They're forcing me to work a different shift

I'm sorry this happen to you. What ever happened to bereavement time off? The lack of empathy is horrible. You just lost someone close to you and you are expected to be awake for 24 hours straight and work in an unsafe condition just so that you could attend a family members funeral...Again, I am so sorry.

I don't know what the repercussions would be for you, but I'd be tempted to call out and tell them that you can't work because you were unable to get any rest and would be unsafe. I had to do that once when I worked night and go no sleep due to insomnia.

I guess the moral of the story is that no good deed goes unpunished. You needed the time off and did your best to work with your employer, only to be jerked around. I don't know if you would have been better off not offering to come in at all or to turn off your phone (because you should have been sleeping!) but I'm sorry you're being treated so poorly.

I would have "called in" as soon as I knew the date and time of the funeral. When you agreed to come in late, you left the door open for negotiation. I also don't answer my phone when my employer calls. They can leave a message if they choose (this includes text), and I can decide if I want to call back or not. If they want me to work and I don't respond, that's a "no".

To Nurse Speedy (& OP) -not all places offer bereavement benefits. It usually only applies to spouses, parents, siblings and offspring. Aunts, uncles, cousins, grands (great-grands are even removed one more generation) are rarely included.

To OP - my condolences on your loss. It is a shame that you tried to be a 'good guy' and got your chain pulled. Your mistake was answering your messages. I'm guessing your employer has the upper hand in that they did offer you an alternative when they really didn't have to. (See my comment to PP.)

Just don't be cutting off your nose to spite your face by resigning. They really don't have a lot of regard for you (as just noted) so resigning will just be a temporary annoying blip to them. And you'll jeopardize unemployment & future job opportunities.

I would tell them no. They already agreed to your shift, they shouldn't be able to change it later

Most places I've worked you don't get leave for this sort of situation unless it's immediate family (and some places don't even count grandparents-it has to be a brother, sister, mother, father, spouse, child, etc).

Since the funeral more than likely wasn't thrown together out-of-the-blue, I would have called off or gotten coverage since I would have obviously known about the funeral for some time.

That aside, unless I've said they can call me in 4 hours early and they haven't called yet, my phone is silent so that I CAN get rest (and work has it's own ringtone so I know it's them even if I hear my phone ringing from another room:cheeky:).

Lessons learned, eh?

xo

Nobody can force you to do anything.

And, nobody forced you to answer the phone, text, or whatever.

FWIW- I wouldn't work an overnight without prepping properly. Too high a chance of me killing somebody.

The hole in the overnight schedule is completely unrelated to your request to come in late. Just some knucklehead trying to leverage that and pressure you into fixing a problem you did not cause.

I would have asked to take a personal day if at all possible. If that were not possible, a person who may stay over a few hours if you needed time to regroup.

As a pp stated, it leaves open to negotiation when you ask for a couple of hours off, or agree to a 11-7 shift.

My condolences on your loss.