Resident copped a feel

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Today one of the residents wanted to see how tall I was, he said turn around, so I did. When I did he grabbed my rear end. two handfulls of it. I shrieked and swatted his hand away. He talks dirty but has been all bark no bite until today.

Has this ever happened to you?

I told my supervisor and we will be somehow getting him off my assignment list.

We have one guy right now who is a bit of an exhibitionist. Any time one of the female aides or nurses go into his room, oh looky here's his weiner again. No matter what for, there it is. Another aide and I were pulling him up in bed, I had the covers up to his chest. Pulled him up a little and looky there it is again. Believe me, naked guy, it's not that impressive! He's totally with it and complains if we don't stand there and talk to him while he's grunting away on the bed pan. Sorry, we have 30 other people at night and I don't want to stand here and listen to you sh!t! Far as I know he hasn't grabbed anyone yet but I don't give him the opportunity either. The night nurse told him to knock that crap off and on our shift, now he mostly behaves himself with us.

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We have a couple like that. And its not always the men who grab you in such places, just to warn you.

OOOh man you are sooo right...I float to a psych unit every so often and when I'm there there is a certain lady that just cops a feel on anyone. The first time she got me, she said, "whats that on your pants" and I look down and was like, "theres nothing there, what are you talking about ?" and she said, "right here!!" and grabbed my crotch. Now this was done at the nursing station so everyone saw. The nurses just wrote up a behaviour report on her since it wasnt during care or anything :angryfire

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Wouldnt this be considered sexual harrassment, unless some of you females like that kind of stuff and just not reporting it properly. Im not sure, but if you screamed sexual harrassment wouldnt he get fired..

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Specializes in LTC.
unless some of you females like that kind of stuff and just not reporting it properly.d..

:nono: Oh no you DIDN'T just say that. :nono:

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Had a patient simuliar to the one NM nurse to be described. He would ask me and other CNAs to play with it. I would tell him he knows better and to stop it. Then he would tell me he had candy in his night stand I could have-just play with it. He made me want to puke-I told another CNA because I did not want to be with him alone when changing him-plus he would act like he could not stand up as well as he could when transfering him. The other CNA told me he was known for the behavior and it was suppose to be reported to the nurse, also he was on probation-a pediphile that had just been released after a 17yr sentence. The stafff acted immediatley-the head administrator chewed him out and had him transfered to another facility. His last couple of days before his transfere whenever he wanted to be changed - he still made me want to puke and I deliberatley let him sit in his BM for atleast half hour if not longer. That is the only time a patient hit a nerve so bad that I did that. He still make me want to :barf01:when I think of him.

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If he/she's a dementia patient try to use your arms to defend your important parts. I have one guy with parkinsons/dementia and stroke. Luckily he has only one hand to grab me with but I feel like I'm playing basketball or something because I'm always deflecting his hand with my forearm! It's kind of funny to watch. Changing him off my assignment is not in the cards, because we're an all girl crew. Just gotta find ways around it. I hand him washcloths to wash his face (I probably make him wash his face/hands about 10 times during his care lol :) ), I give him a towel and ask him to dry off, I ask him to hold things for me (lotion bottle, deodorant, socks, shirt, etc) and for the most part it fends him off. With a confused patient, it's all about keeping their mind and hands occupied, same as with any other undesireable behavior like hitting, pinching etc.

Now if the guy is alert and oriented that is a whole other story.

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.
If he/she's a dementia patient try to use your arms to defend your important parts. I have one guy with parkinsons/dementia and stroke. Luckily he has only one hand to grab me with but I feel like I'm playing basketball or something because I'm always deflecting his hand with my forearm! It's kind of funny to watch. Changing him off my assignment is not in the cards, because we're an all girl crew. Just gotta find ways around it. I hand him washcloths to wash his face (I probably make him wash his face/hands about 10 times during his care lol :) ), I give him a towel and ask him to dry off, I ask him to hold things for me (lotion bottle, deodorant, socks, shirt, etc) and for the most part it fends him off. With a confused patient, it's all about keeping their mind and hands occupied, same as with any other undesireable behavior like hitting, pinching etc.

Now if the guy is alert and oriented that is a whole other story.

:yeah:

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:redpinkhe I don't let things like that bother me. Of course, I will let them know that they shouldn't do things like that. However, I do have one particular resident who always grabs my arm. When he does that, he usually pulls me down for a kiss and I turn my lips. At least once a day I am getting a kiss and I just brush it off.

He means to harm, he is just a sweet old man.

One day he will pass and to ever look back and think that I was mean to him for a second would hurt. As long as I know he'll die happy, I'm happy.

Worse things can happen.

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