Single in nursing school

manna, BSN, RN · Feb 8, 2005

Nursing school can be tough on a relationship anyway - I wouldn't worry about it. Have fun! :)

My BSN program is just the opposite - most everyone is young and unattached... out of 50 of us, I'd say only about 5 are married, and even fewer have kids! :)

twinmommy+2, ADN, BSN, MSN · Feb 9, 2005

Hello everyone,
I am 22 (23 in April) and single in nursing school. I am in my second semester of the BSN program at my university. I feel almost everyone in my level is either married or in a relationship. Should I feel bad about this? I always wanted to get married and have children but I'm afraid it's not going to happen in the future.
Is it bad to be by yourself (some of my friends like to make a big deal out of it)?
Thanks for your support.

Oh man, I envy you in a way. I am 29, married and have three kids under 4 years old and I am in my last year of an ADN program. You are in a good position to go to school now and don't let your friends let you feel less than something if you don't have a relationship right now. Its good to be self centered while in school. Some men don't understand how much time it takes to study and they feel left out. It can put a real burden on a relationship this school stuff.

KrisRNwannabe · Feb 9, 2005

I wouldn't worry to much about being single. you will have plenty of time for relationships when you get out of school. I know it is hard when all of your friends are in relationships or married. I think us married people tend to forget what it is like to be single. My husband and I started dating in high school. 10 years later we are still together and our 4 year wedding ann. is coming up. so i too forget what it is like to be single. but hang in there have fun now and settle down later. sometimes i think i missed out being in a long term relationship all the through college (the 1st time I went!!) now that I am back in school it is nice to have him for support. you will find someone just give it time!!

kris

JenNJFLCA · Feb 9, 2005

My boyfriend feels neglected all the time. I feel bad, but I need to keep my grades up for grad school potential. Being in a relationship is soooo stressful in nursing school. I wouldn't trade my boyfriend for anything---he is wonderful--- but that's another stress I have on top of school.

ThisNurseLovesJesus · Feb 9, 2005

Hi there single student in Wisconsin,

I am 25 and graduating in a couple months. After seeing all my friends from high school get married, I finally came to the realization that it is not my time and for a reason. God wants me to travel and meet people and see the world. I'll start to worry, maybe, when I'm 30 or 35 but we're so young! We can be travel nurses!! I plan to do that. Go all over the country. Also, if you're interested in volunteer opportunities, there is a program called Mercy Ships. I think they have like 3 cruise line size ships that go to third world countries. They need doctors, nurses, etc to volunteer to go on these ships to work. People walk for days, weeks, to get medical treatment. Amazing surgeries are done that change so many peoples lives. That is something I plan to do. You have to pay for room and board so unless you are rich you can only afford to maybe go for a month at the most. You can go for as little at 2 weeks. Check out their website. So in conclusion, don't worry. Nursing school is hard, you need all the time you can to study not get wrapped up in a realtionship. You have the rest of your life to settle down and have kids, you can't up and travel then, so enjoy it now!

~ Aimee :)

targa · Feb 9, 2005

You feel badly about being 22 and single?!?

You have a lot to learn...

Youth is wasted on the young.

hypnotic_nurse · Feb 9, 2005

Don't sweat it. When the time is right, you will meet THE guy. You don't want to rush things and get someone who isn't quite what you had in mind. (Take it from someone who did marry Mr. Almost Right for pretty similar reasons that this is not what you want.)

Your friends who are making a big deal of it must feel the need to be validated in their own choices (usually it's an insecure person or an unhappy person who feels everyone else must pursue the same life path they did).

youknowho · Feb 9, 2005

WOW. How lucky you are that the only person you have to worry about it yourself. As a 31 year old wife and mother of twins SOMETIMES I wish i could come home to a clean, empty house with no dishes and laundry piled as high as the sky or not having to worry about doctors appointment, sick kids, etc etc. Enjoy this time of youth and finish school!!

DeniseRNBSN · Feb 9, 2005

Hello everyone,
I am 22 (23 in April) and single in nursing school. I am in my second semester of the BSN program at my university. I feel almost everyone in my level is either married or in a relationship. Should I feel bad about this? I always wanted to get married and have children but I'm afraid it's not going to happen in the future.
Is it bad to be by yourself (some of my friends like to make a big deal out of it)?
Thanks for your support.

I divorced by husband and went to nursing school in 1997 at the age of 26. I was a single mom with two children and did better in school than I could have ever done with a man in my life.

Most of the women in nursing school with me had marital problems because school is very demanding. Don't worry about your friends, they most likely have to pick up the kids, cater to hubby, cook dinner, cater to hubby, do laundry, cater to hubby, clean the house, cater to hubby, and then study.

Did I mention cater to hubby? :chuckle

Be happy that you don't have someone that demands your attention all the time.

Good luck to you

Denise

lunakat · Feb 9, 2005

no husband, boyfriend, no kids = less stress when in school

I am one of the only 2 people in my class who are single. Sometimes I feel lonely sure, but when I really sit down in think about it I don't even have time for a man! Its hard to date someone who is not in school as well because they sometimes have a hard time with the fact you really have to study all the time. For me it's just easier to not have a man. There will be all the time in the world for you to find someone when ya get out of school.

Audreyfay · Feb 9, 2005

The only way I would want to be married and in nursing school, would be if he were SUPPORTING ME! 100% As in he makes the money and takes care of the house, cooking, cleaning, cars, bills, etc. The only job I would have is school. I am rather envious of you being young, independent, and at the beginning of your career. You are going to be absolutely perfect! Look at it this way, maybe you will meet one of those rich doctors, and find a husband there! :chuckle I wouldn't want it for me, but I know many who married doctors! They look for mates too!

A little about me, I married while I was in my last term of my ADN. I was 19. I was married for almost 5 years. At the age of 23, I was divorced with a 10 month old girl. You don't wanna go there.

:Melody: Be good and enjoy every moment, every experience you are getting to enjoy now. This time will soon be gone. And you'll be asking, "what was I in such a hurry for?"

Doug85 · Feb 9, 2005

There was another thread about this very topic. However, I see where she is coming from. I am a single 19 y/o sophomore male at my community college and many of my friends are in relationships. It's tough sometimes when you come home and have no one to rant to about how tough that test was. Each situation has its positives as well as its negatives.