Supportive Spouses/Significant Other

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i hear so many sad stories of students, rns,and lpns, having to put up with mean, abusive, lazy, crappy, husbands, or wives or they put up with this from a boyfriend or girlfriend. does anyone out there have a supportive mate? :confused: i went thru the abusive husband routine my self. that was a long time ago. i have been with my boyfriend for eight years, and he is always supportive of me. he wants me to quit working completely for the whole time i am in nursing school.

i see this as a blessing. i just have trouble with not working at all.

he is a hard worker, good to me and my family, saves money, and treats me like a queen. i am nervous about not working. he makes sure i don't want for anything. so, what is up with me? i think i feel guilty and worry it will be a little rough on him? he really is a great guy. :kiss anyone else feel a little weird for not working? i am very greatful for this gift. not complaining at all. :) let me hear some from some of you.

And I just wanna say I am so warmed to hear all the nice posts here tonight. I am near tears. With all thats wrong with the world, we don't hear enough about the *good stuff*

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What a great thread! My husband has been incredibly supportive. In fact, it was his idea that I go back to school. He knew I wasn't happy with my job and encouraged me to look at nursing, as he thought I would make a great nurse. I stopped working last January, so I could carry a full course load of pre-requisites. I have just started my first semester of nursing school and money is getting really tight. I offered to get a part time job but he said not to stress myself out by trying to do too much.

I would never be able to do this without his support. I am so blessed to have him as my husband.

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bonjovigirl, it sounds like you're married to my husband! I like what you said at the end of your post about your marriage being as close to perfect as one can get. That's how I feel about my marriage, too. You're right; it's really nice to hear about the "good stuff."

Thanks for sharing all your stories, everyone.

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I have met my knight in shining armour. And he showed up when I was'nt even looking.

i agree...

i have been remarried for only 4 1/2 months. i was finishing up my pre reqs when my husband asked me to marry him. he actually asked me on the same day i got my acceptance letter!

he is extremely supportive, together we have 4 children (2 are his, and 2 are mine, all boys!!)

i have to drive 140 miles round trip, and he makes sure if I am going to be late that he gets away from work to pick kids up, feed them, etc. he makes sure i have all evening to study, he is really great.

I thank God for him!

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If it wern't for my spouse I wouldn't be the person I am today.

He let me be myself and supported all of my accomplishments.

He and My children have made many sacrifices for me.

Without their support I would have made it through Nsg. school and still be sane. :D

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Well, I usually just read and don't post but I have to say that I have a wonderful husband too. He pushes and pushes, says he is investing in me.....(wants a new truck after I graduate!!) but is always there! If I need to study all day at the library, he is taking care of the kids (5) or cooking or laundry! Never any complaints, I think I too feel a bit guilty but he is my second husband, (did I mention that my sweetheart is also my companion in raising the 4 older kids from my first marriage?) He is really good to me. BUT!! He is leaving for Afganastain on Saturday until sometime this summer, so I am flying solo...kids...school....church responsibilities...housework...cooking....getting tired thinking about it. I will enjoy and cherish every minute I have left with him, you just never know what will happen.

Michelle in Alaska

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Hi! everyone. I am happy to read all these great stories of the loving support so many of us have. There ARE good men out there

and a lot of us know that. My honey sees us as a team. He is so good to me, it just makes me cry to think of how blessed I am.

I had a really abusive marriage and my self esteem was non existant. Then one day, I got the courage to get out. My trust in men was not good. I definately was not looking for a mate when

I met Richard. We were friends and he thought I was SO smart.

Everytime I would say I was interested in something, he would say, Why don't you do it? I would in turn say... Me? I can't do that.

And he would ALWAYS say... As smart as you are, you can do anything. He was serious. And pretty soon, I started to BELIEVE I might be a little smart. What a difference! :)

He has encouraged me from day one. I always tell him how much

I appreciate him and the things he does. I told him I want him to take a couple of months off work when I get my license and start

working. He said," you've got a deal gorgeous" BOY! Is he good

for my ego or what? :kiss Thanks to all of you for listening! Big hugs to each of you. Helen

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It's so cool to read all of these posts!! I just had my boyfriend of 7 years leave me because I wanted to go to nursing school before starting a family and he wanted a family and kids NOW!!!

I am starting my accelerated BSN this May. . . it's only 12 months and then I will be a nurse!!

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I HAVE A WONDERFULLY SUPPORTIVE MAN WHO HAS BLESSED ME TREMENDOUSLY. HE HAS GIVEN ME A BEAUTIFUL, HEALTHY, INTELLIGENT DAUGHTER. HE HAS GIVEN ME WONDERFUL AND SUPPORTIVE FAMILY AND FRIENDS. HE HAS GIVEN ME THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE WHATEVER MY HEART DESIRES. HE HAS GIVEN ME A CLEAN ROOF OVER MY HEAD, RELIABLE TRANSPORTATION, A DECENT JOB, A PEACE OF MIND AND THE ABILITY TO ACCOMPLISHED ALL OF MY GOALS. HE SUPPORTS MY DECISIONS 100% AND EVEN BLESSES ME WITH OPPORTUNITIES TO MAKE THEM HAPPEN. I LOVE MY MAN WITH MY WHOLE HEART AND SOUL. I CAN'T BELIEVE HE CHOSE TO BLESS ME WITH A SIMPLE LIFE, FREE OF WORRIES AS LONG AS I OBEY HIM. SOME OF YOU MAY KNOW MY MAN. HIS NAME IS GOD. ;)

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I just want to say God Bless these wonderful spouses and significant others!

I also have a supportive husband of 14 years who is Active Duty Army. He encouraged my decision to quit work and go back to school full time. I have been struggling with this decision for years now for a variety of reasons. I start nursing school next week all thanks to him. He is truly an angel!

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I also have to say how wonderful my boyfriend is. He completely understands that this is something I have to do for myself and he knows that our lack of time together is just temporary until I graduate. I thank God every day that I have him and he is so supportive.

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originally posted by sunnyrn2b

....went thru the abusive husband routine my self. that was a long time ago. ..... so, what is up with me? ......

hi there sunnyrn2b,

your hesitation sounds very reasonable to me. you've been down the path of manipulation via dependancy before. thank goodness you have such a good history with this boyfriend.

maybe you need to promise yourself to assess your emotional health often to check for any signs of diminished self-esteem. lets face it, there is potential for co dependancy if you are relying on him for everything.

your hesitation is good, the fear of guilt may be a very loud warning signal that you need to adress your own emotional health, self esteem and well being.

if he an you are going to be life partners, sounds like he is not trying to manipulate but, be a parnter.

good luck!!

jen

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