So my family does not approve me to go into nursing..

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Hello everyone

I have been very depressed since yesterday. I am working so hard in doing my pre requisites but my family doesnt approve my choice of becoming a nurse .

They say its too much stress and pressure and they see me more in education

:( im so sad. I really wanted to realize my dream and was ready to travel miles to become a nurse. I applied to a nursing school that is outside my city and hoping to receive an acceptance letter from them in april.

They say i should consider online schools and get an LPN instead of a BSN ,it would be less stressful.

Any advice? Should i rebel and still follow my dream?

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

How old are you? Will your family be paying for your education? Also, racial-ethnic background plays a factor since parents from some cultures exert control over the lives of their adult children for years to come.

Some people will disagree with my words, but I also had to go against the grain of overbearing parents who wanted to make ill-advised choices for me well into early adulthood. To be brief, do not accept career advice from parents. Parents, frequently under the guise of "I am looking out for my child's best interests," want to propel their adult children onto certain careers.

Some parents believe that because they are older, they know better than you regarding what you like and what you'd enjoy doing. In reality, parents can be terrible in predicting the workplace future. You are going to be the one who lives in a world surrounded by your future, not theirs. They created their own futures through the choices they made as young adults, and now they want to choose for you. Don't fall for the parent trap. You are an adult.

Obviously, launching into adulthood and making your own choices will be easier if you are not financially dependent on parents. However, if they are funding your education and providing you with a place to live, you will not be able to cut the umbilical cord until you become self-sufficient.

There are no LPN programs that are completely online. You will have to attend clinical rotations several times per week. If possible, be firm and tell your parents you want to be a nurse. Come up with 25 reasons why and restate these reasons to them. Good luck to you!

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Thank you very much 'the commuter' for your wonderful advice . I just turned 19, and i received a scholarship, so during my BSN, i will be able to pay for my residence and my school fees with that scholarship

Thank you so much once again :)

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Thank you very much 'the commuter' for your wonderful advice . I just turned 19, and i received a scholarship, so during my BSN, i will be able to pay for my residence and my school fees with that scholarship

Thank you so much once again :)

If you are receiving a scholarship to pay for tuition and housing, definitely pursue your dreams. So many people would love to be in a position of attending nursing school without depending on student loans or family for financial help. Go for it!
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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

I agree with The Commuter's posts. :yes:

With that being said, if I listened to my mother's advice, I wouldn't have gotten far in my life; although I was raised to be objective, my mother thought that her decisions were best. :no:

I went against the grain and got my education, and my decisions were the best fit for me, and that's what matters. :yes:

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
With that being said, if I listened to my mother's advice, I wouldn't have gotten far in my life; although I was raised to be objective, my mother thought that her decisions were best.
Similar story here. I come from a family with low educational attainment. My parents had (and still have) very old-school views of the employment market. They graduated from high school in the 1970s during a time when one could still find a decently-paying job at a factory, steel mill, automobile plant, unionized supermarket, or other entry-level job, and remain there until retirement.

By the time I graduated from high school in the late 1990s, those days were gone forever, and the nature of the job market had changed structurally. Highly-paying entry level jobs had been replaced with low-wage service sector jobs. Although I had been accepted to three regional state universities, my parents discouraged me from attending and actively obstructed my efforts. After all, their mindset was still stuck in a time when people didn't need higher education to earn a good living.

It takes courage to go against the grain of parents who believe they know what's best, especially if you were raised to not question their authority. However, I would be trapped if I had remained in the world of dead-end retail jobs and hard-labor factory work.

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There are no online courses for nursing for people who don't have previous degrees in nursing. There are no online LVN courses.

You can safely ignore your mother. And if you have a scholarship for fees and dorm/board you don't need to be beholden to her for money. This is marvelous! Congratulations! Do you have any idea how many people would do, oh, I don't know what! to be in your shoes? Go! Don't hesitate! GO!

If you want to tell her something she wants to hear, tell her that one of the major activities in nursing IS education, and you will have specific coursework in that too.

Go forth and do good work. Stay in touch with us-- if you don't think you can get support from her, you are an adult now and you ca choose your own supports. You will find plenty of support here!

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Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

unless a parent is a nurse they really do not know what they are talking about. Every job can be stressful to some degree. A lot depends on the individual's disposition and character. I personally think being an LVN is equally as stressful as RN, especially when you consider you are earning far less and doing many of the same tasks (not all, but a lot). Being poor is stressful to me. You know yourself best and you know best how to deal with your family. I wish you good luck in your career choice whatever it is!!

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Specializes in CNA.
If you are receiving a scholarship to pay for tuition and housing, definitely pursue your dreams. So many people would love to be in a position of attending nursing school without depending on student loans or family for financial help. Go for it!

I agree with this whole heartedly. Your family may be upset but will truly respect you by following your dreams in the long run. You will be able to attend school by grants, scholarships and loans. Go for it!

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Don't fret too much... They'll show up for graduation when you receive your BSN :yes:

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You earned a scholarship, use it for what YOU wanna do. Good luck

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OMG take this opportunity ... follow your dreams! You have a scholarship and as you progress in school you'll make friends and you'll gather more support. Go! Go! Go! =) Your parents will not be the ones who have to live day to day with the career you elect. YOU will be the one living and experiencing life as a nurse. All fields can be stressful, especially when you don't have drive for what you're doing ... so if nursing is what you want ----- go out and chase that dream and make it become reality.

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