I'm an RN and I'm male. I have a colleague who is the same, but is very crude regarding his comments regarding women...making comments on their anatomy and what their private genitalia must look like as he salivates over his own personal images. Really, I find it rather disgusting. I try to chalk it up as that he is about 20 years younger than I am. Personally, I don't believe comments like his belong in our type of work environment, more appropriate at a construction site. To be honest, I wouldn't trust him around my 13 yr old daughter for fear of "checking her out". One day, when he salivated over his images, eyes glassing over, of what a 15/16 yr old female visitor's "pubic hair color must be...", I turned to him and said, "How old are you?" ....hoping that this comment would jar him out of this adolescent trance (by the way, he is in his mid twenties), he turned to me and said, "Aren't you man? Don't you get urges?" I didn't even comment. I keep my urges to myself. The other nurses, female, know how this RN is, but accept it by acknowledging that he is digusting and "that is just who he is" because he is a good nurse otherwise in his skills and rapport with the docs, especially the docs who like to talk the same. Am I a prude or what?
we had to let a nurse go for such talk. The patients were not aware, but his co-workers were so put off by him, and worried about making assignments where he would be less likely to cause trouble, etc. He got to be more trouble than he was worth. Just cut him off and walk away.
Specializes in Med-Surg, Geriatric, Behavioral Health.
RNWannabe3, you captured the heart of my intent of the original post. I'm glad some folks were able to see that. I didn't intend in any way for this thread to be a nurse bashing thread of any type. Just a means to get feedback for myself. In saying this, I feel validated. Thank you.
RNWannabe3's post: "Hey man coming from a guy with some pretty crude friends... the point of the OP was simply to ask if HE was overreacting, nothing more."
Threads tend to go on tangents, 'over the river and through the woods'...don't feel badly Thunderwolf it happens. Glad you received validation and good luck to you.
I have worked in the past with men who look like that and they were behind bars for rape and pedophilia. Anyone who can lose themselves in sexual fantasy in the middle of a conversation is more than likely taking advantage of sedated patients and acting out on off hours. I wonder if there are some unsolved rapes of young females in your area?
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we had to let a nurse go for such talk. The patients were not aware, but his co-workers were so put off by him, and worried about making assignments where he would be less likely to cause trouble, etc. He got to be more trouble than he was worth. Just cut him off and walk away.