we are currently not allowing visitors due to a terrible stomach virus....almost the whole building is infected with this thing....staff included. several are in the hospital while the rest are on ivf, which means we have been short staffed for almost 4 days now..nurses and aides...well...since i havent caught the bug yet, i was called by the don to come in early yesterday....so i was like...sure, ill be there soon as i can.....well...i get there and get started....and one of my aides comes and tells me that she came in early too for the same reason. then she proceeds to tell me that the day shift aides were talking about me behind my back, now mind you, the aides on all shifts work different hours than us nurses, they come in and leave an hour earlier than we do. i have maybe worked with this particular aide for a total of 2 hours in the past year but ive never said a harsh word to or about her...nothing. she had always been nice to me as well...so to hear that she would say that she didnt like me because she thinks the don and me are "buddies"...is ridiculous. i had to reallllly bite my tongue on this one. i kindly informed the aide that told me this that i am not buddies with the don, we are colleagues just like the rest of us, we do not talk on the phone nor do we associate anywhere outside of work. unless we happen to run into each other at the grocery store or something work is the only place where i see anyone employed there. i told her that i didnt appreciate what the other aide said and that before she ran her mouth about me and what she thinks, she needs to find out the facts and if she so needed to know anything factual about me or my relationships/friendships...whatever....with any employee...she should ask and ill tell her whats real and whats not. now, normally i wouldnt care less about an aide liking me or not....still dont. i however, have been under an enormous amount of stress since my husband became unemployed causing me to be the sole income for which i am now working 2 jobs to make ends meet. i am exhausted and very ill tempered lately. things are just aggravating me more than they usually would...and this just got under my skin. i even made this girl 2 gorgeous baby shower baskets full of goodies when she had her baby 2 yrs ago.....i did it because i knew she was in dire need of those items...never regretted it at all. as for the other aides including the ones i actually do work with on a daily basis, i never ask too much of them, i dont ride their asses, i dont walk on them or treat them like they are below me...nothing. but, when i do ask something of them, i expect it to be done and they know it. that doesnt make me a witch. its my job. i dont feel like i have to be "liked" but i do demand respect, and thats not a negotiable issue for me. i show respect to everyone, i think i deserve at least that much. do any of you other nurses or aides have this kind of problem? or have had this before? my choice now is to just brush it under the rug and move on. its just people like this tend to spread false ideas about people like myself. just because i do what im told to do (unless its unethical) by my boss doesnt mean im a brown noser or a suck up or that im in some kind of a clique. ive never been in a "clique" in my life...dont intend to start. whats the best way to put an end to her loose lips?
i agree with dusktildawn and kathy313..... usually (not always), the one who tells on somebody has an ulterior motive.... maybe they want to earn friendship (esp that you appeared to be very generous in time and money making those souvenirs - i would want you to be my best friend too, hahaha! ) in the expense of others.... she might have misinterpreted or worst she might have exagerated the story.....
try not to waste your energy on these kind of unhealthy gossips.... ;)don't mind these gossipers as you need your energy for more important people like your family and your patients. by the way, i applaud you for taking care of your family and supporting your hubby! you are doing a great job taking care of your family and am sure you are doing a great job at work!
your family is proud of you and so are we! be strong and be happy!:heartbeat
Well lemme rephrase to specify the general atmosphere of my coworkers as it pertains to the majority of the aides vs nurses vs mgmt ok aides: day shift is mouthy rude gets by with anything and I do mean anything sarcastic loud and they halfway do thier work example: reading new moon while lights go off nothing said they run the nurses and have the most tardies and call outs second shift aides usually pick up their slack and whine alot yet nit quite as mouthy as daytime work harder at getting out of work than actually working no teamwork night aides are great no fussing bickering or mouthiness day nurses pass the buck and ride the clock evening nurses well the majority of the load is on me night nurses stay busy but are good to work with but only 2 will actually pull together to help out opposite shifts when needed like now when zo many residents and staff are sick with n v d . Mmgt is a freaking joke. They never follow up or through with anything they shove all issues under the rug and hope it goes away. They don't help anyone but themselves and their focus is strictly money and absolutely nothing else. That's why the aides don't respect or acknowledge any boundaries nor do some nurses . In general all respect for each other has been lost in the past year . It's not like I go in each day looking for conflict or what not. I hate drama. I don't participate in it and I never take sides when empluees are in conflict. I stay to myself at all times except when I need something or see that something isn't being done like oral care and hygiene . I shouldn't have to tell an aide to wipe food off a residents face at hs when it shouldve been done when they ate. I'm pretty sure that an aide from my shift mustve been whining at some point when I had them to stop texting to go do their job so naturally it would affect how ones that don't know me or work with me look at me as a witchy nurse. It was the same way when I was an aide. And a poster Is right. To say that life is short. I don't intend to let it eat at me any longer. I've let it go. People will make their own assumptions about whoever and I'll not try to change their mind they have to do that on their own and this isn't the first time I've heard this kind of thing from aides. I come in and do my job daily so I don't think it's unreasonable or condesending to expect no less from others no matter who or what their title is.
Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
Wow. And it's the residents who are the ultimate losers in the whole mess. It must be hard to get up and get dressed and even go in there. Having the blinders on may be the only way to survive.
True true. At this point I've let it go but will not soon forget about it. I have suspicion that a nurse might be involved just a little. A day nurse whom I've never really cared for works my shift once a wk. She is good friends with the aide that supposedly dislikes me. The other night she was sending a pt to the er while I was working on my 2 nd admission since 3 pm and I said " I wish we had a small copy machine closer to the desk so we wouldn't have to go all the way up front to make copies" and she popped off at me " well since you're the favorite why don't you suggest it and see if it happens" in a hateful tone. Btw she and the other 2 day shifters hate the don and will Try to argue at any given chance with her about whatever soooooo I very calmly stopped my paperwork and went down my h unit and started my hs meds. In the process I bit my lips to keep from giving her a verbal thrashing. I also think that her and the other day nurses are ****** because we are going to switch to 12 hr shifts in march again not my fault. They are the only ones bucking about it. To try and prove a pt all 3 day nurses called in on the same day which just happened to be the day after the don told them we were switching hours yet they will still be on day shift. I myself am looking forward to being there less days and being around Les of the ones who fuss and bicker and whine alllllll the time. And yes it's been harder for me to go in there lately because there is so much tension just in general. I'm a quiet person. I'm laid back and easy to get along with but when I get pushed and pulled to the max I do blow up and that's when I'm heard but it's not often this happens with me. I make a loud clearly defined pint & then I'm done. I just don't appreciate the rumors that have been started. When the don does talk to me at work it's always about our residents w the occasional staffing issue thrown in sometimes. She doesn't ask me what others do and don't do. They give themselves awayon that. But when other nurses like her and aides like the other one see us talking they make assumptions and then apparently discuss and spread it around without ever asking the source. I'm sure this will pass but in the meantime I'm just going to keep staying to myself. I can't help but wonder if jealousy isn't playing a part because the don comes to me on my shift instead of any of them yet when she tries to talk to them they jump down her throat and refuse to hear all aspects. I disagree with quite a fee things but when I tell the don I do it in a nice professionalmanner without arguing. And i don't get any type of special tx orrecognition for anything. I simply show up and work.
I would just call the person out on it and then after that ignore it! Sometimes silence is the only answer to true ignorance! I am an RCA fairly new but dealing with a similar situation not me personally but with an LPN where I work was being talked about and was told not by me but was asked about it and I agreed didn't mention any names but she confronted the person and think it helps but dont let it ruine your good work ethics and enjoying your job. You know beings you have been doing your job correctly it doesnt matter what petty people think no matter if it is another person with the same, higher or lower stature as long as you do your job and the residents and your boss is happy with you it doesn't matter because the truth comes out and if this person is more interested in a gossip train than their job it will eventually show! Best of wishes!
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ntgale08
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i agree with dusktildawn and kathy313..... usually (not always), the one who tells on somebody has an ulterior motive.... maybe they want to earn friendship (esp that you appeared to be very generous in time and money making those souvenirs - i would want you to be my best friend too, hahaha!
) in the expense of others....
she might have misinterpreted or worst she might have exagerated the story..... 
try not to waste your energy on these kind of unhealthy gossips.... ;)don't mind these gossipers as you need your energy for more important people like your family and your patients. by the way, i applaud you for taking care of your family and supporting your hubby!
you are doing a great job taking care of your family and am sure you are doing a great job at work! 
your family is proud of you and so are we! be strong and be happy!:heartbeat