The Worst Interview of My Life! Ever!

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Recently I was reading about bait and switch during preliminary interviews. I then recalled the worst interview torture that I was ever subjected to. It was a few years back and I had applied for a nurse educator position in a 74 bed hospital. I was greeted by 2-3 interviewers and we were located in a small conference room. There were probably 8 total chairs in there. During the interview a couple more people came in, then in a few minutes a few more came in, till at one point people were standing. At that time someone mentioned that we would be moving to a larger room.

I was escorted to a very large class room, more like an auditorium really. I sat and waited in front of the class at a small table and chair. As I waited more and more and more people came in, department heads, assistants of department heads, managers, secretarial staff, nurse residents, trainees, every single member of the HR department. Finally the crowd was all settled in and introductions began. Each person introduced themselves and what their position was. No way was I going to remember who all these people were. I'd say there were about 40-50 people there. I mean really? So they start hammering me with questions. Why do you think you should get this job? What makes you qualified? Talk about mob mentality. I felt like I was on the witness stand being drilled by a team of lawyers. There were a couple of mean ones in there too, staring at me as if I were a creepy little bug that they wanted to squash. The one I remember most was the nurse manager of the OR who would roll her eyes. Now, I wish I would have gotten up and walked out leaving them there scratching their heads.

At one point, I quipped, " wow, it looks like everyone is here, Who is running the hospital?" I got several laughs about it. The HR folks told me that they invited everyone who wanted to come (it was an open type of torture for anybody to join in on I guess). Yes, and this was the first interview. I decided I would never work at that hospital. They didn't call me back anyway but I don't think it would have mattered. I was ready to tell them that their practices were unwarranted and unfair and like the Spanish Inquisition. If they treated potential employees that way I couldn't imagine how they treated actual employees.

So... Tell me about your nightmare interview experience.

Had an interview with a director of a department and was told to my face that I'm a risk because I planned on moving near the location with my boyfriend. I was then asked if i researched cost of living in the area because their department lost some great nurses due to relationship breakups and those nurses not being able to afford living in that area. I haven't heard back if i got that job, but i'm going to assume I didn't get it. (didn't realize that being truthful about my living situation was a bad thing during interviews, i guess they just want to hear that you live with family; can i even be denied a job because of what i said?)

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.
23 minutes ago, Samm06 said:

Had an interview with a director of a department and was told to my face that I'm a risk because I planned on moving near the location with my boyfriend. I was then asked if i researched cost of living in the area because their department lost some great nurses due to relationship breakups and those nurses not being able to afford living in that area. I haven't heard back if i got that job, but i'm going to assume I didn't get it. (didn't realize that being truthful about my living situation was a bad thing during interviews, i guess they just want to hear that you live with family; can i even be denied a job because of what i said?)

I am curious: Would you rather the manager lied to you and suggested that you were the ideal candidate ... and then simply not hired you, never giving you a hint as to what her concerns were? At least she told you the truth and gave you an opportunity to address her concerns.

When I am interviewing candidates, I never know how truthful they want me to be. Most people say that they want to hear the truth -- hear the manager's concerns -- so that they can address those concerns. But when you are really honest, you run the risk of being sued, or of offending the candidate.

We moved to MI and I started job-hunting. My first interview was horrible and discouraged me but all other interviews went great.

Nursing manager made me wait because she was with a patient. Then she came over to escort me to a conference room. She was looking at me as I kicked her cat or stole something from her. Never smiled. She asked me a complex questions and while I was answering she just interrupted me with another question. She kept interrupting me and looking at her watch. When I started answering her 100s question she interrupted me again and said to hurry with my answers because there were more questions. They didn't call me back and thanks God, because I hate declining positions. ?

7 minutes ago, llg said:

I am curious: Would you rather the manager lied to you and suggested that you were the ideal candidate ... and then simply not hired you, never giving you a hint as to what her concerns were? At least she told you the truth and gave you an opportunity to address her concerns.

When I am interviewing candidates, I never know how truthful they want me to be. Most people say that they want to hear the truth -- hear the manager's concerns -- so that they can address those concerns. But when you are really honest, you run the risk of being sued, or of offending the candidate.

Personally I don't think it was her business whether i was going to live with a boyfriend or with family. I don't think that should matter when it comes to getting a job. It's not her concern, in my opinion, who or where I live, as long as i make it to work on time and care for my patients. Not every person is the same, i am not those other nurses she lost and she shouldn't judge me for their experiences and situations.

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3 hours ago, Forest2 said:

OMG! Yea, feel like you will pass out, or curled up in a fetal position, moaning and rolling around in bed. Have gone to work like that, leaning over with my head on the desk or rocking back and forth crumpled up. So glad those days are long gone! Bless you.

I had endometriosis too. There were many times when I quickly knelt down to tie my shoe, or pick something up off the floor, or something . . . anything! . . . to allow me to crumple into something close to a fetal position. ?

That's one thing I do not miss!

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.
1 hour ago, Samm06 said:

Personally I don't think it was her business whether i was going to live with a boyfriend or with family. I don't think that should matter when it comes to getting a job. It's not her concern, in my opinion, who or where I live, as long as i make it to work on time and care for my patients. Not every person is the same, i am not those other nurses she lost and she shouldn't judge me for their experiences and situations.

From your point of view, you may want to keep all of your personal situation private ... but from an employer's point of view, they don't want to invest thousands in orientation/turnover costs on hiring people who are unlikely stay very long (and therefore, be worth the investment). It is the Manager's job to assess the applicant's likelihood of being successful in the job and being worth the investment that the hospital will have to make to hire you. So any factors that might influence those things are her business.

