the other "things you'd like to tell" threads have been so great -- how about one more?
to the daughter of today's patient: i understand back pain, believe me. i've had the surgery and was off work for six months. don't tell me you're having such severe back pain that you need to sit in my chair -- the one that reaches all the way up to the computer keyboard -- instead of the visitor's chair (which i hunted high and low to find for you since we only have two on the whole 16 bed unit) when you're walking around in 5 inch stilettos. if your back pain were really that bad, you'd be wearing danskos like me. (or any type of shoe that doesn't involve a 5 inch -- or even 3 or 4 inch heel!) sit in the visitor's chair and be grateful that i found it for you. i'm sure your feet do hurt. again, try some more sensible shoes.
yes, your daughter does have dark skin on her forehead. it's the same color as the skin on the rest of her body. i assumed that was because she was african american, but you tell me she wasn't that color before her heart surgery? i'm baffled. no, i don't know what we can do about it, but i'm sure we didn't cause it. if you want to bring in cocoa butter to rub on her forehead, that's fine with me. you can put anything on her forehead you like, but i guarantee you she'll still be an african american when we discharge her. (oh, that's a picture of your daughter on the wall? she has bangs, but otherwise she looks the same color in the picture as she does right now. if i were you, i'd be more worried about the ventilator and the left ventricular assist device.)
There are no visiting hours at our nsg home. So Ms. M's son, who just got out of prison, can show up at 2am, drunk, screaming b/c mom STILL isn't up and walking. I really want to say, "No S____, Sherlock! While you were in prison, mom had a bad car wreck, then a stroke during surgery, and now she is nonresponsive with a trach and a peg tube." But then what do you say after you tell him this (minus the No S___ Sherlock part), and he says, "Well, I'll be back tomorrow nite, and by God, she'd better be up walking, or I'm gonna sue the hell out of you guys." (This said as he is leaning on the wall to avoid falling in the floor) Unfortunately, he is not a drunk who forgets what he said, so the next nite he is back, less drunk, with the same thing.
This cancer is killing your loved one. We can't do more than we already have, don't keep asking for miracles. Change the code status to DNR, sign up with hospice and take him/her home and enjoy the time you have left together in a comfortable environment.
We can't fix genetic problems at our facility, as our gene splicer is currently on the Enterprise being repaired...so please take your inbred psychopath to another facility, we've all had our "beat up' quota met for the month.
parking yourself in your loved one's room at all hours of the day and night and grilling every single person who comes in, then demanding time-consuming little niceties, then making us listen to your life story with your loved one, is not going to get him/her better care. it makes us avoid this room unless and until we have to come in. if i find out you've actually left your post and gone out for an hour (or even 10 minutes) i'll run like the dickens down to your loved one's room to try to get his/her medicines/dressings/assessments in so i don't have to deal with you and your foolishness.
Please don't spend 2 hours telling me about YOUR medical problems. I am your loved ones nurse...so if you want me to take care of him/her...PLEASE SHUT YOUR YAPPER!
You are freaking kidding me?!? You turned on the call light for me to get your mother some ice water all the while you could have gotten it yourself! You know where it is, I saw you fill up your mug earlier!!! I have 10 other residents that need my attention ATM, one of which has poo from her ears to her toes! I will get her some water when I'm through with my poo resident. I will gladly let you clean up said patient to get your mother her water. Ring that call light again for water and I will dump the cold water all over your head. Yelling at me won't make happen any faster. You can **** in one hand and wish in the other for all I care. ARGH!! Maybe you need to make a trip to the ER to have that stick removed from your @**!
You are freaking kidding me?!? You turned on the call light for me to get your mother some ice water all the while you could have gotten it yourself! You know where it is, I saw you fill up your mug earlier!!! I have 10 other residents that need my attention ATM, one of which has poo from her ears to her toes! I will get her some water when I'm through with my poo resident. I will gladly let you clean up said patient to get your mother her water. Ring that call light again for water and I will dump the cold water all over your head. Yelling at me won't make happen any faster. You can **** in one hand and wish in the other for all I care. ARGH!! Maybe you need to make a trip to the ER to have that stick removed from your @**!
Specializes in MICU, ER, SICU, Home Health, Corrections.
Hmm... been reading this thread... sounds like any other day in the eastern appalachian mountains. LOL.
However; when something needs said, it usually gets said... from both sides!
Our families bring sleeping bags and blow-up mattresses though, and usually sleep in the lobby and various waiting rooms in every chair and corner. Sometimes it's impossible to even walk through a waiting room.
They either hover like worried mothers or shoot each other in the head.
There are no visiting hours at our nsg home. So Ms. M's son, who just got out of prison, can show up at 2am, drunk, screaming b/c mom STILL isn't up and walking. I really want to say, "No S____, Sherlock! While you were in prison, mom had a bad car wreck, then a stroke during surgery, and now she is nonresponsive with a trach and a peg tube." But then what do you say after you tell him this (minus the No S___ Sherlock part), and he says, "Well, I'll be back tomorrow nite, and by God, she'd better be up walking, or I'm gonna sue the hell out of you guys." (This said as he is leaning on the wall to avoid falling in the floor) Unfortunately, he is not a drunk who forgets what he said, so the next nite he is back, less drunk, with the same thing.
What in the world do you say to such ignorance?
I think this one goes a bit beyond the "gee if I could only say or do something, I'd........"
If it were me, I'd call the police on this guy - I don't care if it is his mother. No excuse for any of that type of behavior...... None.
Maybe you need to make a trip to the ER to have that stick removed from your @**!
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egomaniacal1
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Thats easy! That's him officer....