Published Nov 13, 2008
JenDoll
5 Posts
I started nursing earlier this January and ever since then I've been MIA to friends. I miss my party, easy life.
I really want to be a nurse so I hope all this works out for me. Better be worth it.:nuke:
Nurse 2009
38 Posts
I started nursing earlier this January and ever since then I've been MIA to friends. I miss my party, easy life.I really want to be a nurse so I hope all this works out for me. Better be worth it.:nuke:
I am about to graduate in 3 weeks and I understand exactly what you are going through. I have really lost a lot of contact with my friends and family. Some of them understand and some do not. I know that Nursing was worth everything to me. It is important to follow your dreams. True friends and family should understand. It will be hard but in the end you will come out on top and be happy with the sacrifices you have made.
I really hope so. It gets quite sad sometimes though. I log on my space sometimes and see all their pics hanging out and I just look around and what I see front is my HUGE nursing book. But yes, you're correct. Thanks for that reply. Let's me know I'm not the only one. Nursing is really haaaard. So much time I have to put in studying.. I used to never study in highschool EVER and I still got good grades. Now I do. It's a huge, huge, huge difference in my life now that I'm trying to enter this field.
PEBBLES1
284 Posts
Hey Jen Doll, did anybody tell you that u wouldn't have a life. Is this your 1st semester? Let me tell you, if u want 2b a good student and nurse, your party life is over 4 awhile. When we have family trips or reunions, I take my books EVERYWHERE. My books still sleep with me. I told my hubby that I was having an affair with my books. All jokes 2 the side, u might even lose friends, that's ok b cuz if u do, then they were not ur friends 2 begin with and u will gain new friends. A good friend will b understanding, support u and help u. So good luck and stay focus
dragon_fly
6 Posts
Boy do know about living with my books! They are by me most of the time. My family has gotten used to me disappearing with my books during family functions. Either that or I am typing out a care plan on my laptop.
Some of my friends have told me that they feel like I have left them. It is hard and I feel bad but it is true that your real friends will understand and support you. Yeah, we all miss having a social life but that is where you have decide what is more important to you right now. Hang tough! It doesn't last forever.
NurseLoveJoy88, ASN, RN
3,959 Posts
I try my best to balance working, school and quality time with family and friends. Work is really taking most of my time though, may have to look for another job. Any way, you must have a balance. Don't cut everyone off, just minimize the time you spend with them. Sometimes all I need is a hug from my boyfriend to calm me down, and tell me I will get through this.... when stressful times come I need to be around people who love me the most. Not classmates, not note books, not instructors, but I need to be with God, my family, and my loving boyfriend. I'm 19, so you think its easy for me not to be able to hang out with my friends ? Hang n there. It'll all be worth it.
Bobylon
232 Posts
Hang tough, JenDoll .....it WILL work out for you, and it WILL be worth it As previous posters mentioned, true friends would understand...... life goes on :)
Jules A, MSN
8,864 Posts
Kudos to you! I wouldn't have had the maturity to do this at your age. Hang in there and when you have your degree you will be able to shape your life as you choose. The time will go quickly, I promise.
NurseWannabe1129
111 Posts
Oh boy can I relate! Just remember, C=RN. It's good to be a diligent student, but don't kill yourself. I felt really guilty this semester because the day before our second exam I had tickets for a Giants game. (Tailgating is probably the best thing.. EVER.)
I did plenty of studying.. So I don't know why I felt guilty. A woman in my class told me not be guilty because life is all about balance. To tell you the truth, my time with my friends and family is my time. My book time is my book time. I have a nursing life and I have a (somewhat) life. LoL!
Keep your chin up! And just think of all the great friends you have (hopefully) made in nursing school.
ErinJane
180 Posts
I can identify alot. I just went out with a friend tonight who proceeded to spend the whole night giving me a guilt trip for how absent I have been. But sometimes its worth it. And I really believe nursing is worth it.
We can do it.
Good luck.
CCIlovePinkCC
19 Posts
I know what you're going through! I've soo been there. I think I lost friends because a lot of my friends either had kids and didn't go to college or dropped out after a few semesters. I'm 23, married, still in school working on my 2nd college degree. I think some of the people I used to hang out with find it hard to relate to me anymore. School comes first with my time and people don't understand that a lot. Anyway, I remember when I first started on my 1st degree how much I wanted to be a nurse. I finally got into nursing school and was the happiest I'd ever been. Honestly, there are days I want to quit. Sometimes I just want friends, an easy job, and fun...but I know nursing school is temporary and will be rewarding for the rest of my life. Don't give up, it's sooo going to be worth it one day.
RhodyGirl, RN
823 Posts
I understand!! Out of everyone I used to hang out with, only 2 of my friends have stuck around and still speak with me. I'm a newlywed and am very lucky to have a supportive husband. But, not everyone will understand how time consuming NS is. Just stay focused and keep doing what you're doing. We'll all make it and be proud and happy in the end!:heartbeat