Time off for Funerals???


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BabyLady, BSN, RN

2,300 Posts

Specializes in NICU, Post-partum.

..on a side note..this is why it is a good idea to have a life insurance policy, even a small one, on your children.

I never thought about it either until someone said, "If something happens to your child, are you going to want to take 4 days of bereavement and go back to work?"

Uh no...I am probably going to want to take a few months off if something happened to one of my kids.

MrChicagoRN, RN

2,589 Posts

Specializes in Leadership, Psych, HomeCare, Amb. Care. Has 30 years experience.

My institution gave 3 days for parent or child; one for sibling or inlaw...

If someone needed more time off we would generally grant it.

And the policy stated we may ask for some sort of proof; usually reserved for those that had an excessive number of losses.

Specializes in FNP. Has 25 years experience.

I worked at a place hat fired a nurse for taking too much time off (about 4 weeks) after her son died.

dudette10, MSN, RN

1 Article; 3,530 Posts

Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics. Has 12 years experience.
I worked at a place that fired a nurse for taking too much time off (about 4 weeks) after her son died.

This makes me sick.

llg, PhD, RN

13,469 Posts

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development. Has 46 years experience.

This is the type of thing that is usually spelled out in an institution policies. Each employee should have access to those policies so they can see the rules for themselves -- and plan accordingly.

As for requiring documentation of a death before granting bereavement leave... I think that is perfectly reasonable. If no documentation is required, people will lie. (e.g. same grandmother dying 3 times.)

We all need to be realistic in our expectations of our employers. It is perfectly reasonable for them to have some procedures in place to check the legitimacy of such requests for unscheduled time off -- and to set some limits on how much time can be taken, under what circumstances, etc. Yes, those policies should be reasonble and compassionate towards their employees -- but we employees must also have realistic expectations of our employers. They can't run the place effectively if employees can just take off any time they want for whatever reason they want with no advanced notice. We need to accept our employers' needs for an orderly system of handling such events -- and cooperate with a few standard required procedures and limitations.

Whispera, MSN, RN

3,458 Posts

Specializes in psych, addictions, hospice, education.

I've worked quite a few places and each place has had the policy that you get 3 days off, with pay, after the death of a first degree relative (parent, spouse, child). Other than that you can take personal leave days or just plain days off if you have enough, with pay. Finally, you can take days off without pay if needed. It was suggested you try to find a replacement for the last two scenarios, but it wasn't required.

While I've worked, my grandmother, two uncles, one aunt, my father, both my husband's parents, and my husband's brother died (over a span of many years). My son was hospitalized for several weeks and my mom worked toward death for a month, until she finally passed away. During my son's illness my other son's daughter was kidnapped. My employers helped me immensely, and I'm very grateful for all the caring they showed in all these situations of my soap-opera life.

Some employers aren't out just for themselves...it saddens me that so many seem to be.