By telling her what her concerns are, a manager gives the candidate a chance to address them -- to provide assurances that they will be a good investment in spite of those issues. I like to give people that chance when I can, but sometimes, I feel that I can't.

5 hours ago, llg said:

From your point of view, you may want to keep all of your personal situation private ... but from an employer's point of view, they don't want to invest thousands in orientation/turnover costs on hiring people who are unlikely stay very long (and therefore, be worth the investment). It is the Manager's job to assess the applicant's likelihood of being successful in the job and being worth the investment that the hospital will have to make to hire you. So any factors that might influence those things are her business.

By telling her what her concerns are, a manager gives the candidate a chance to address them -- to provide assurances that they will be a good investment in spite of those issues. I like to give people that chance when I can, but sometimes, I feel that I can't.

Years ago, I sat in a non healthcare interview where my late 50s old school, male, Korean GM made our HR officer squeal in her seat in horror as he repeatedly asked over and over about a female candidate's personal life plans by gently nudging her to reveal her personal plans. Alluding to whether she was married or planned on having kids, because the place was a total *** hole and the (Korean) manager she was replacing worked over 80 hours a week and he wasn't going to deal with someone putting up with anything less than that or calling out because their child's sick, let alone even contemplate the concept of maternity leave. And it was glaringly obvious to everyone as he stopped the interview and just kept rehashing his questions in every possible combination until she gave in.

It was a rather sad affair as he became more and more direct and impatient as she kept dodging. She had made it immediately clear from the get go that she didn't want to discuss her personal life and he kept aggressively pushing. In the end, doubted if she would've ever accepted given the look of disgust in her face by the end of the interview. Our HR officer was sweating bullets and immediately called GM for a meeting after that panel interview. Though, to be fair I heard later on she was the relative of a of our HR officer and was hand picked by her for the position and our GM was possibly making it clear how he felt by breaking her down in front of the executive staff and me.

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6 hours ago, llg said:

From your point of view, you may want to keep all of your personal situation private ... but from an employer's point of view, they don't want to invest thousands in orientation/turnover costs on hiring people who are unlikely stay very long (and therefore, be worth the investment).

An employer cannot in any way, shape or form ask the candidate who they live with (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, parents etc) , because this is a way to determine the candidates marital status. Any questions pertaining to a candidates non-marital, or otherwise marital status is strictly illegal period.

Similar personal questions like, "do you have any children?" or, "do you plan to have a family?" Again seemingly innocent, but yet very much illegal to ask.

These sort of questions lead some employers not to hire strictly on the assumption the prospective candidate may take maternity leave, or may need time off to care for a sick child. That my friend is the very definition of what constitutes hiring discrimination.

You can however, ask how long a candidate has lived at their current address. But you cannot ask them other questions like if they rent or own the home, how many people they live with, if they live with their parents, or a husband / boyfriend etc.. etc..

Doesn't matter what the employer's point of view is... It just doesn't.

Specializes in RN BS.
9 hours ago, Samm06 said:

Had an interview with a director of a department and was told to my face that I'm a risk because I planned on moving near the location with my boyfriend. I was then asked if i researched cost of living in the area because their department lost some great nurses due to relationship breakups and those nurses not being able to afford living in that area. I haven't heard back if i got that job, but i'm going to assume I didn't get it. (didn't realize that being truthful about my living situation was a bad thing during interviews, i guess they just want to hear that you live with family; can i even be denied a job because of what i said?)

Smh. I guess absolute power corrupts absolutely.

22 hours ago, RNinheart said:

We moved to MI and I started job-hunting. My first interview was horrible and discouraged me but all other interviews went great.

Nursing manager made me wait because she was with a patient. Then she came over to escort me to a conference room. She was looking at me as I kicked her cat or stole something from her. Never smiled. She asked me a complex questions and while I was answering she just interrupted me with another question. She kept interrupting me and looking at her watch. When I started answering her 100s question she interrupted me again and said to hurry with my answers because there were more questions. They didn't call me back and thanks God, because I hate declining positions. ?

I myself have interviewed people. I taught myself how to do it. I offer a bottle of cold water, am friendly and interactive with the candidate. I tell them what I plan on doing and I do it. I listen. But, I guess a lot of people don't have the initiative to learn now to do things right. Why do something half right or totally wrong?

I bet you felt like you were a burden she had to bear. LOL. There have been some interesting stories about interviews.

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.
14 hours ago, Crash_Cart said:

An employer cannot in any way, shape or form ask the candidate who they live with (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, parents etc) , because this is a way to determine the candidates marital status. Any questions pertaining to a candidates non-marital, or otherwise marital status is strictly illegal period.

Similar personal questions like, "do you have any children?" or, "do you plan to have a family?" Again seemingly innocent, but yet very much illegal to ask.

These sort of questions lead some employers not to hire strictly on the assumption the prospective candidate may take maternity leave, or may need time off to care for a sick child. That my friend is the very definition of what constitutes hiring discrimination.

You can however, ask how long a candidate has lived at their current address. But you cannot ask them other questions like if they rent or own the home, how many people they live with, if they live with their parents, or a husband / boyfriend etc.. etc..

Doesn't matter what the employer's point of view is... It just doesn't.

True ... but it's a little more complex than you imply. If a candidate volunteers information indicating that indicates that they are not a good fit for a job, that information may be used. There are a few specific items an interviewer may not ask ... but the number is fewer than you might think ... and volunteered information is another issue.

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development.
13 hours ago, Chan Chan said:

Smh. I guess absolute power corrupts absolutely.

You think middle-managers have "absolute power?"

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