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This song gives me chills

"How Do You Get That Lonely" by Blaine Larsen

It was just another story written on the second page

Underneath the Tiger's football score

It said he was only eighteen, a boy about my age

They found him face down on the bedroom floor

There'll be services on Friday at the Lawrence Funeral Home

Then out on Mooresville highway, they'll lay him 'neath a stone...


How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad

To make you make the call, that havin' no life at all

Is better than the life that you had

How do you feel so empty, you want to let it all go

How do you get that lonely ... and nobody know

Did his girlfriend break up with him, did he buy or steal that gun?

Did he lose a fight with drugs or alcohol?

Did his Mom and Daddy forget to say I love you son?

Did no one see the writing on the wall?

I'm not blamin' anybody, we all do the best we can

I know hindsight's 20/20, but I still don't understand ...


How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad

To make you make the call, that havin' no life at all

Is better than the life that you had

How do you feel so empty, you want to let it all go

How do you get that lonely ... and nobody know

It was just another story printed on the second page

Underneath the Tiger's football score ...

I heard this song a few weeks ago one morning while I was working 10-6, I instantly got chills. Anyone else heard it?

OMG I just heard it a few days ago...was crying like a baby...too many people, young and old take their lives..does make you wonder why nobody seems to notice BEFOREhand .


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Just my 2 cents worth.....Some people move through life doing what has to be done and not noticing that people around them are hurting.

A few years ago, I was depressed and started thinking seriously about suicide. I planned it out and one day I went to my gym and was walking on the treadmill and thinking about dying and what it would mean to my friends and family. I determined it would mean nothing to no one. I started crying. There I was, walking and sobbing. Tears running down my face. The gym was packed with people, walking all around me. But I don't believe anyone noticed my tears. Certainly, no one approached me to see if I needed any help or if I was OK.

Thankfully, I received help and survived my ordeal but it has made me more aware of the people in my immediate vacinity. And I do try to help when I can.

The song sounds wonderful. I will be listening for it.


Vickie :balloons:

loriangel14, RN

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

I read an article about this singer. Believe it or not he's only 18! Love the song and the voice. :)

Tweety, BSN, RN

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Vickie, I'm glad you're o.k. I think in this culture tears are so personal and private people are afraid to get involved.

I was the opposite during my suicidal depression in the 1980s I was pretty good at keeping it to myself and saying "I'm fine" when asked, although I was aching inside. I mean physically aching my heart was so heavy.

I had been in therapy, I had gotten all the advice "keep your chin up, hang in there, let go and let God, analyzed the past etc. etc. etc.", so I felt ashamed I couldn't get a grip because in my family willpower and fortitude were supposed to get you through. That's how I was nearly suicidal (and two attempts) and was so lonely and know one knew.

As to the writer of the song not understanding, well if you haven't been there, you can't understand. There is no real understanding.

Well since we are all sharing openly I will be open also. When I was in about the seventh grade I was picked on everyday, made fun of, and it was basically ignored by everyone, "just kids being kids" type stuff. I got as close as I would ever like to get to suicide. In the end when I graduated I loved each and everyone of those people. Last year my best friend was scaring me, he would talk about how everything would be so much better without him and that nobody wanted him around. I remember sitting up several nights talking with him until he was exhausted and basically passed out for the night, I would stay nervous until I saw him at school the next day. So many of our friends didn't take him seriously. Tweety and Vickie, I am greatful that you are with us today. I love people so much, we are each so special and awesome in our own individual ways. I dream of a day when we are socially excepted as unique equals and we can more effectively treat depression.

loriangel14, RN

Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

who is it by?

It's from Blaine Larsens new CD "Off To Join The World". The song is written by Rory Lee Feek.

Tweety, Vicky and all others who have thought of taking matters into our own hands:I have been at that point also. I am so grateful that we are all still here and can combine our strengths to carry out the work of nursing. If we are needed by others, then we need ourselves and that gives us hope to give to those others. LIke all have said, if you haven't been there, it's hard to understand. Sappy?, maybe...but true. Thanks all for this great community of caring. TrustinhartRN

Hugs to all here who can understand the despair that can lead to suicide, and take a moment to reach out to others. That is a great song and I hope many many people take the time to listen thoughtfully to the lyrics. Despair is not as uncommon as we like to think: and includes people with chronic pain and diseases, and in dysfunctional family settings as well as those primarily depressed due to genetics.

My brother's best friend commited suicide and this haunts my brother to this very day...how he did not help him. He feels great guilt because somehow he feels he should have KNOWN his friend's despair. His friend however was the stoic type who toughed it out and did not share his despair. So very sad.

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