Sorry, I had to vent...I'm tired of these high school games...

[ineedchocolate]

I know I shouldnt care about what other people think, but the people in my nursing class are horrible. It's my first nursing school semester and my class is quite small. It's unbelievable how much gossip is occuring! you have ur usual know-it-alls, or people who think they they know so much because they have previously worked in the medical field (ie: cna's,etc..).....then there are others that think that teachers have high expectations of them since they are "so good" and flaunt it in class about how high their grades are.....and look down on people that have a C+ or less on an exam ....you know how people learn from mistakes, but if ONE person makes a mistake (a simple error that did not cost anyone's life)?... in my class.....there are cliques forming and discuss about how that person is going to fail, that they are stupid and dont deserve to be in the program. I've never been surrounded with such negativity in a class. They love to talk down about others but will never confront them......They base everything on grades (supposedly,only the high B and A students will make it)....and the ones who are getting "average" grades are the ones they "predict" to fail....funny thing is, i know many nurses that got average grades and hated book work yet they are doing a fine job in such units as med surg or even the ER...

I can imagine what kind of nurses they are going to be once they graduate......

But i feel like im in high school all over again.....

not only do the teachers get on ur case...but now there are particular "negative" students that think so highly of themselves and rub in it...

and i have no medical experience whatsoever, but it seems like nobody cares to understand and will continue to mark u as "dumb" just bcoz u r not in the same level of inteligence as they are.

unfortunately, i'll be stuck with these people for another year...

Are any of you believers of karma? coz i believe that one day....their attitudes and negativity will catch up to them and they'll know how it feels to be humiliated and looked down upon..

[midcom]

I believe that those who are constantly finding fault are just insecure & have to tear someone else down to make themselves feel better. Try to ignore it if you can.

There is one guy in my class who I happen to like alot because I understand him. He is extremely intelligent & maybe that's why I am willing to look the other way when he rolls his eyes at an incorrect answer or makes some inappropriate remark. Often people with such intelligence just don't have the "people skills" and don't relate to those of us who really have to work to learn. Eventually it will catch up with them, probably breezing through class work but struggling with actual skills. They'll need us eventually.

Dixie

[SummerGarden, BSN, MSN, RN]

I do not like high school games either, so I do not play along! I am a true believer in defining my experiences both negative and positive. I look at what I can do to contribute to my experience being negative and choose to do things that are positive.

In your case, I not only would not share my grades (instructors don't so why should I?) I also would not spend much time listening to a student's opinion of me regarding my performance unless it is a helpful critique. I exist in a reality where I pretend to have no idea what others are saying about me. This means that despite anything I might hear, I treat negative students positively.

I also counter any comments that they say to my face with something positive. For example, one student (a current CNA) made note to the fact that I did not instantaneously learn to do BPs the moment we were taught in skills lab. I told her that it was "nice that she had the time before school to learn to take BPs in the real world, but I am going to need to practice." Big deal, right? I practiced and now I am good at taking BPs.

By the way, I find that negative "know-it-alls" try to be on his/her best behavior around people who act in a positive manner. For instance all the students that rubbed me the wrong way when school began are now kissing my butt and asking to hang out with me.

I have also noticed that people who talk trash about others really care about what people think of them and are usually very scared of criticism! Watch them crumble when the day comes that an instructor critiques them in a negative way. In the mean time, do not give them the power to control your nursing school experience. They are cowards and not worth the bandwidth you used to type your post!

[NurseguyFL]

Some people will always try to project their own insecurity on to others to make themselves feel better. I have always believed that one can never learn too much, so I listen to criticism and take from it whatever I need to improve my own knowledge and skills. The negativity and the gossiping I simply ignore because it takes too much time and energy to get caught up in that nonsense, and its never worth it.

[firstyearstudent]

Sometimes when we feel insecure ourselves we see and feel criticism when there actually is none or exaggerate what is actually there.

Hold your head up, feel proud of what you have accomplished, give people the benefit of the doubt and things may turn around.

[AmyORlpn]

i have a few in my class like that and it is very frustrating. anytime you ask a question in class they roll their eyes at you and snicker.......

i don't like it at all....

lpn student in or

[Psqrd]

I always bust them out when they snicker with "Oh did I say something funny?" right in front of the instructor...that usually quiets them down with all eyes on them.

P

[kukukajoo, LPN]

Sorry you are going through this but I think it is more common than we would like to admit. I think part of it is that just to get into nursing school you have to be best of the best and they still have that mentality. But you know, good grades do not mean good clinicals and in my school it only takes one unsatisfactory in a clinical to be failed and out of the program!

And yes, Karma does happen and that just thrills me to pieces!

[mistydave]

I am starting april and am a little concerned about this sort of thing. Hate that sort of stuff, and not sure how to not let it bother me. oh my.

[Bella Donna]

I had to deal with this type of behavior when I went through Cometology school a few years ago. I hated every minute of it, But in the end, the "brainy" students are the ones that at the end of the semester that was running around trying to get hings checked off so they could move on to the next semester. After we all graduated, I learned that there were 4 out of the 6 in the "group" that failed the state boards. They did not get their license to work. So yes to answer your question, I do believe in Karma. I am a firm believer.

I am about to start school again for Nursing, I was hoping to avoid this behavior in this class, but unfortunatley, I may not be that lucky, when I went to orientation yesterday, there were quite a few Younger folks in there that would not be quite while they were explaining the basic information to us. If this is any indication of what is to come I am gonna need lots of prayers to get me through and alot of prayers to get me to stay quite. So start sending prayers my way now. PLEASE!

[Alexsys]

I always bust them out when they snicker with "Oh did I say something funny?" right in front of the instructor...that usually quiets them down with all eyes on them.

P

Ha! I did that too!

Seriously. I think that happens in almost every class. I used to think that once I was done, I can choose not see them again if I didnt want to

[nj1grlcrus]

Hang in there, the goal of Nursing school is to learn as much as you can and pass all classes and the NCLEX. A, B or C doesn't really matter, just as long as you pass. I am lucky, I have a great class, we work together, and half of us were on the waiting list. I think our class is the best, not the B list, like one of my classmates called herself. Hope we stay together for all of school and all succeed. Good luck to you