I don't think this counts as full bullying but..so in one of my science classes some students have been "picking on" me (I sound like a whiny baby saying that!) But it really bothered me today. In all my other classes people treat me fine! I have friends in other classes not everyone but nowhere near to pick on me.
In this class it's different and I'm usually laughed at for something stupid like last week someone made fun of how I cough of all things or when we're getting lab supplies I get shoved and told I'm in the way.
But for example today I asked a question about the animal we were dissecting and a student said to another student in the seats in front of me "she asked [insert my question] What a dumb a**" and laughed.
Then as we were cleaning up I was teased by the two students. And..I can't even say about what. I just know I got upset and said "leave me alone" and one girl said "you want to take this outside?" And as she came up right in my face i though "i shouldn't have said that" But the other girl said to her "come on she's not worth it" and honestly I don't know what I did that they dislike me so much! I don't do anything but my classwork. The teacher did tell the class I got the highest grade on the midterm. But give me a break noone has the highest grade in every class so who cares. I don't think I act like I'm smart I just do my work and talk to my lab partner who's fine to me.
Anyway it upset me a lot. I know I'll never see them again after this class is done (no nursing majors). I'm just getting tired of it I guess.
I'll just get through this class. It's almost over. Just it embarrasses me and I feel stupid when I get picked on in the class. One guy said I probably go home and spend 100 hours on the homework.
Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.
Mmm, yeah, I would not recommend doing this.
Why not? OP has every right to stand up for herself, this is not a threat or verbally assualting someone. Unless the classmates are saying actual threats, it's unlikely a Dean or Professor would do anything. Either she learns to stand up for herself now or she will be fall victim to the bullies she will meet in the nursing world.
Hm. For those that are premed, if they are included in this, I really hope they grow up before becoming a doctor or that they choose another major. Not that anyone should be behaving in such a way.
I would document all of the incidents should it come down to needing to go to someone on campus about it or if legal action becomes necessary (re: threats/violence). I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. This is absolutely ridiculous.
I see there's a lot of good advice on here already so I won't give much impute since it's pretty much in line with what everyone has already said. However, I just wanted to express my condolences for what you are going through. How horrible!!! And I'm so sorry for what these people are doing to you!! However, you must be doing something right if these people are so hell-bent on knocking you down. But you're right it's almost over, so just remember that these people will not make or break your success...unless you let them. But I have a feeling you won't because you're pretty strong (and brave) so you'll go on to have great success!! Best of luck to you!!
I see there's a lot of good advice on here already so I won't give much impute since it's pretty much in line with what everyone has already said. However, I just wanted to express my condolences for what you are going through. How horrible!!! And I'm so sorry for what these people are doing to you!! However, you must be doing something right if these people are so hell-bent on knocking you down. But you're right it's almost over, so just remember that these people will not make or break your success...unless you let them. But I have a feeling you won't because you're pretty strong (and brave) so you'll go on to have great success!! Best of luck to you!!
Thank you! Your reply really touched me!!
On wed when I had that class again, when the same girl started with me I said "maybe you missed the memo that we're in college not high school" which is now the 2nd time I've spoken up for myself. She tried to turn it around somehow and say I didn't know I was in college or something but she sounded dumb and knew it I think and she backed off. I ignored her the rest of the class when she made 2 more remarks but this time I ignored feeling kind of better :)
On wed when I had that class again, when the same girl started with me I said "maybe you missed the memo that we're in college not high school" which is now the 2nd time I've spoken up for myself. She tried to turn it around somehow and say I didn't know I was in college or something but she sounded dumb and knew it I think and she backed off. I ignored her the rest of the class when she made 2 more remarks but this time I ignored feeling kind of better :)
Good job. Bullies depend upon the weak in order to get their jollies. It's no fun when their intended victim displays courage, a calm demeanor, and the unwillingness to be abused. They usually retreat and look for a weaker target when someone stands up to them.
Yeah, bullies are going to take the time to listen to that speech. Not worth the time or effort. Ignore and move on , OP
Call them out, seriously. I would say "Really? Your laughing at me? Let's talk about the fact your bullying someone in COLLEGE, why do you even have time to care? Oh yeah, because you get crappy grades and need to **** on other people to make yourself feel better. Maybe I ask "dumb questions" but then I have the highest grade in the class so you can sit down now." Lol I would totally do that, wish I went to school with you, I would do it for you! I just can believe adults act this way.
The minute she put hands on you she committed a crime. If she is an adult (legally) she can face adult consequences. You need to report and pursue this. If she doesn't face consequences she will continue to bully students. It sounds like she has the mentality of a 12 year old.
As you get older and further in an actual nursing program, you will face less and less childish behavior. Also don't worry about other people cheating. Taking care of yourself is a full time job. I remember in my A and P prerequisites (I am now in an RRT program) there was a whole row of cheaters. It is somewhat humorous that not a single individual from that row has been accepted into a single allied health program at my school (RN, RRT, Radiology, Dental Hygiene).
Remember, people who have to resort to bullying and cheating will be asking you if you want fries with that when you go to lunch in your scrubs in the future. Keep getting the best grade in the class. Those are the people who get into the end goal programs. It looks like you are on your way.
The minute she put hands on you she committed a crime. If she is an adult (legally) she can face adult consequences. You need to report and pursue this.
Yeah, I can imagine the attention the police will pay to the OP, weeks after an incident where someone "put their hands" on her. They will get right on that one, no doubt. They certainly don't have anything more pressing to attend to.
Well. I haven't had one problem since this post actually! Maybe they are too worried about finals or maybe I show a "I'm over you" attitude I am not sure probably it's the finals. As well as one of the girls saw me with my group of friends st school and she sat at a table next to us alone.
LPNtoRNin2016OH, LPN
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Why not? OP has every right to stand up for herself, this is not a threat or verbally assualting someone. Unless the classmates are saying actual threats, it's unlikely a Dean or Professor would do anything. Either she learns to stand up for herself now or she will be fall victim to the bullies she will meet in the nursing world.