people because your job also requires you to at least pretend to be a decent human being, therapy would probably be more conducive. All in all, you should def SHUT UP.
Comments like yours are what gets threads shut down.
Why is the focus of this thread becoming how long the OP has been a nurse?
The main reason I think it could be relevant is that to have a long laundry list of "hates" about your career so early into it is not a good sign in terms of long term fulfillment.
I'm one of those nurses who doesn't have to work, but chooses to. There are good days, bad days, and REALLY bad days, but for the most part, I have very few "hates." Then again, I've never claimed to be a sane human being.
Comments like yours are what gets threads shut down.
I did already send apologies for the outburst, but I have no problem with saying it again. It is best not to indulge in anger, so I can say honestly say sorry for all who have come across my own "venting session". My point, not stated as eloquently as is should have been, is that this forum should be a place where CONSTRUCTIVE feedback is welcomed and not bullying. Nurses have to deal with that at every turn, so why would you come to a place where it is okay to air one's grievances and harp on them? I understand life is not fair, and healthcare is not a basket of puppies.. But we should be able to support one another or politely agree to disagree. Professionalism and kindness should not be reserved for the workplace. We are all similar in that we chose a harsh career path and with that comes an extreme amount of stress. Why can't we remember that nurses, no matter what level, should be respected. As a previous poster mentioned: "why can't we all just get along"
a joy, you make some valid points. At the end of the day, however, this forum is interactive in nature. Meaning that when someone posts a "vent," the poster HAS to know that not every response will be supportive or will validate the complaints voiced. Now, as you say, we have terms of service to contend with, i.e. the "rules of engagement." However, it is possible to adhere to rules of the board, and yet NOT validate or offer understanding and support. There will be disagreement in a forum which is designed around feedback. There are no rules which forbid challenging certain points of view-only how one goes about doing so. What constitutes "rudeness" is frequently merely a matter of opinion; the moderators are actually the ones who have the final say on that. Often when someone posts a "vent" thread, some posters immediately criticize, and on the other end of the spectrum, seem to think "vent" means "you can't disagree or offer other points of view because it's my vent."
Finding a middle ground is the best tactic, but as your response indicates, even those who pride themselves on their restraint can overstep the bounds.
I think everyone agrees with your points Horseshoe. I think what upset everyone was that the OP was being criticized not on the points of what she was venting about, which can be done respectfully and in a way to serve the further advancement for us all....this was not the case though in my opinion as I learned nothing from the second post except that whoever posted that is not a happy person. She was criticized for posting at all and was challenged on her tenure in such a way that it was thought perhaps she had no right to say anything negative about her position. That is not good for this board. Everyone should feel they have a right to their feelings and opinions, regardless of position and tenure.
In reality if what someone posts or the fact they are posting is so distasteful to you or anyone else, then move on and don't give it any attention. Otherwise I think we are all about reading rebuttals or opposing opinions that we can learn from.
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5 months, 5 years, 25 years....my 13 month old daughter cries because my 3 year old son won't play nice with her. My point is that we are all born to vent about everything and anything. We are all supposed to be nurses or nurses in training. Doesn't say much about our nursing ability if we can't find the effort to express A LITTLE kindness on here for someone who needs affirmation. No big deal, no skin of my back...I would hope.
In my humble opinion, telling someone they shouldn't complain about their job and that they should be happy to have one because you don't is emotional blackmail. Let's see...I was having a bad day at work, needed to share and oh yeah, right on time you jump in to make me feel like an A**. Why thank you, very much, I feel great now...NOT! and now to boot I have someone new to avoid like the plague. Less then nothing accomplished.
If you need affirmation because you can not find employment, start your own thread. We will be happy to hold your electronic hand and pat you on the preverbial back. Perhaps attacking people from left field might be slowing down your job searching or keeping ability?